This may be a time when your husband cannot be your primary emotional support. Consider finding a therapist, if you can. Otherwise, a close female friend or relative. Give yourself as much time as you need to process this before jumping into adoption.
When you do talk to him about it, make it clear that your grief is about how you feel about YOURSELF, not about any future adopted children.
I'm really sorry you're going through this. It may not seem like much, but the tiny silver lining is that it sounds like you and your husband are uniquely equipped to be amazing parents down the road.
Took me 8 years to propose to my wife. And we’re still together now (13 yrs, 20+ if you count dating). We did nearly divorce once but I feel like that’s not bad considering everyone else I know IS divorced by now.
This was 3 years ago. But I didn’t want to tell her the stomach comment. She kept asking me since that happened what I meant by “the standard” bc she wanted to hear me say it. So last year I finally felt like it was the right thing to do to tell her the truth. I thought it would make things better so now she would at least know, but it just made it worse. That was a year ago
He is doing two things. He is minimizing you. And he’s acting like he knows more about it than you. Great relationship!
We are more of a “go w the flow” type
Hey OP, not to defend your bf, but if u wanna stay with him, would you be able to diet/gym to fit his criteria for attractive?
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Grammar and spelling aren’t your strong suit, are they bud?
This may be a time when your husband cannot be your primary emotional support. Consider finding a therapist, if you can. Otherwise, a close female friend or relative. Give yourself as much time as you need to process this before jumping into adoption.
When you do talk to him about it, make it clear that your grief is about how you feel about YOURSELF, not about any future adopted children.
I'm really sorry you're going through this. It may not seem like much, but the tiny silver lining is that it sounds like you and your husband are uniquely equipped to be amazing parents down the road.
Took me 8 years to propose to my wife. And we’re still together now (13 yrs, 20+ if you count dating). We did nearly divorce once but I feel like that’s not bad considering everyone else I know IS divorced by now.
If her mother know about this or not.
This was 3 years ago. But I didn’t want to tell her the stomach comment. She kept asking me since that happened what I meant by “the standard” bc she wanted to hear me say it. So last year I finally felt like it was the right thing to do to tell her the truth. I thought it would make things better so now she would at least know, but it just made it worse. That was a year ago