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Sometimes splitting up is for the best. My father has cheated on my mother before they even married, learned about a whole secret step family i never knew about till i was about 6, then later on figured out that happens because of cheating, my mother would end up staying with him anyway because of us kids but it made our life a living hell. He'd continue to cheat, shed continue to cry and get depressed, and us kids would continue to see this broken house and stay out with friends, work, or school for as long as we could just to stay away. She would've found someone she deserves if she had left the first time she knew he cheated, we all would've been so much happier, we all would've had the choice of who to stay with, we wouldn't have to hear the yelling, threats, infidelity, crying, screaming, or death/suicide threats every day.
You need to bail out asap
She is going on dates with this guy. Donât let her try to shame you. I would tell her she can be friends with this guy but our relationship is over.
I think you need to be clear and concise and to the point. Be assertive but respectful to your relationship. Stand up for yourself without necessarily putting him down.
Make your intentions clear.
If the dynamic of your relationship is to block exs thatâs fine, thatâs your prerogative. But it cannot be one sided, he needs to go no contact and block his ex.
If he says anything other than okay, then you need to bring up the double standard. If he still isnât budging then just lean into this shit and get petty. Pettiness isnât the best move BUT it makes shit clear quick.
If he wonât block his ex, then you unblock your ex.
If he isnât attracted to his ex, then neither were you.
If he has clothing that he wears from an ex that bothers you, time to whip out that hoodie from the past.
Again, not advised to be petty but as a last resort sort of move it can work.
But I would try open communication with him first.
I think you need to be clear and concise and to the point. Be assertive but respectful to your relationship. Stand up for yourself without necessarily putting him down.
Make your intentions clear.
If the dynamic of your relationship is to block exs thatâs fine, thatâs your prerogative. But it cannot be one sided, he needs to go no contact and block his ex.
If he says anything other than okay, then you need to bring up the double standard. If he still isnât budging then just lean into this shit and get petty. Pettiness isnât the best move BUT it makes shit clear quick.
If he wonât block his ex, then you unblock your ex.
If he isnât attracted to his ex, then neither were you.
If he has clothing that he wears from an ex that bothers you, time to whip out that hoodie from the past.
Again, not advised to be petty but as a last resort sort of move it can work.
But I would try open communication with him first.
My ex did this to me, “its either the cats or me”, show him the door
Savage, I like it.
You're the boss? That's creepy AS FUCK.
How does it make it less special? I'm still trying to figure out her though process
Un abrazo fuerte⌠our Mex moms can sometimes be cruel. With that said, my therapist gives me wonderful tools to work with and deal with my moms behavior. One of those tools includes getting curious. âWhy would you do that? What was the point? What were you trying to prove? Did you even think that throughâ questions you can ask your mom when yourâre in a calm state of mind. Youâre an adult now and you can very easily mother and love and take care of yourself, because our moms sometimes failed us.
Get curious about her motivations too. Did she ever have a quinceaĂąera? How was her relationship with her mom and her grandma? What is it in her past that now creates the behavior that she exhibits?
Mom and I once got into a yelling match where I was crying and she was making fun of me. I told her that if she continues her behavior it creates this damn hurtful loop, and Iâm not participating. I chose forgiveness, even though I was angry, because I had said my peace and doggoneit I still have love for my mom. Sheâs human and fallible. It sucks to come to this stage in life where we turn into our parents parents.
You aren't responsible for whether she is hurt or not. You don't need to and shouldn't be in this situation. Don't stay with her to your detriment.
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Same I always thought looking through ur partners phone is honestly ridiculous. Shit I remember my ex was all like “yeW kAn lOok ThRu mAh FoNe, idC”..cause I was using it for something
I kindly rejected and gave her the phone back.
Also, yes, speak to your bestie directly.
I swear narcissists follow the same script. Like they have meetings and stuff.
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Nailed it in the first paragraph and I should know (check my history for reference) and she was upfront from the beginning about it (different setup than the OPâs future ex aka she was a cam girl).
Why that's complete bullshit. You can and should leave.
Confront her. My ex turned off her map. Blocked me on snap during the night and added me in the morning. She cheated on me. Told me what she did. I told her to stop telling me and she wouldnât. Then she told me she will always love me. Bullshit. If ur gut is telling u something, follow it and get out of the relationship if you are certain she is cheating. My hearts broken and idk how to love again but Iâm working on it. Iâll make sure she regrets it by being successful, wealthy and happy. Thatâs the best revenge. Theyâll lead a sad miserable life. Well be the ones with a beautiful loving family and theyâll wish they never did what they did. Goodluck
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yeah, they are getting what they deserved.
nope, she kicked his ass with passion.
Because some people are ass holes. I wouldn't waste time trying to impress people who don't show you the same kindess you give them.
Itâs a deal he walked into. If he wasnât down for it they shouldnât have married.
Iâve never been to the area youâre asking about so I canât give you any advice there, but I wanted to drop in to say how sweet this is. Your wife sounds like a keeper and so do you! I wish there were more posts like this here.
Congratulations on your recentish wedding and your little one on the way. Sending you all the good vibes for a great vacation and happy life together.
Also, if those are your cakes in your posts?!? 100/10 they look amazing. It looks like youâre going to be super successful with this.
Good luck with everything! â¨
Thats why i said you are insecure. What does your mom being shitty yo your dad have to do with this woman? Either you trust HER OR YOU DONT. And you sound like you dont. You are projecting your issues w your folks infidelity onto her and not only unfair it pushes your responsibility to address the issue (in therapy is my suggestion) onto her. You are being a bad partner. This is a you issue.
Thank you! Yes Iâm starting to see I need more therapy. I did it last year from a DV shelter and she had to go. Now I have therapy for a different trauma. But because of everything I canât tell whatâs best for me or trust myself. Youâre so right I donât have any confidence and feel lost. Thank you for your response. Iâm trying to wrap my mind around leaving but we will see. Iâm hoping he will get better. Rn my partner is nice and supportive and said he will stop hurting me even if I deserve it but I hope it will. If not not sure I can handle one more incident.
Iâm so sorry. Take care of yourself. Please get an attorney and protect yourself legally.
You can't afford an extra $20 in gas but you can somehow afford ~$1,500/mo to feed/cloth/care for a kid? Please do not bring a child into this world.
She doesnât celebrate holidays. You knew this and still scheduled a NYE party. Stop trying to change her and accept who she is and what she values. If you wanted to spend time with her tonight, you wouldnât have planned a party.
itâs very hot to do that heâs literally close with my whole family and iâve known him since i was 6 , itâs just a tough situation to be in
Yall seem to forget that theyâre the same age yet heâs the only one paying all the bills. Love languages are a 2 way street. Op what does SHE do for you? Does she buy you gifts or take you out? What does she even bring to the table? Youâre dating a child, ask her to go look for a sugar daddy. Tbh you way too young to tolerate this shit
Ok, then please disregard most of my previous comment. đ
I grew up with dogs, but am a fully-fledged cat person and has only owned cats ever since I moved out of my family home, so I would be happy to address any specific concerns if you can elaborate on your expectations / fears a bit.
I think a good first step would be to look into cat training to get a sense of what's realistic and what's not. It's largely true that cats can't be trained to the same extend as dogs, but the idea that they can't be trained at all is ludicrous.
I my general experience, if you make sure that the cat has the right living conditions and is well entertained, then it will largely leave your things alone and won't wreck having with the things you don't want it to touch.
For example, cats need to be able to climb, but you can absolutely control what they climb and what they don't. If they have their own space to climb, they probably won't climb yours. And on the off chance that they do, you can always hide your most precious trinkets behind glass in showcase type furniture (what's that in English?).
I honestly think it makes total sense why there are so many posts like this and why so many women ask these questions. Misogyny is so baked into our daily lives, so utterly normalized, and in many cases even accepted and encouraged, that I'm not surprised women still struggle to take it as seriously as it deserves to be, or to even recognize it when it happens.
Hell, I've worked in the DV field for nearly a decade and am an abuse survivor myself, and I still have moments of questioning my perceptions when I experience [insert misogynistic experience or interaction here] with men. Like, “Maybe I'm overreacting or exaggerating,” which is exactly what so many men who engage in behavior like this want us to think.
Who gives a fuck if they were broken up. Yeah she can sleep with whoever she wants, but he doesnât have to like it. Fuck these people OP.
That's very low character of her to not visit you. Definitely not wife material.
“House” party indeed, I wonder what the name of the man who lives there is?
Just have a party and order a cake. You can do all of that without the marriage and without spending a lot of money. If it ainât broke, donât just have a wedding for the sake of having a wedding. Call it an anniversary party or something.
These are the conversations you need to have with her.
If the church is important to her you will not be able to have a life with her without joining.
If it's not important you'll be fine but these are things you need to talk about with her.
And now she's going to have a kid with this creep who will definitely cheat on her and the cycle will continue.
He doesnât need your approval about anything he feels.
This is a cultural difference. Your mom sees herself as a member of your family/household. Sure, she sleeps elsewhere, but she fully shares the household responsibilities, picking the kids up from school three times as much as you, your husband or the other grandparents do, watching the kids after school, cooking multiple meals a week, doing after dinner clean up and bath time. Your husband sees her as a free chauffeur and babysitter who should leave as soon as her presence no longer benefits him. But I completely understand why you think it would be hurtful and unkind to tell her that. And I disagree with the people implying that if you donât give in to your husband on this youâre a bad wife. Especially if you and the kids appreciate having your mom around. But, it is your husbandâs house, too. Maybe you can compromise? Send your mom home earlier one or 2 nights a week? You could tell her how much you appreciate everything she does for you and the kids, and that you love spending time with her, but you guys want to start some of your own family traditions and youâre going to do âWednesday family nightsâ just you, hubby and the kids, or whatever. Anyway, my point is, I think there are ways to honor your husbandâs reasonable desire for some MIL-free home life without treating your mom like a servant that you dismiss as soon as sheâs no longer useful to you.
If you include zero need for sex with all other forms physical intimacy, then you might be asexual. In any case you two need to discuss your different levels of needs for affection and intimacy. There really isn't another way to deal with this. Best to you.
This sounds very much like my ex and his mother as well. Im so sorry to hear that yet ANOTHER woman is being vilified, because mommyâs precious baby boy doesnât understand ânoâ.
Talk to her parents and tell them she is threatening suicide. She will probably deny it to them but at least she will know you wonât put up with it. If she threatens to harm you, call the police and say you are afraid for your safety. If she says she will ruin your life, tell her you can also ruin hers and you have proof she is dangerous. Fight fire with fire. She chases you in the park, turn around and stand up to her. Ask a witness to call the police because she is harassing you. Get a backbone and stop letting her control you.
He needs to tell her point blank it is not going to be reciprocated and to not make advances at him. Politely. Tell her to skip a couple game nights if she needs to but sheâs welcome otherwise.
Sheâs the awkward one- yâall are fine if he sets that firm boundary.
I had a “toxic” friend in high school. My DH (he was only a friend at the time) told me that he thought she was a “user of people” and “batshit crazy on top of that.” I brushed it off at the time and we remained friends…. Until that fateful day that I had to tell her NO to something she felt she had the right to interfere in…. she cursed me up one side and down the other, called me every vile name she could think of – because how DARE I deny her something she wanted? He was right. On every count. But until she turned her ire on me, I was blind to it.
I hope your gf sees through her sooner rather than later. This won't be the last time her so-called “friend” causes your GF damage for her own amusement.
Your kid has some serious issues if she intentionally lost her job to teach you a lesson.
You're right, she's trying to be manipulative. She's being so manipulative that she is self-destructing her life. That's one of the most sure signs of Borderline Personality Disorder. Normal people don't knowingly make choices that have an obvious negative outcome for them.
Doesnât matter if your married or not. You have no say on what she decides to wear. You can accept it or leave. Those are your options. Hopefully you arenât like this with other parts of your relationship, as you are coming of as very controlling.
Time to toss him and find someone worth your time; whether itâs another person or yourself.
No one should be with someone who emotionally abuses them
Sucker!
You didnt get embarrassed, you mightve felt embarrassed but its not something that was done to you. If anything you embarrassed yourself by the way you asked her. She turned you down, which is her right. Just leave it and move on.
You are worried he will cheat. âSheâll seduce himâ still means he might cheat on you except you are taking responsibility from him and blaming it all on this friend. Remember he is the one in a relationship, not her.
Iâm kind of torn here. On one hand – if someone spontaneously decided they wanted to visit me tomorrow for several days, Iâd likely cry from the added stress. I have a busy schedule and am already just about managing. Also I like plans, so having all this spontaneously foisted in me – at 4am no less – would really upset me. Plus she appears to be actively working on the wedding, which does imply that she wants to be with you very much long term.
However, the holiday thing is super weird. That would have been a great time to make plans and Iâd you are sure she didnât mention it, only for her to then lie about itâŚjust weird.
Iâd schedule a proper talk with her, when you are both awake. Ask her where sheâs at in the relationship, how she feels about the wedding and what is going on with her. Iâd check in on her mindset, before making assumptions or accusing her. It does sound like something is going on. Maybe she is getting wedding jitters.
If you didn't discuss being exclusive, you aren't exclusive. Even more so if you had a casual relationship before.
Lol no, you just don't have a high level of intimacy with your friends.
It's intended to be a compliment, no doubt, but you shouldn't take her opinion too seriously. I doubt she has much practical knowledge of what makes for a good husband.
Friendly local LMT checking in here.
Sorry, dude.
Iâve also had this happen and it sucks. When the client knows itâs coming and makes the LMT an unwilling participant in their sexual gratification it feels gross.
It can happen through stimulation of the low back or pretty much any nerve that crosses into the lower body. It absolutely can happen without making contact with genitals. As I said earlier, a woman had a similar orgasm on my table and I absolutely never made contact with her genitals or breasts. I understand doubting everything at this point but know that itâs possible.
I wish I had better advice for you at this point, but in my other job Iâd definitely recommend couples counseling.
Just ask her out through game text ?
Is she breastfeeding?
This is abuse. Please run to your mothers and donât look back.
Sadly, I think this is the end of the relationship. I understand your girlfriend's struggles, I'm glad she's seeking help for them. However, the ultimatum is completely unreasonable. Your own mental health is very important and should not be compromised because of your partner's issues.
Not gonna happen babe, move on while itâs still relatively new and youâre not fully invested. It wonât stop
Doesnât need your consent to get a dog, you can feel how you feel but if she wants a dog she can get one. The âmassive decision against my willâ sounds a bit weird, itâs her dog, youâre not living together, youâre not ready to and your opinion whilst possibly valid, doesnât equate to her requiring your consent not does that mean she shouldnât get it if she really wants to just because her boyfriend who isnât living with her hasnât consented. She doesnât need to say anything more about your opinion, sheâs just not saying what you want her to say. She wanted a dog and she got it, doesnât equate to being unstable and if you wanna think that then you can, she doesnât need to agree with that
Well for one compromises isnât always a 50/50 deal if you didnât know that. Some people give up their careers and lifestyles for an SO. Also my main point was that I agreed with Dependent that he shouldâve talked instead of getting mad first.
My (22f) me (23m) is bothering me more than I wish it did.
Thank you for your advice, I really really appreciate it! It's relieving to hear it explained in that way, that this friendship has likely just run its course. It was helpful to have for a short time but it doesn't mean it has to be lifelong with the way its going now. Thank you!
I scrolled down just to find out how shitty of a human he was. I knew he was considering how he's still trying to control you even while he's getting married. Dude is trash. Don't go.
Argh. That sucks. What a shitty situation.
Firstly, it would have been far worse to be married to someone that was inauthentic in the relationship. Those marriages never end well, so many people stay in relationships out of fear of being alone.
Your next steps might be to actively force yourself to make some changes. Shower every day. Leave the house every day. Go for a walk every day.
When youâre ready get involved in social occasions whether itâs a cup of tea with someone or meeting friends for drinks⌠be around other people. If you wind up losing a friend group in the break up then look to your local community for company⌠even group fitness type things.
Try to eat well, cook fresh, healthy in-season foods and feed your soul by reading a book or binge watching some shitty tv or a movie.
Try to take a break from your device⌠if you find yourself longing to text or talk or check socials constantly, just donât. Try to keep busy.
It may not feel like it today, but this was good news. Youâre going to be resilient and go on and forge a path filled with happiness and laughter.
No comment is far better than anything you can say to this guy. Why havenât you blocked him?
It would be a kindness to wait another few weeks or so since her parents death was less than a month ago. Yes it will definitely take a while for her to be able to normally function and grief will always be there, but a few weeks is so fresh. Since you're long distance again all you need to offer right now is a listening ear for a bit.
That smells like denial
lol i would have cheated on you by now. shameless how much you benefit off her. provider men deserve to have all their meals made and chores done. not you. she's figured that out so clock's ticking.
Dude. I get my ex-wife's second husband on “people you may know” and what do you think are the chances that I've been talking to him?
I disagree. I think there needs to be clear communication all around. A person shouldnât just assume exclusivity, they should ask for it. The other person should share that theyâre still dating around, but if there is no conversation either way, nothing should be assumed
I also hope he never has another gf, wife, or child again. He doesnât deserve any of that
General advice: while you may like to solve an issue right there and then, not everyone operates like that and so your reaction to people dealing with conflict (differently than you) should not be getting angry and talking out of anger.
Tbh …. a really big parameter for me when dating is “how does he act when angry at others and how does he act when he's angry with me”. If my brother told me that you behaved the way that you did, I wouldn't like you either for my brother
I say that all to say that you need to work on your conflict resolution and dealing with anger. Saying things hurtful out of an anger is a no no.
Also, I understand that it sucks. A lot of times families only hear the bad things about someone's significant other and so they're not really given the chance.
In your case I think you need to decide whether he can go without venting to his family (create boundaries)
Or decide how important it is for your relationship that his family like you.
To recap:
Clean your own house, work on you. Create boundaries
I'm glad you're finding yourself again. I would urge you to redefine what you think being a good partner is for your next relationship, though. You completely obliterated everything about yourself for him. I would encourage you, in any future relationships, to be an entire full complete person together with another entire full complete person.
Ok, first of all, you are not wrong for getting upset about this at all. This would obviously upset anybody. I highly doubt she intended to hurt you, though I completely understand your immediate hurt.
HOWEVER, I really want to encourage you to step back and possibly consider that your girlfriend has been groomed and that she is the one who needs help. Whenever youâre clear headed, I recommend having a chat with her about this whole thing. Reiterate to her that this behavior is not normal to her whatsoever, but you will help her in any way you can. Show her all these comments if sheâs adamant this is normal behavior. She likely hasnât had anyone point her into the direction of clarity before and everyone deserves a chance to heal. If you love and care about her at least try and be her support system. BUT she MUST agree to go get help. If she flat out refuses to get help, then you should/could consider leaving for the sake of your well-being since there isnât much you can do for someone who refuses to seek help.
What do you find degrading about this? Also ,might just be me, but your post titles make it seem like you found something you boyfriend tried to hide from you, but as i understand it, he wilingly showed you the notification AND scrolled up for you. What's your take on this?
Just trying to understand your perspective better on this.
That isn't the truth. The truth is that he's got you where he wants you: you cave to his tantrums, you cave to his whims and wants, you walk on eggshells, you have to be careful what you say in case he takes it wrong because he's “very, very sensitive.” He's put in his work on you and if you tell him to kick rocks, he has to find some other woman to mold and manipulate and try to ruin mentally and emotionally.
He ain't it, sis. He's a manipulative, performative windbag. You deserve to feel like you're worth something and lovable because you are.
This sounds like classic abuse amongst queer couples. I donât agree that this is simple RSD or anxiety. And even if it is, anxiety is not a valid excuse for manipulation. If she cannot control her anxiety she needs help beyond the relationship.
Let me ask this, do you want to spend a life time married to someone who you can never be upset around? Never be angry? Never disagree? Have a bad day? Someone you canât ever get to compromise? Or get to be a full human with a full range of emotions? Seriously ask yourself that. Cause anxiety, CTPSD, or BPD you wonât be getting that anytime soon around this person and her chosen behaviors.
Good luck! I hope everything goes well.
Im sorry this is going on this A LOT. But i think its time you seriously consider moving on and if the feelings are too much then maybe going no contact with him for awhile too may help.
Tell him youâll get one if heâll consider penis enlargement surgery.
I was 36 and my girlfriend 34 when she found she was pregnant. Weâd been together 6 years with no thought of kids. Cutting a long story short, we adapted and it was a very, very weird feeling to bring up young children. I had nothing to do with kids in my life, ever up til then. I wonât offer advice, only, maybe have the discussion.
True.
Yeah, I totally get why youâre so frustrated with this. Everyone has a past, and everyone is entitled to leave the past behind. Youâre not being given the chance to do this because of your wife. Itâs a shame. But sheâs the one who needs to take steps to get over this
Because you already know you want to be more than friends so you might as well tell her about your religious views now.
When you post about an issue and people tell you to seek therapy, they mean seek therapy about that issue. Therapy isn't going to help if you don't tell your therapist about the problem.
Go into your session and talk to them about this issue and how you want to improve.
Immediately dump her
Bahahaha 100%
My first husband, one of the first few times this kind of thing happened, when other people found out about his disgusting behavior. He just pretended that it was just all a big misunderstanding, and that he really is not that person.
I just really, really caution OP to be careful here, and to realize he mightâve seen this post and thatâs the only reason he is acting sorry now. because there are hundreds of people ready to explain to his partner that his actions were fucking despicable. This is how abuse starts – small, and with love bombing following other people finding out how gross the abuser acted.
Well, the taking 6YO to school makes sense to me because itâs a PITA to get an infant into the car just to do a quick drop off.
The rest? Couples counseling. And individual therapy for both of you. She is being RIDICULOUS. I get that sheâs bored home with a baby but when youâre at work, unless itâs an emergency, she needs to leave you alone! And if youâre going to work late then shouldnât you be staying longer? And you need to have some hobbies and interests and so does she. Seems to me her only hobby/interest is keeping tabs on you.
This does not sound sustainable at all. It sounds miserable.
Girl stop squeezing yourself to fit into this guy's life.
You asked him to show you a bit more respect and he shrugged his shoulders. He is telling you exactly what he thinks and how he sees you.
Of course they don't care, but it's still disrespectful to the life that was lost and thrown in the garbage
Totally agree two women can have a family and that it's not fair to her if I knew I wanted a husband. That's where I'm stuck. I've spent my whole life thinking I wanted a man but suddenly I have this incredible relationship with a woman but the in the back of my mind i'm like “wait so the 20+ years of imagining life with a man weren't real?” which is off putting.
I genuinely would like to ask how you navigate dating a bi girl? does she ever express interest in men?
My post history is irrelevant to this post but its not fake haha truly just a confused gal trying to figure out her sexuality and not hurt others along the way!
I sense that you want the breakup to be drama-free and easy. Which it won't be. But it NEEDS to be done. Do it in person, but in public. Tell her “This relationship isn't working for me any longer. I wish you the best. Then leave. Block her # if she starts blowing up your phone, but do NOT take responsibility for how she responds to the breakup.
You deserve to be in a relationship that you enjoy – this one isn't it.
he really was sold on the idea that the wedding would solve everything, would heal us
What a foolish thing to say.
My favourite part about fucking around is when they find out.
The saying is, if they will cheat with you, they will cheat on you. Though honestly you deserve it for knowingly going after her when you knew she had a BF.
As someone who has major trust issues from my whole damn life NO
Trust issues does excuse this major violation of personal privacy.
Also no, itâs not strange to keep old photos. In life we sometimes can still be nostalgic over our past and as long as you arenât still in an unhealthy place (such as ready to abandon current relationships for past ones) then itâs fine.
Her behavior is extremely controlling including the way sheâs making you question your reality and yourself.
For reference, heâs been battling both a porn and cocaine addiction.
So he's a cheating, lying crackhead. You really struck out, on this one.
5 years is long enough dealing with crackhead nonsense. Who cares if he's attracted to you or not? That's his problem. It shouldn't continue to be I could forgive the addiction I wouldn't recommend anyone forgive the cheating lies. Addicts can't choose not to get high, but they can choose whether to seek recovery and treatment from professionals or not. He's choosing his addiction.
Is it the addictions or are these clear signs that heâs attracted to other women?
Who cares what a crackhead is attracted to?
Mark had checked out of the relationship much before the financial hardships hit him, and that was because he was temporarily laid off after getting caught up in some HR drama which was anyway untrue.
So what did hold him from being upfront with you, going no contact with you, focusing on his relationship, breaking up, being single, and THEN ask you out?
Srsly, it happens that one is stuck in a relationship due to finances, however, this is much more. He strung her along, he cheated on her. He made tons of active decisions to be a jerk.
And you had zero issues with that behaviour.
I'm not saying I'm special, I'm saying he and I are compatible in ways he and Jenna were not.
You have zero clue how Jenna and Mark's relationship really was. Stop pretending you do.
Jenna was very spoiled and did not like doing house chores and hired maids (she's a trust fund baby), and she was infertile and Mark is opposed to adoption, and then she also completely stopped taking care of herself after she got a permanent WFH job long before COVID.
Honey, if you ever have problems, why do you think Mark will stay by your side? He's shown how little respect he has for his ex, and for you.
âI recognize that you are having a difficult time believing in yourself, but I want you to know that I do not see you that way. I love and value you, even when you are struggling or feel that you unworthy or not enough.â
Might also be helpful to see if you can talk with her therapist and get some insight in how you can support her journey towards self-love and healing. One of the biggest things that helped me in my own journey of self-love was backing off of social media (Facebook/Instagram) and putting up affirming mantras all over my daily spaces (mirrors/desk/workout space) of âI am loved, I am strong, I am enough.â
“He's been crying nonstop for three days”
Wait, his actions have consequences? ?