You weren’t in the wrong to not be in the mood for sex, but anticipate that you’re probably going to be one of those couples that ends up in r/deadbedrooms eventually.
I understand you are ok with him not being involved, but you need to be realistic. Whatever his decision, you need to get with a lawyer and make a plan. Include him in it or at least let him know if he’s not interested in parenting that you plan to see a lawyer. You never know what someone else will do. You need to protect yourself and your child. If he is going to be involved, best to develop a custody agreement, child support, etc. don’t leave it to verbal agreements.
Frankly it sounds like you two are incompatible. It is clear his love language is touch, and you have a deep rooted issue with being touched. Perhaps therapy can work and help you at least uncover the why, and address with how to bypass if you so wish. But if you can't resolve this, then it may well mean you two are incompatible, and would be better off as friends.
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Protect your child from literal pain. The grandparents are not important in this situation. Hire a babysitter of find some other solution.
You weren’t in the wrong to not be in the mood for sex, but anticipate that you’re probably going to be one of those couples that ends up in r/deadbedrooms eventually.
I understand you are ok with him not being involved, but you need to be realistic. Whatever his decision, you need to get with a lawyer and make a plan. Include him in it or at least let him know if he’s not interested in parenting that you plan to see a lawyer. You never know what someone else will do. You need to protect yourself and your child. If he is going to be involved, best to develop a custody agreement, child support, etc. don’t leave it to verbal agreements.
You will find someone amazing who cares about you more than you can imagine. Stay strong girl!
Why?
If you’re in the states you could’ve just shot her right? Well now I guess you just have to settle for dumping her crazy ass.
Keep a diary and record if possible every single action he does
Change your number and move.
Frankly it sounds like you two are incompatible. It is clear his love language is touch, and you have a deep rooted issue with being touched. Perhaps therapy can work and help you at least uncover the why, and address with how to bypass if you so wish. But if you can't resolve this, then it may well mean you two are incompatible, and would be better off as friends.