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I call her my fiance because we haven't had a wedding yet we are legally married by the state of Texas we have to file for divorce in order to break up a wedding ranges from 8-20k she has a big family and so do I I'm not giving her a half ass wedding
I don't think it's ever too early to open up lines of communication about what you're thinking. I mean, I can see her being offended if you tried to have sex with her, but just asking? This is ridiculous. What is she trying to do here? Set a precedent that forbids talking about things? Like there are topics that you're supposed to know are off limits without talking about them? She needs to grow up. How are you supposed to know her boundaries if she's going to get upset when you ask about them?
“Might be” poly isn’t an excuse for hiding your relationship or flurrying with other people. It doesn’t mean she can do what she wants like that. She needs to give a real answer, though I’m guessing you’re not going to like it.
Just ask them if you arent invited it's their loss . I know it must feel shitty but you're better off without the ppl that dont include you in important occasions. Walk away. With head held high.
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My boyfriend can touch me any time. If I say I'm not into the mood, he'll just stop. That's not assault. That's just a relationship.
OP – you are seriously overdoing this. It's super fucking overly dramatic.
I would, in terms that leave absolutely nothing to the imagination, term her cousin exactly how far off she can fuck.
You guys are nearly 40, and don't know what to say to an obnoxious, nosey relative?
“When you are part of this marriage, you get to have a say”
“I'm 18,he is 24” It's a red flag. I didn't even need to read the rest(I did,so there is no confusion). You need to cut him off completely, before he starts to act more possessive than he already is.
Plus the military will not be ok with this relationship
Therapy can be helpful.
I don't think you owe him anything. Just because he has feelings that he decided to inappropriately dump on you after two years of no contact, doesn't mean that you owe him a response or a rejection. If you still feel obligated, keep it simple and clean, and then close the door on the conversation.
“I don't feel the same, and would appreciate if you don't bring this up again.”
It may feel harsh, but a firm rejection will do him more good than something soft-pedaled and ambiguous.
It's a mistake to think that you can change him to what you want in a partner, You should think about finding someone who's already what you want.
You should report the crime in all its detail to the police. Talk to your boyfriend and try to get him to go to the police, the guy needs to be caught. This is an awful sexual assault, and you boyfriend needs counselling and to recover. I hope you haven’t made this up- I wonder the guy could hold his gun trained in you when he ejaculated, but I wasn’t there.
They might be reversible but that doesn’t mean it will work. The longer he goes without reversing the less likely a reversal will work.
How did your girlfriend see your messages with Sarah?
other than the excessive attempts at making conversation with girls who post porn on reddit
Yes
You clearly fell out of love and thats okay.
Cuddling while still together is a little sus, but you ended things and seem to have been honest with the ex about it.
However, why go back? You chased a spark, how do you feel about your old relationship now? How was the old relationship making your life better?
In all honestly though, I would recommend moving on and exploring even more romantic Interests! The first girl friend you have usually does not end up being the one. That is the whole point of dating too!
Goodluck with your choice OP!
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Come on, friend. Let’s be real…
Cause it doesn't look good if she was right all along
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IMO showing up 3 hours late with no notice and while remaining intentionally unreachable is not a minor fault, it's a major sign of disrespect. Would you ever do that to him? If not, why not?
Tell him if he wants to go raw get a vasectomy that can’t be reversed.
it’s not going to just work itself out and she’ll be magically cured one day. if this is a dealbreaker for you before engagement then it’s a dealbreaker for you after marriage also. it doesn’t make you a bad person to leave, you guys just aren’t compatible. don’t be in a marriage where you hold resentment about “that one time you elbowed me so nude it bruised me” and it WILL come out during a random fight sooner or later.
My experience? (I am old) – people have to learn the nude way on their own and trash talking their SO sometimes ends the friendship.
Ask her out.
Did you miss the part where op said they haven't had sex in 2 years? She's getting dnb'ed if you know what I mean
I didnt know about this website! It seems amazing, i'll look more into it. And thanks for reaffirming that it is ok for him to have more energy than me sometimes, we will talk more about this.
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He needs to grow up
Your sister is acting like a spoiled brat. Not only was your depression kicking your ass, but everyone in your house was super sick! And that's dangerous for premies like your sister's twins! She's old enough to understand this!
I think it's time for one final text.
“I'm sorry that everyone thinks I was lying about my health when the twins were born. I had hoped that everyone would be mature enough to understand that premature infants are often more susceptible to viruses, and I hoped everyone would be capable of respecting my desire to not risk infecting them. Seeing as that is not the case, I will remove myself from the situation until such time as everyone involved grows up and apologizes for acting like a bunch of spoiled toddlers over the fact that I did not want to risk the twins catching what I had. Good bye.”
Thank you. He does, and he tells me his valid reasons. And i understand, i would be the same. He has a very lenient family, a loving one too. If I was in his position, having no rush or financial commitment to family, I would be the same.
Staying with her is going to be more harmful towards the baby. There’s no reason why you can’t be a great parent without her
Dont confront your parents. Dont argue with them. Keep your head down, finish whatever schooling you are going to get, get a job save up for an apt. Then move out and stop talking to them.
The most important thing is to complete your education. Keep your focus on that.
Your first mistake was getting involved with someone who's mother doesn't like you.
She will always be there to poisen the well. I would move on if I was you. You don't want to live your life being outnumbered
What I got out of that post is you have mentally abused him for 11.5 years. You had a nice week because you finally let up. You both managed while he was taking the abuse. Now that he is finally over it and refusing to accept it any longer, you are wondering whether you should try to change or just move on? Probably the latter. You wore him down to the nub.
I’ve said dumb things to my gfs parents, but I’ve never been dumb enough (I had social anxiety)to make a sexual joke when I was young
Your opinion is wrong.
No it isn’t. It’s an opinion. You can’t have a wrong opinion. You can disagree with his opinion, which you obviously do, but that’s still his opinion. It’s neither right nor wrong, just different to yours.
And if you believe it’s not possible to ask questions in a non accusatory way then I suggest you do a few courses on negotiation techniques to learn how it can be done.
That’s what they tell her.
People in this sub really truly have no clue what it’s like trying to deal with the police. “This is a civil matter” is the most they’d get.
If she was hurting anyone, it would be a different story. The fact that you can’t see the difference between a hitman and a prostitute is insane.
Why can't you visit her at her house for short periods? Like go by for an hour to have tea and bring something?
What kind of dumb things do you friends say that would upset your wife? Are they things … about your wife? Or about other women?
I had a guy friend do similar. Once he found out I was moving in with my boyfriend he just kind of disappeared. Looking back he probably had romantic intentions and orbited me and my other friend in hopes of getting lucky. This guy didn’t have much success with women and befriended girls with the hope of fucking them. Never worked and he’s been single for a long time. Once he figured out that wasn’t going to ever happen he removed himself to avoid any more frustration.
This guy dipped in a cowardly way, and probably has done this to many others in his life. It’s unfortunate and will sting for a bit but understand that it’s his problem and not yours. If he cared he would have addressed his concerns, but instead he just didn’t have the guts to confront you about his true feelings.
You will find better friends and better people to fill that void. You sounded like a good friend – I’m sorry he couldn’t keep things platonic and simple. It’s really nude to maintain friendships with the opposite sex sometimes, it can get very complicated m
she’s definitely not right, i see her view but OP had explicitly mentioned wanting to by the watch for himself and he has a pretty damn good reason for it too that i completely 100% understand because it’s meaningful for him in a different way.
she should’ve gotten him something else, and not buy something he mentioned wanting to buy for himself with his own money. ESPECIALLY after his reaction to her mentioning she tried to buy it for him.
she’s definitely not right, i see her view but OP had explicitly mentioned wanting to by the watch for himself and he has a pretty damn good reason for it too that i completely 100% understand because it’s meaningful for him in a different way.
she should’ve gotten him something else, and not buy something he mentioned wanting to buy for himself with his own money. ESPECIALLY after his reaction to her mentioning she tried to buy it for him.
You can tell him that you aren't ready to move in together yet, but it is something that you would like to do when you are ready.
It seems like a very weird, pointless lie; it’s not like he should be embarrassed to only have 150k saved up, it’s still more than you did. What was his explanation for it?
You went from posting about a “friends with benefits” situation to being engaged in less than a year. Maybe you should slow things down a bit.
my dad used to walk around wearing only boxers. i saw way more than i ever wanted to, on a number of occasions. i’d say at LEAST make sure you’re wearing shorts/pants, just so she doesn’t catch an accidental glimpse of your family jewels.
Can he try doing executive MBA instead? Means staying at his current job if the employer is truly high level, going to few locations worldwide for weeks at the time but no need to uproot your life.
It sounds though like one of you is a home person focused on family and another is an ambitious one with dreams to prove their value in the world. Not impossible (I am in a similar place, but the other way around, even though I am a woman, I am the one set on big things and best education) but takes some planning, compromises, love and good communication between the partners to figure it out.
Re regular MBA – in Europe or US, it’s a great opportunity to build up towards one’s career and future. Takes less than 2 yrs and you’re only 30yo so there’s plenty of time for kids. Living together abroad, challenging situations – this can be a great opportunity to grow even closer with your SO and have an adventure of a lifetime. Plus it’s not a hobby your hubby wants to explore but a way to be even better provider for you and your future bigger family. Don’t dismiss it too easily.
Your best friends bf is more a paedophile than you are.
She has maybe been accused of being groomed by her bf so is now turning it on you.
Sounds like she’s made her decision that she no longer wants to to be friends and is using this as an excuse.
Leave her alone for now. She may come round, but be prepared for her to not come back from this.
You want to or you’re going to?
They believe I consider myself catholic, but they do know I do not attend a church. This is a really complicated topic in my family due to the long gap of not practicing religion at all so between my parents and siblings, we all just avoid the subject. However, that rule apparently does not apply to wedding ceremonies. I have never specifically told them I reject the religious affiliation because doing that essentially forces them to acknowledge they failed to raise their child Catholic which makes them defensive and upset.
So they know I’m not a true Catholic but they don’t know to what extent.
Shooting your shot= attempting to hang out, go on a date, whatever
Sounds like you’ve got a good chance
What part of this is victim blaming exactly? The commenter is saying it’s operating illegally, and that the massager may be a victim too, of sex trafficking. The comment does not put any blame on OP. If this post is true, yes OP is a victim, but he may not be the only victim here
So cheating is acceptable behavior?
Because if it's not acceptable then the people that do it wouldn't stay around. Staying means acceptance.
If someone in your circle does something you know about, and you continue hanging around them then you accept that behavior.
If you really have that low standards for yourself, then expect partners to leave. If you're willing to nuke your relationships over this, go at it. Don't complain when no one else stays around – because being accepting of cheaters is itself an unacceptable thing for most.
Right!
YTA. Also, you're a racist.
Op it doesn’t matter how tall or big you are no one deserves to be hit. As a woman who is 46 and 5’3 I can not understand putting hands on my partner in any way but love. You did the right thing. Hang in there op. ❤️❤️
Break up. You can expect a lifetime of her behavior
Nah. She told me this guy's name, & later admitted that he has feelings for her. They've been friends for 4 years evidently.
This whole “who could possibly imagine people hooking up at a club?!” thing you're trying to pull is really strange. You know people go to clubs to hook up. Pretending not to know that harms your case.
Are you really 26? You act like you're 18.
“I just dance! I'm a perfect blameless princess!!” Yeah, sure you are. You don't drink or do drugs or anything while you're out, right? Oh you do? So you like to go to places where people go to get intoxicated and hook up, while you're intoxicated and for SOME UNKNOWN REASON your boyfriend doesn't like it.
Do him a favor and break up so he doesn't have to deal with someone like you and can find someone who doesn't stomp through his boundaries and wonder why he doesn't like it.
And also a good point on not projecting it onto the relationship creating an issue where there shouldn’t be. Thank you for the reality check!
It took me years to be able to by feminine hygiene products and not feel like I needed to hide them under everything else in the basket–out of fear someone would notice that I bleed 🙁 I was raised to be ashamed of my body–and having been sexually molested in my childhood (more than once) and losing my virginity at 13 yrs old, to rape….it did a number on my mind and how I view my body in relation to any form of sexuality or even just…period. It's a shame that goes deep within the soul. I never thought about it before…you definitely don't see penis-care products out there. But there damn sure is a whole isle dedicated to products that are guaranteed to give most women an infection upon use…just so she can cover her natural smell because it's gross. To have men put so much emphasis on your body and how you maintain it…is gross.
Maybe you can offer a compromise, like once a week you meet him at the park and let them spend time together?
rage bait makes people rage.
Sounds like you got a case of the jellies.
Someone who is being used
She's asking for relationship advice lol, what do you mean? How am I not supposed to be judgemental? We're literally taking her comment and judging her by giving advice. And have you been pregnant ? Why does that matter?
The decision relies on her but the father will have to make child support payments if she keeps this kid, that's totally fair. ?
But my point is that she can still have that life with a man that will actually be with her, with a stable home/income. I'm saying she really needs to think about the consequences for this and what will happen if the father rejects the child. Why bring a kid into this world that may be resented by their father?? I have numerous cousins who were raised like this and it's absolutely awful to their self esteem, and affects them well into adulthood.
The fact that you're so mad that someone is being realistic about the situation she's in shows you don't actually know how it is to be in her situation.
He cheated on you, plain and simple. Which is even worse when you already told him that he could come talk to you and you'd figure out what to do if he felt he wanted to explore that part.
Since you said that you want to work through it, here's a subreddit for people who want to try to make things work after an affair: r/AsOneAfterInfidelity
The fact that you are approaching this as if you are the problem and he isn't, is very telling. By always arguing with you, rather than hearing you out, he has manipulated you to the point that you think you are the problem. You aren't. The problem is that he is an asshole and that you two shouldn't be together.
Please leave. Your behaviour is really alarming. It sounds like it is time to make this “break” an unambiguous break up and spend some time single.
Also I think it might be a cultural thing, assuming you're US based? Trust me, where I live the whole 'be a man' and 'man up' bullshit is almost non-existent. Not everyone is bad
Should I text her cell directly or give her the option to text my cell?
I wonder why this trend started? If you want to break the cycle, you may need to source out WHY he does this. I’d venture to say you roped mom into one of your spats at some point so now he tries to get in front of it.
With that being said, this sounds rather crazy to me and I would never be with somebody who airs dirty laundry to my family over minor infractions. I only offered advice IF you wish to try and fix this problem. I highly doubt anybody would blame you if you just walked away entirely.
Have you asked her when and how it came about that she sleeps nude?
Who influenced that? Did SD have a part in that conversation?
You refuse to communicate with Lara (I just put up a facade), then you're upset the whole trip.
You claim your mother, your sister, and Lara “can tell” if something is wrong, but apparently that's not true as Lara couldn't tell and even said, “I think the trip went well, right?”
For everyone saying Lara is a poor communicator, I'd say you're just as poor at communication. Then you simmer with resentment. Then you force her to beg you for a half hour to tell her what's wrong. Then you finally tell her you resent Jenna being on the trip! UGH! You're both absurd!
Get into some couples counseling to figure out where your boundaries ought to be and how to communicate with each other!!
Oh, Hon, I'm sorry, thats so upsetting. I have a similar situation, and although I'd never leave over a health condition, and I certainly don't blame him, sometimes I definitely get frustrated about it.
I know its not a perfect solution, but taking care of it myself does help me for the purely physical issues. Is that something you can do without upsetting him, or just discretely?
Don’t eat other peoples food without asking. ? and half the bag bruhhhhhh it’s already half filled with air. Your an ass just for that. ???and 2 months and just bought groceries and here you are eating it all up.
You need to understand that when you lay out a laundry (no pun intended here which is ironic) list of issues followed by saying “the dilemma however is this;” you're beyond making an assumption that you're in a healthy relationship and that it's this one specific issue where solving it changes everything. Quite frankly, it's a bit odd that you think of all issues that this one is the deal breaker (not that it isn't one).
Almost everyone comes here making the argument you're here making; “when things are good, they're really good.” Awesome. But that's not why you stay in a relationship. You stay in a relationship because the good is great, and when there's bad, you work as a team to sustainably remediate the issue so that the bad isn't a pattern and constant problem. The families getting along, growing up together, and having the same references are completely irrelevant in that regard.
People have a misconception about how healthy relationships work. They think it's about the good outweighing the bad. It's not. It's about knowing whether or not the “bad” is a legitimate issue that can't be addressed, and more importantly, whether you want to deal with that behavior forever.
To put things into perspective, when all is good it's great. Your families love each other and the fact that you're together. Awesome. Does that change the fact that she's constantly negative? Does it change the fact that you can't have a life outside of her? Does it change the fact that she's stubborn? Does it change the fact that she's a cryer and blows everything out of proportion? That's someone who's easy to talk to?
I’m glad you guys talked it out and you’re feeling better about everything. 🙂
Step 1: Check your toxicity. You’re not her savior, and you’re barely even dating. It’s great that you want to help her, but you can’t force it on her. You can offer, but by no means should you be like everyone else in her life and just expect her to acquiesce.
You have described someone who you see as frequently being taken advantage of by others. Just because you are trying to help her, doesn’t mean you’re not doing the same thing as everyone else. Your goals may be benevolent, but it can result it the same effect.
While I will agree that work-life balance is imperative to a healthy existence, you’re both 23, and in her case, her schedule is temporary as she works to achieve her goals.
This is absolutely not a reason to stay in a toxic relationship. She needs professional mental health support not a boyfriend if she’s actually going to kill herself over a break up at 19.
She wasn’t too happy about it, but we really haven’t been on good terms as of late.
His grandpa's bday is coming soon and he doesn't want to go. But his grandpa has had some health problems. I've been pushing him to go but it physically hurts me to tell him to go.
I suppose you're right, his mom never liked any of his girlfriends and mentions how she didn't like them in front of me. Also, I said they are racist but I don't even think they are conscious of it ? They think they are showing interest in my culture and when they critize my hair for being frizzy, I think they think it as a favor in order to make me fix it ?
Thank you for your reply.
Never do plastic surgery for someone else. Only for yourself. He is a loser.
I’m sure the vast majority of comments will be berating or attacking you, which won’t be helpful to you at all. Ignore those comments because they aren’t really meant for you, they are meant to make the commenters feel somehow superior or better than you. Let me try to give you some actual advice you may find helpful:
It's understandable that your wife is hurt and upset by your comment, and it may take some time for her to regain her trust in you. However, there is hope for your relationship if you are willing to take responsibility for your actions and make a sincere effort to repair the damage.
Firstly, it's important that you continue to express to your wife that you find her attractive and beautiful. Tell her specifically what you love about her body and her personality. Be patient and understanding as she may still be processing the hurt from your previous comment.
It's also important to acknowledge and take responsibility for the hurt you caused. Apologize for your past behavior and be willing to listen to your wife's feelings and concerns. Don't make excuses or try to minimize the impact of your actions. Acknowledge that you made a mistake and that you're committed to doing better in the future.
In addition, you might consider couples therapy to work through any underlying issues in your relationship and to develop better communication skills. A therapist can help you both to understand each other's perspective and to develop strategies for building trust and intimacy.
Remember that repairing trust takes time, effort, and patience. It's important that you continue to show your wife through your actions that you are committed to making things right and that you value her and your relationship.
Yea so he fd her bc he was mad.
See an ob/gyn.
It's not normal to have cramps so painful you have to miss work. Usually by 20, the cramps should have eased up.
So either you just need to wait a bit and it'll come down, or there's a medical reason why it still hurts so much. You could have endo or you could be underweight or iron deficient or something else. Most doctors in America are quick to dismiss your pain and just put you on birth control. But there are other solutions you can try before having to resort to that, and a good doctor would help you.
Birth control does have short and long term side effects so your apprehension is absolutely understandable and smart.
As for your bf, a lot of women themselves aren't educated about birth control and period pain. Have a conversation about it and if he genuinely listens and cares enough to educate himself, only then is he worth your time.
My friend did this growing up, all that calcium gave her insane kidney stones.
Her boyfriend does deserve to know, but it's not necessarily your job to tell him. You'd be imploding your friendship, because she would find out it was you who told him.
Your friend did something bad, and it's up to you to decide if it's worth it to tell him.
Sadly he is not considering your needs.
So, if you don't want him back, why are you tying yourself in knots over him? I think your ex didn't want to be married, maybe he realised after a year that he'd made a mistake. So his answer was to stop having sex with you &, if that didn't make you leave him, he then started neglecting his personal hygiene. He didn't want to be the bad guy & end the marriage so he forced you into it. If he's not married, 8 years later, & has 2 girlfriends then there's your answer. He wanted to be single, not be faithful to one person. It's, absolutely, nothing about you that he did this, it's totally all about him & his choices. I'm sure he loved you but knew he couldn't be faithful. You've had a lucky escape from years of misery at his cheating lifestyle. Thank your lucky stars that you've got a lovely husband & wonderful children, you're blessed.
Look up weaponised incompetence. That's what he's doing.
You continue to do absolutely everything for him, he'll continue to not do a amn thing. Frankly, he's got a great life so why would he change it.
You need to discuss him splitting the household tasks otherwise he's going to sit on his arse being treated like a king while you resent him more and more, which will most likely end in a split.
Good luck.
If her husband is coming to visit her that much, especially at night, I don’t think they’re all that separated
But they’re an ACTUAL psychologist!
In the moment of heat, his peepee fell into his hoohoo.
Girls can neg too, this was just her own anxiety over possibly being cheated on. But you shouldn’t put up with that in the future. Pay attention and say, this feels like negging the next time.
Mate, just don't, firstly you won't be able to fwb because you are emotionally invested and don't have closure.
I would either block her and move on or tell her you would consider it but you need her to be transparent with you about the breakup, because it's not resolved for you. You might get an answer and then you can move on.
But ultimately I think it's a bad idea.
Good luck
First, there’s no situation that drinking won’t make worse. Second, you have to get a job. You don’t have any options until you have some steady money coming in. It sounds like this woman doesn’t bring any value to your or your daughter’s life. Make yourself as independent and strong as possible, then decide how little you are willing to accept out of this partner.
I'm asking asking about precedent, not priority. They are very different as priority is situational right but how you place relationships in importance in your life is what I would like to know.
If you have some money, maybe consider cooking blankets, pillows, even sheets. And when you’re ready to upgrade your mattress get one that helps keep you from overheating. Trust me, it’s a lifesaver!
Sweetie, you're young and don't know any better that a “man” (and I hesitate to call him that because a REAL man wouldn't treat his GF like your BF treats you) doesn't behave like this with his GF. He treats her with respect, and doesn't denigrate her simply because of her accent.
Find another BF and don't put up with a boy who doesn't understand how to treat his woman better. And don't you dare feel badly for HIS bad behavior. Don't do it! Kick his ass to the curb, and don't look back.
There are plenty more fish in the sea, if you get my meaning. Now rock on with your bad self, and remember to treat others the way in which you wish to be treated. And don't accept being treated less than that.
Well this is dramatic.
His friend Ty did, 13 years ago, and I told my BF and he didn't appreciate the details. I guess he appreciated that I told him but not all the other details. I feel like if I just told him, “hey, ty and I had a quick thing, it didn't mean anything, but I wanted to let you know. ” he wouldn't believe me, no one else has so now I give way to much detail so prevent that from happening but now it's causing new problems
Homeownership/business ownership require an amount of commitment similar to a marriage, and they can really tie you down if you have to negotiate the withdrawal of another party. At the very least there should be no discussion of owning a home as long as the mother is still living with you, only renting so that someone can exit with greater ease and less financial impact. And ideally the fall of buying a home together should be occurring alongside the talk about getting married.
If you bought a home together, but unmarried, and something happened to your boyfriend then his mother might have a claim to his share of the house as his parent. But if you’re married and both on the deed then in many cases the house would pass directly to you without having to go through probate or becoming part of his estate.
I'd say stop looking for romance etc. Work on yourself and work through your grief, talk to someone about it if haven't already. Talking about this stuff really helps.
Why did you leave? Did she own the bar?
Thanks
Im surprised at people saying this is concerning, i thought it was normal but it made me nervous. I feel like if i set boundaries he will say its my fault
Ummmm hate to tell you but your boyfriend is not only insecure but manipulative. The whole asking you if men compliment you is trying to figure out how attractive you are and honestly, would be surprised if that's where some of his comments come from to try and keep you from being attractive to others. Then the whole telling you how to do your hair and what to wear? Its one thing if I told my gf that I'd like it if she wore a dress that I absolutely loved to go out for a special request but to tell her what she should wear and how she does her hair, no that's no say for anyone but you
Some people are just like that, and in my experience, these same people tend to have anger management issues.
I'd be more concerned about her being trafficked. You sound too insecure and concerned about yourself more than her. Anyways it sounds really sketchy and if she doesn't care than you shouldn't care (about her) either. Time to move on, after she comes back (worry for her safety until then). Good luck
I have seen it happen where the friends think they are being courteous, not pushing between two people who have just started dating. She needs to talk to them. If you are encouraging her to not focus so much on you and to go do her own thing then you are being as supportive as you can, and need to just step back and let her figure out what is going on.