Very early in the night I more or less decided I did not want to proceed with a sexual encounter. However, when she started instigating, I did not stop her.
It sounds like you didn't want to have sex with her, but did so anyway to be polite or something. Without more details I'm not going to throw around accusations of SA or anything, but at the end of the day you ended up having sex when you didn't want to, that's probably why you feel icky.
I would like to prevent something like this from happening in the future
If you've decided that you don't want to be intimate with someone then just tell them you aren't feeling it. You're always allowed to say no to sex, even if you guys met up specifically to hook up, you are not obligated to fuck anybody.
I think the promise ring worried me but less than the written love letters, and she has been upfront about how they are letters from him to her. I think BC she used them to remnicise they made me think that she's constantly thinking her time with her exes.
Your boyfriend isn't being “immature”, he's being an asshole, and one who takes pleasure in the suffering of others. And you're right, that is disturbing. I'd start questioning the safety of being with this dude.
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I’m sorry. You’ve done all the right things, and you also have to get checked by a doctor immediately
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Very early in the night I more or less decided I did not want to proceed with a sexual encounter. However, when she started instigating, I did not stop her.
It sounds like you didn't want to have sex with her, but did so anyway to be polite or something. Without more details I'm not going to throw around accusations of SA or anything, but at the end of the day you ended up having sex when you didn't want to, that's probably why you feel icky.
I would like to prevent something like this from happening in the future
If you've decided that you don't want to be intimate with someone then just tell them you aren't feeling it. You're always allowed to say no to sex, even if you guys met up specifically to hook up, you are not obligated to fuck anybody.
I think the promise ring worried me but less than the written love letters, and she has been upfront about how they are letters from him to her. I think BC she used them to remnicise they made me think that she's constantly thinking her time with her exes.
What do you mean?
Your boyfriend isn't being “immature”, he's being an asshole, and one who takes pleasure in the suffering of others. And you're right, that is disturbing. I'd start questioning the safety of being with this dude.