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Iāll never understand why guys go for girls who are comfortable in their body and dress for THEMSELVES, and try to change them as soon as things are official. Her outfits clearly couldnāt have bothered you at first, why get into a relationship with someone just to change them?
Youāre likely right Iām not very assertive even when I think I am. Iāll probably wait and see if she jokes about it again and tell her its a no go if that happens.
Then, MAYBE you are more cut out for a very committed relationship with someone you love and trust.
If you feel disrespected you should leave the relationship. What is a big deal to one person won't be to another, but that doesn't mean you don't have a right to your feelings. The bigger red flag to me is that he just plain flat out refuses to even acknowledge your feelings.
I feel like youāre sliding into the idea of doing it you just donāt want to look like a bad guy. What you do or donāt do is your business. All Iām saying man is you canāt control a fire when you light a match in a gasoline soaked fireworks store. And thereās no going back.
Other question but what does your friend think of this? Do they know? Are they also having sex with her?
Yes we both put down our cards, but I locked mine. She wasn't smart enough to do that, that's not my problem.
The fact that she dropped me just for TRYING (god forbid) trying to form an equal partnership and share my views is proof she's a gold digger.
I even offered to talk about things and listen to her thoughts in her driveway, but she told me to leave and refused to come outside and talka bout it.
We could have had a constructive conversation and she failed to see how awesome I was. Also she didn't ask me to pay her back so I think she probably got a slice of humble pie
Also if I ask women upfront about going halves they ghost me. This woman for instance ghosted me when I asked if guys were expected to pay on dates, and only agreed to go out with me after I replied to her Insta story and asked her if she would let me take her out to dinner. I literally had to track her down on another platform and do something I didn't want to do just to get her to give me the time of day. Do you see how messed up that is for guys?
Ooohhh that's a very interesting suggestion. Thank you!
I don't let my partner look at my phone because I have private conversations with my friends that is none of their business. In fact, I've been supporting my friend through an abortion which he asked me to keep between us. I would absolutely not let my partner go through my phone knowing those conversations are on there.
Tell the police she has stated that sheās going to kill herself and whatever else is going on.
Her and her family will thank you one day because someone did the right thing instead of enabling the behavior/ Illness.
Listen. You need to call 911 and get her into a hospital.
I have done this for friends and months / years later they thank me.
She needs to be in a hospital. It is your duty to call them that you know.
I met my partner at a really trashy club when I was 22; been together for 8 yrs now. We are both introverts who like to stay in and hang out with our cats. No one would ever guess we met out clubbing lol. I met another previous bf at a bar. And a couple other ppl I dated, I met on dating apps.
Maybe visit him at work . Does she know about you?
I didn't get in a real relationship until I was 23, and didn't have sex until I was 26. You're fine, and don't let anyone try to make you think otherwise. Trust your gut. I didn't and got super self conscious about the whole thing and wound up “settling” for a bit and got in a bad situation. There's a reason you've not had one. Trust that. Unless it's just an overall fear of commitment, in which case figure out the source of that and work on it. If that's the case, you've still got some self-work to do. š
I have dated men with autism before and his behavior kinda reminds me of that. I sometimes notice small indications for lack of empathy, mainly just emotional disconnect towards anyone outside of his immediate circle. He can sometimes be cold towards others but most people would probably just interpret his level of apathy as ānot a people person.ā Heās never been violent or aggressive towards any but perhaps just a bit cold. He seeks regular therapy and has been diagnosed by his therapist
I'm going to talk to him tonight. I'm so sorry for it, I feel like I failed him.
I almost never feel like being on my phone after so our routine has been me laying on his chest while he browses. While Iāll admit Iām okay with sometimes but ideally Iād cuddle for a bit and then do that. That would make it perfect.
Asexuality is a little different from other sexualities. Some people are born asexual. I'm one of them. Never cared about sex, was never interested, never looked at a swimsuit model of either majority gender and felt turned on by their appearance. Never felt like I “needed” to have sex.
Other people become asexual either due to trauma (like sexual assault) or to some other life event(potentially having a child). Some people also have sex when they're younger because they think it's expected, and then something happens that makes them think it's no longer required(like getting pregnant / getting their partner pregnant).
Honestly, since you don't seem to have any evidence of malicious intent or anything that sets off the cheater detector, I want to give him the benefit of the doubt and think that maybe he just doesn't understand what the word “asexuality” means.
Many bad relationships probably,
I just know that itās a bit wrong but I never thought it would be cheating
Amazing to you
It'd suck for them.
We do have a joint account which he puts money into because I was doing all the shopping/all the bills and he was staying over a lot which was expensive for me. So he doesnāt cost me anything now ?
Sheās not like that kinda person, I never have to worry about taking my daughter places like the issues we have are very specific to her wanting her boyfriend at everything my daughter is also at and I have to be along for the ride basically or I wonāt get to see her on a holiday or a Christmas performance. And itās like alright fuck Iāll go to a performance and whatever. But like these personal holidays shared is just ridiculous. So I understand what your saying but the issues are very particular and I know they wonāt go any further than this.
Why? What's his rationale?
This is a way bigger deal than whether she called you ugly or not. He is hiding the relationships for a reason: he is either on the prowl to date other people, so he needs to be known as single, or he is already seeing someone else, or he is ashamed of you, or you are actually no dating and he has been only using you for sex and attention.
All of those are awful tbh, and you deserve better.
I donāt like the idea of dating coworkers, but he sounds like he just has really crippling anxiety. He said he has trust issues from heartbreaks. Iād imagine if you want to get anywhere relationship-wise with him, youāre going to have to be the aggressor.
How can someone make themselves wife material if theyāre dating to marry?
Explain to him that while youāre appreciative of his efforts and had a wonderful night, that youād prefer to do your own cleaning and feel vulnerable with another person going though your private areas, cleaning up your mess.
Simple.
People donāt have to understand your boundaries, they just have to respect them.
Bruh, if you think of happy couples, their partner doesn't treat them like this.
I agree that “being the male” is an outdated way of saying she doesn't repsect you're boundaries. But on with the advice.
Dude, she doesn't respect your boundaries. When a partner nags another, i think it's due to a person deeply holding something and not being able to communicate it. What comes out is frustration and criticism.
And i'd say 21 is very young for marriage if you can't see why she'd want to. You said it yourself, its love, not in love.
Be firm about your boundaries. She isn't being respectful and an equal partner in this. If she can't recognize that, no way is she ready for marriage. Who would want a spouse that gets on their ass all day. If she can't let you on-line your peace and to learn adulthood at your own pace, who is she to rush you.
No ultimatums, but be clear, this is something you want to work on before the thought of marriage is even considered for you. Mutual respect. And the same goes for you dude, don't pull sexist crap or she isn't gonna respect you as a newly minted adult. If you don't grow out of that old way of thinking, you're gonna get nowhere. She is being disrespectful, not cuz she is a bossy woman, but because she has some insecurity in being a relationship, and needs to learn to communicate with you.
Damn, sorry to hear that. I actually did hit my fiancƩ in the face while having a nightmare. Not especially naked I think but I still feel bad about it.
If heās telling the truth then he technically did. Initiating doesnāt mean consent especially when his wife is medicated from leaving the hospital. Because she said he did another time and she was medicated then too.
It's naked to walk away, that's the reality I'm starting to realise and it's so nude to accept that chapter of my life as over.
Sorry hun, it didnāt require ācombing throughā anything – I just clicked on the profile because I was curious as to why she wanted to be a dick on an advice post and those were her top 3 most recent posts. Again, if – with my current post history on this account – I went around making jokes about age gaps and child brides, I would expect someone to make fun of me. I donāt know why she didnāt.
yeah those are just words, said in thousands of relationships around the world every day. you said it herself she made it very clear that nothing was going to happen when she had the chance to make something happen between the two of you.
best of luck, hope everything works out for you
I've met her only once as we on-line pretty far. We even made out that day. She had told her friends about me.But i don't get this sudden change
Your concerns are reasonable.
In the long run, no matter how much you love your partner, your relationships will always be more satisfying if your partner shares your values. Especially values relating to major incompatibilities, like finance, religion, children, monogamy, etc.
I think a long conversation about values with your partner would help you gather information to make an informed decision about whether you believe this girlfriend is one with whom you could have a solid, healthy, long-term relationship.
Just an FYI, you'd need her consent, but you can get a non- invasive paternity test done before birth. They do it using blood drawn from the mother. You might want to do that before she puts your name on the birth certificate given the cheating. She'll probably kick and scream about it, but you should probably get that done asap before investing more time, money and energy into this.
Leave her.
“I am not ready to be a dad at all. I'm barely able to take care of myself but she says I can move in and she will support me and the baby until I get on my feet.”
Reading this and then going back and reading that she is 23 and you are 36. Sheesh. I don't know who to feel bad for. You, the baby or her.
EX boyfriend
people can be assholes when jealouss but calling someone a pedophile is a lot worse . I seriously wouldn't be able to on-line with said person.
Regardless of what she thinks she saw …
Pedophilia involves sexual attraction to prepubescent children.
The proper definition would be Ephebophilia, which is sexual interest in mid-to-late adolescents, generally ages 15 to 19.
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Heās threatening you. Believe him. You have so much more to lose if you donāt believe him, whether heās being truthful or not (that doesnāt matter anyway)
When people tell you who they are, believe them.
Sexuality is fluid! And it can change over time! I'm AFAB and nonbinary, and I'm almost exclusively attracted to women and other nonbinary people. But my current partner is AMAB, and I'm very attracted to him and very happy with him. For the longest time, I was sure I was gonna end up with a woman. Things can change!
You might be bi/pan. This guy might be an exception. If he checks all of your boxes, it's natural you'd develop an attraction despite you being mostly attracted to women. At the end of the day, it doesn't really matter. You are who you are, and you like who you like!
Don't worry about labels for now. You're still figuring stuff out. If people ask, I just say I'm bisexual, but it's a little more complicated than that. You have all the time in the world to figure out who you are, what you like, and what's important to you, all the little nuances that come with it.
Also, you have nothing to be ashamed of. Absolutely nothing. Don't let anyone feel you differently.
I wish you luck in your journey of self exploration!
step one is cutting out the parasite.
You should have never dated.him knowing he had kids.
It also irks me that you call normal conditions what it was before when he basically never really got to see them that often that's not normal that was him being absent obviously it wasn't his choice but that's not normal.
Then moving closer and him seeing them more often is what's normal that's what's healthy for his children they deserve that type of relationship with him.
Since you never wanted a family lifestyle you need to date people who don't have kids because their kids should come before you.
Dude K rejected you! Why should you or S have asked if K was ok with you guys dating? Wtaf, why would she have any input in your collective decision/s. I read comments and feel like I fell into an alternate reality where people have to appease the people who treat them badly or reject them. No neither of you owe K anything, if her rejection was some kind of game/ shit test to get you to prove yourself. She fucked up! Games are not for everyone and only she is to blame for the position she finds herself. Anything else makes K a complete wanker who loveās company!!!!
I left my marriage 4 months ago. I am divorced.
Let hope he doesnāt use that same saying at his bachelor party otherwise you might need to call that wedding off.
Overbearing parents tend to damage their relationships with their adult children.
You are correct that trust is earned, but you haven't earned his trust either. You never trusted him enough to allow him to make mistakes and learn from them when he was still a teenager. He recognizes he isn't as experienced as his peers, and instead of listening and guiding him, you are threatening him financially. He has made some hyperbolic statements and fairly typical behavior for somebody his age. Give him space and let him know you are there to guide him as an adult.
I got decent traction a few years ago asking people if theyād be upset if the government sent them a letter stating āyour marriage certificate is null and void, here your civil union certificate. Please use this going forward.ā To the shock of none they were.I replied ābut you think a civil union is ok with gays, why are you upset if you think itās equal for them?ā Non douches had a lightbulb moment.
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Seriously, why are you sticking with this guy? He sounds completely shitty.
You can track his car's odometer and try to catfish him on the dating apps.
You just keep telling him to leave you alone. Get a restraining order if you need to.
Strange, you show you understand how things are, but are still under impression there is some way to change it without confilict or sacrifice. You can't have both be working for your father like you are and remain with your gf. It is clearly draining on you and you will break eventually. Your father clearly will not change his mindset either, from your description. This comes back to you making a choice what needs to go, because something has to. There is no way around it.
I am angry, because I despise the mindset of making best time of your children's life as difficult and dull as it will be for the rest of their life.
That reminds of the time when I was younger, I was on the phone with my then-gf and she was mad because I was at a party or something, and this guy who was a friend of my friend, who I never met before that night jokingly said “here, let me talk to her, ill calm her down”.
The first thing he said was “Hey this is so and so, im his good friend and….” she immediately cut him off “then why the fuck have I never met, or heard of you before? Put him back on the phone”.
CAN PEOPLE PLEASE STOP LISTING A BUNCH OF PEOPLE IN THE TITLE WITHOUT SAYING WHO IS WHO?
SERIOUSLY.
Why did this pattern start up in the last like 5 days? Is this a bunch of people making fake posts together or bots? Why did the sub get swarmed by this so suddenly?
In this instance, they are both abusers. Abuse isn't just physical assault. Abuse is also the attitude and persistence the OP portrayed. Following someone and continuing to engage in an argument when the other person walked away, is a form of abuse. Forcing someone to do something is also a form of abuse. Regardless of whether OP has bruises or not, they both are abusing eachother.
I mean this probably means your not sexually compatible. Particularly if he isn't even trying.
Youāve got to be a troll because no way a man lets his own dad hit his girlfriendās ass repeatedly. The fact your father touches your sistersā asses is weird too, heās a weirdo and you let him harass your girlfriend??
This will work. You can always “change your mind” after inviting sil if your mom really wants a friend to come, and they are super adamant about it.
Then why ask the question man cmon
And a serial cheater by whoās standard? Older sister who admits having extreme bias and disdain for her? As well as āvery little respect?ā Consider your sources. People who know me know who I am, my character, and what Iām about. People who think they know me believe Iām some arrogant, self-absorbed womanizer who thinks my shit donāt stink because I hold myself to higher standards in some things. YMMV
She sounds like an annoying and immature idiot
Straight man here. I don't believe you for a second. The only way an almost 30 year old woman does this is if you've been checking out women left and right.
Going to be honest, I am under the belief that a paternity test is required for every pregnancy.
You and he have incompatible life plans. You are motivated, a self-starter, a naked worker and high achiever. He wants to just coast, having fun as he goes. If you remain with him I predict you will end up supporting him and being a lot more annoyed than you are now.
My recommendation is to end it in whatever way works for you, and find someone on the same wavelength as yourself.
Probably because they know they didnāt do any of the actual parenting because they were too busy putting work first. It has nothing to do with having one kid but everything to do with them not being there for you. The real lesson to take away from this is be a good parent and donāt have someone else raise your kids because you are too busy working.
Probably āmuch easier and less effort to sleep.ā Iām the same but Iām a woman. I can sleep without but if I do it, I can be out like a light in 5min. Otherwise Iād be tossing and turning for an hour or two. And if he needs to be well rested by a certain time itās prob just what heās used to. Not really siding either way cuz itās nuanced but I understand where OP coming from on that. Doesnāt make him an addict. I donāt need it but if I can I prefer it
Donāt marry her, at least not until the problems in the relationship are fixed. Itās 2023, the two of you should be contributing equally, be it bringing in money or with housework. It doesnāt look like she brings anything to the table.
Iāll check it out, I did yoga in my early 20s and it really was blissful. I should give it another go
Get yourself check for STD constantly
She had the conversation with you before the sex. You chose to ignore it. She doesn't owe you any more of her time.
So you want someone who puts in all the work? Why would she do that
Your 24. Time to move out of that controlling and toxic environment. He shouldn't be saying a damn word about how you spend your money. Start looking for places to on-line away from him.
Find somewhere else to stay. Get away from that AH.
Prove itās his then.
JalapeƱo is from America. This is weird ass Korean place.
There are many ways to send a pic. E-mail, WhatsApp, bluetooth, proximity
It has been a year and he won't commit?
It sounds like he's just stringing you along and wants to have the option to date and sleep with other people while keeping you on the back burner.
Find someone that actually wants to be with you.
Sadly some families are like this, I sadly know of one case I found out similar because I was friends with someone in the family sharing this, and made the choice myself to call CPS to interfere for a 13 year old girls sake. None of them would āwell what would the family think? Heās not at that house too much.ā Etc. I donāt associate with those people.
Or he wants something to happen.
Sounds like he has an unhealthy obsession and infatuation with her. You need to address it or else it could go on for years more.
Listen to your mother.
Thatās how he ends up having sec with one of them . Donāt play yourself
You on-line a dangerous life and I have no idea why you are married.
Just be honest with him, and with yourself. If this is a deal-breaker for you you need to 1st, realize that before its too late and 2nd, tell him. If it's that important to you and he really loves you then he will put in the effort, if not then you guys need to have a conversation. It may sound like a trivial thing right now but it's a trivial thing every time you want to be kissed and all of those trivial things can add up to a big problem. Overtime you will start resenting him and you might not even realize why. You will start finding more things that bother you about him, you might even start looking for things to complain about, all because of this one trivial thing that went unresolved. If you aren't feeling affection from him then he isn't your boyfriend, he's your roommate.
Not asking for advice, couldn't sleep and I like making post. Then reading the comments when I'm bored at work. Forgot to mention It was 3-4 months later she wanted to stop being friends.
Also is the OP sure he isn't drugging her?
We argued before about another topic and afterwards about this topic. He eats a lot of fruitā¦ Iām talking 2-3 packs of berries a day. They perish pretty fast so we go to the grocery store every 2-3 days for his fruits. My mom knows it so she brings some by for him time to time. We get enough food for him but he can always have more.
Absolutely. He made her feel guilty, thinking that later he can “forgive” her so he can get laid again.
Runā¦he doesnāt care about you. Why would you give him all the money you make? Please trust your gutā¦
So her plan is to stay with you while exploring a relationship with her boss. If it works out, she will leave you for her boss. If it doesnāt, sheāll stay with you. But the expectation is for you to continue to pay bills and be the dutiful husband while she has sex with her boss and builds a relationship. She only told you because her bossās wife kicked him out and she now has the opportunity to date him more openly. She doesnāt have to sneak around anymore since the wife knows. Itās time to have some self respect and kick her to the curb.
If you think thereās a chance she would happily sleep with someone else, then this relationship has an expiration date. Might be time to put yourself first OP
Understandable. Youāre right. It was a stupid move
Gold digger
You and her need to have a talk and if that doesn't work suggest going to therapy, but if you believe you'll be happier maybe it's best to distance yourself from her, i understand your worry for the kid but the kid will grow in a bad environment if this continues, this either has to get fixed or it's gotta end, if you aren't ready to completely end things with her, distance from her by hanging out with friends, go out and have some time to yourself, do things you like and get out of the house, worry about yourself first
Go find someone who you get along with 100% as well as their family. The world is full of amazing men whose mothers are total witches. Good luck. His inability to support you speaks volumes and is a total red flag.
I want to hope this story is actually real, however I think it's bullshit.
As eloquent as that is, he doesnāt even deserve that much of an explanation. Playing with the poor girlās self esteem like that. This guy is a piece of shit. I donāt get how sheās known him for 4 years and doesnāt know where he lives. Then sheās the one who asked him to start dating, we have no idea if theyāre sexually active and if heās just using her, and here he is stringing her along to the point that sheās asking the Internet Oracle for advice (meaning she doesnāt have anyone in her life to set her straight). I feel for her but I donāt have a good feeling about it.
Marriages are tax contracts. It is business.
Maybe see if she wants to grab a coffee or lunch. Something pretty laid back. See how that does.
Yes. At first I thought “it was before I knew her, and I know she won't do it again because she doesn't like him like that. But now as feelings are rising it's making me uncomfortable.
see you later boy
I'd let him go ahead and end things. His demand is unreasonable and controlling. Since you say he's conservative, that means he's patriarchal, and expects obedience from you. You will never be an equal partner in that relationship, you'll always be subservient. Is that the life you want?
This man is emotionally manipulative. He wants a submissive wifey/mother to please him and pay for everything. You need to get your money back asap and get out of there imo.
And we only have a cheaters word of what was āwrongā with her marriage. Cause cheaters are always soooo reliable with the reasons of why they cheat. I bet she told her lover that she was totally gonna leave her husband and was separated.
you said life or death and she said ājust die thenā to show u youāre being dramatic. DONT act like she just confessed she wants you to die. ridiculous and dramatic that ur trying to play the victim like this?
what she said was nasty so go tell her she was nasty and get an apology, dont even try to come here acting like āhelp my wife wants to murder meā so ridiculous
Although I don't really think you'll read it considering the fact that you didn't even pay enough attention to this post to see that we are STILL together. But I appreciate you bringing the issue to my attention that people will likely need more context.
Why?
Geeze, that is A LOT for only 1 month OP!
You put a lot pf pressure on him to open up when you had only been dating a month. If someone is not used to opening up and talking about their emotions, it can take months. PLURAL. Not singular.
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He referred to himself as my boyfriend. So, I started calling him “my love” and showered him with loving compliments everyday.
RED. FLAG. You know what that sounds like? Love bombing. You went OTT by calling him “my love”. That would have been sooo overwhelming for him. If someone started calling me “my love” as soon as we became official, I would have bailed. That is WWAAYYY too much.
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“I think this is causing you stress, here's the solution. Would you like this?”
Sounds like you were telling him how he was feeling, and telling him how to fix it. Unless he has specifically asked for your opinion and for advice, it's best to keep it to yourself. That can come across as over bearing and condescending. Most people don't like unsolicited advice. If they want your opinion, they will ask for it.
You came on way too strong, way too soon. You freaked him out with how much you were asking for. Next time, chill out. Take it slow. Instead of trying to force things, let the evolve naturally.
The what you should do call is all your own. If you like it then keep being you. If he can't handle it then that is his call. Is he often controlling or is this just something he has said would be a deal breaker before? In the end what makes you happy is normally the correct answer. But he gets to make the same choices that make him happy too.
You frankly deserve better than that.
When we went to Cuba, I stayed in a cramped hotel room for most of the trip because my girlfriend had food poisoning. I don't have a single regret about doing that, either. He should have wanted to be by your side.
This is honestly the best advice Iāve gotten on these comments. Thank you. I want to work on myself but the fears hurt so much. I genuinely want him to be happy. Iām going to reflect on your advice. Thank you
This is honestly the best advice Iāve gotten on these comments. Thank you. I want to work on myself but the fears hurt so much. I genuinely want him to be happy. Iām going to reflect on your advice. Thank you
get a jobby job and move out..Certainly sounds you have more problems than just some other guy, you are pushing away, that you need to focus on first.
Brother, this sucks and I am sorry this has happened to you. You will never be able to trust her again. Itās gonna be naked to leave and go through the process of divorce but that is the ONLY thing you can do.
That is very unsettling. Cheating isn't great, but the way he seems to view it implies A) he thinks relationships entail a sense of ownership and B) that he sees cheating in almost a violent way. I'd honestly be afraid that he would get violent if cheated on. And this sort of unattended wound makes me wonder what other “offenses” he'd consider punishable along the same lines.
it's not just romcoms now, it's in almost every show. I think that's why I gravitate towards cooking shows. lol
So what if a recipe calls for butter and they use margarine?
That's fair. He was open to me only about the fact that he used protection. But there's def a room for interpretation (e.g. did he also use protection for oral sex?). I don't even know if I should ask any further questions.
On the other hand, while I'm willing to be as open as possible, idk if I should answer questions that make me uncomfortable such as how many partners I had after being tested. And if I do answer, would sharing the details make things worse? Becasue I know sometimes we may ask questions we don't want to hear the answers to. So that's where I'm really struggling.
Just take a test.
The problem is that guys who are possessive like this guy can react really badly and that means that OP might be in serious danger. So I get why she's afraid.
He wanted her address but didn't get it so who knows maybe he put a tracker on her phone, car or the like so he knows where she is at all times.
OP should most definitely block him in any way possible, get a restraining order, and tell her parents all about his disturbing behaviour and what's been going on between them. I also agree with those telling her to contact the local organisation for victims of domestic abuse to get their advice on the matter.
What she shouldn't do is just shrug and think to herself that it ends with her blocking him. It might but giving his reaction so far I would say that it's a very slim chance.
Yeah I feel like we are weirdly in the minority here.
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I just don't see a talk-no-jutsu working in a situation where someone's father beats them in front of their spouse.
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Abusers should have the shit beat out of them.
Sit down and have one last serious conversation about it.
Before, he lived by himself and could indulge in all the xbox he wanted. However, once you move in with your partner you have an obligation to uphold by participating in the relationship.
If that is all he is going to do while he is at home, then this should not be a relationship you fight for.
There needs to be a balance.
I am sure if he dedicated time to you while at home, you would have no issue with him playing. However, to never get any attention… that is going to dissolve the relationship quickly.
Unfortunately, the texture of relationships are revealed once couples on-line together.
So, you should have one last serious conversation:
Do you want to be in a relationship or not?
You are not participating in anything and I am disappointed this is what have become.
I don't care if you play video games here and there, I don't want to take that away from you.
But you give me absolutely nothing in our relationship and I starting to reconsider things.
So, either you take this seriously and step up, or you can move out and play all the video games you want undisturbed.
Therapy sessions are confidential – your stbx should keep her big nose out of them and stop trying to control you.
You mean to say that you don't believe everything became a blur to her but she managed to remember her husband's monologue word for word before he broke her father's arm?
Lmao, yeah this is fake. Points for creativity though.
Appeal. Your lawyer will know how. And I take it you have explained the entire story to the authorities and there is nothing to be done about the CEO who did this to you?
If you ever separate with your wife, guess who will be there and ready
400 base?
Your friend is probably right
Tell her. You might well spare her decades of abuse. And ffs don't date cops!
OR, should you tell her and save her the heartache of investing even more time and energy into the guy who's cheating on her?
You're not the one who's ruining the family. He is.
I don't understand why you're having trust issues. She was with the same man loyally for 12 years. After it was over she had fun, but that stopped and she's been very honest with you.
I would have been more worried if she were dishonest with you, but you can't fault her for having fun and doing things while she was not in a committed relationship.
How would I know Iām not something to āfall back onā?
you shouldn't care. It has been 2 years, you should have moved on 10 seconds after the breakup not 2 years +. Why do people get back with their exes? if they were so great it would have worked out the first time around not the 2nd, 3rd, 4th,7th, 100th time. I guess people just like drama in their lives, explains the Kardashians I think.
OP I'm so sorry your first experience was horrible, but baby girl HE IS A RAPIST, AND HE RAPED YOU! There's no coming back from that! Delete him, block him and any mutual friends (that try to excuse what he did) go to the police and report his ass!
OP, you're being manipulated.
If he loves you, has strong feelings for you, he thinks about being with you literally all day, you're this one of a kind super extra amazing being to him that he just doesn't know how to be with…..why would he be looking at a picture of another woman when he was in bed with you?
Why would the picture of that other woman specifically be from the last time he was WITH that woman?
Meaning the picture had very specific undertones to it that he was looking at for a very specific reason WHILE in bed with you.
If he thinks about having sex with you “all day”, why would he waste the opportunity once it was literally in front of him to do the thing he was allegedly obsessing over all day?
He doesn't have genuine feelings for you. His feelings are troubled that you kicked him out after catching him being a sleezeball. He doesn't want to lose the opportunity to have sex with someone so he's backpeddling and trying to tell you what he thinks you need to hear to forgive him and continue having sex with him.
Whipping out a picture of someone else during the act when it has not been explicitly agreed on as a mutual kink or an established part of your encounter is disrespectful as fuck. And honestly it's gross. It's not like he asked to put porn on to get you both in the mood. He whipped out a picture of his OTHER FWB, mid act, and tried to hide it from you. Once he knew he had been busted, he spun this manipulative and shitty story about how he's a victim to his own feelings and it's for the best that he forgets about you now! Lest his little wounded heart finally, pathetically give out from the conflict as the curtain falls slowly and sadly and the crowd boos him for his shitty performance.
It's up to you to decide if this is the type of person you want to keep casually seeing. But as an outsider looking in I've observed that he:
Does not have respect for his sexual partners. Evidence: he wasn't even looking at you during his time with you. He's whipping out pics of his other partner without her consent, around people (you) who did not want to see it. He respects you so little he will lie repeatedly to your face instead of owning up to something (denying the picture when asked).
Lies instead of taking personal accountability. Evidence: Repeatedly denied something you SAW with your own functional eyes. Lied about this whole my feelings make me act out like a poorly trained animal thing. And I'm counting his apology as a lie because we all know this man is not sorry for the shitty behavior he displayed. He's sorry he got caught and is facing consequences.
Is willing to manipulate you (and likely others) to get his way. Evidence: trying to rope you into believing he's some sort of victim of love so you'll keep having sex with him. Instead of just apologizing for being a crude asshole, he invented this whole story about his complicated feelings making him be this way, and you're no good for him because of it, but he just caaareesss so muuuuchhhh.
There are millions of other guys in the universe. You could easily get a new FWB that won't pull this type of petty, disrespectful shit. If it were me personally, I'd leave his ass on read and block him. He didn't respect you, he isn't owed respect or validation back.
You don't have to make that same choice. You do what's best for you, whatever that may be. But please don't fall for shitty half assed efforts from fuckboys that lack basic manners. You're worth more than that. Casual hookups still need to be kind and respectful. There doesn't have to be feelings invovled but you are a human being and you deserve to be treated like one. Kyle Jr over there can go on Amazon and buy himself a fleshlight if he's just looking for something to slap a picture over.
Later it comes to me “oh, she just told me and I did it again.” Saying I am sorry makes it worse as she begins to cry and say “yes, you did”.
Your wife crying doesn't mean things are worse fwiw. I mean, I think she is probably better off without you but you should know that crying can happen for some people with any heightened emotion. Anger, sadness, joy, relief, stress. She could literally be crying cause she is glad you realised you were wrong and she is letting go of resentment.
Unfortunately, you will never know if the relationship is so far gone she's not willing to tell you about her feelings anymore.
Is it really worth staying with him though? He obviously doesn't respect you if he made that request, let alone if he is moping over another girl after being with you for some time now.
Thanks for the advice!
Thankfully we both own houses. We're living in hers now. One of the reasons I moved in with her was so the animals had more room as her house is larger. We plan on moving back into mine in the summer so to me it's another reason not to get another so soon
No. You are not owed anything. You are not owed access to grandchildren. Absolutely not. You need to look at your own behavior and why your other children have gone no contact.
You are not owed anything from your adult children. You are incredibly toxic. Go to therapy.
Unless she baby traps him
I would suggest therapy. If you decide to stay with him every time he gives you a compliment you will think he is lying because your self esteem has been damaged. Everyone has their preferences when it comes to looks but it doesnāt mean they donāt love you. But you need to build up your confidence or your going to be doubting a lot of what he says or does your whole marriage.
And was he also remorseful when he broke all other boundaries? Iām sure he said he was. And then broke another one. Then begged for forgiveness, said he was remorseful. And broke another one. One mistake could be forgivable but this is a pattern. And over a long time.
And is he really remorseful? He already tells you that it doesnāt mean anything. So he is not sorry it happened, he is sorry he got caught.
Oh i guess it was an accident? Like the guy tripped with his mouth open and your partner's penis happened to be out of his pants and just slipped right into the guy's mouth?
got what i came for then
Yeah thatās not whatās being said here but we gonna agree to disagree lol.
I had to scroll back and double check the ages………….
Poor time management and general immaturity. I think that explains most of it.
It was missing now itās back on his profile. I think itās probably a glitch with the recent Reddit problems
Itās only natural that they have concerns. I would hate to see my friends or my kids in relationships that are like that. Life doesnāt need to be naked, that is a choice. I could never understand choosing the stress and drama of an argumentative relationship when life could be easier with someone more compatible. But to each their own.
I think you need to consider the possibility that this might completely blindside her, so don't approach it in a fashion that implies she feels the same way as you do or that it's been a long time coming. My ex did that and he definitely wasn't prepared for my reaction to it (which was almost complete withdrawal for a while until I got angry, but he had been having an affair so that was a major factor in why I got angry). She's pregnant and expecting to get married next month, even if deep down she knows this is a loveless relationship, it doesn't mean she will take this well (and that is understandable).
You obviously need to do this, but don't expect everyone (including yours and her family) to accept it willingly or even gracefully. Breakups at this stage of a relationship are scary as it is, add in a new baby coming along and it's all the more difficult. From her perspective, she will likely worry about where this leaves her future, it's much harder to survive as a single mother than a single childless woman as she will carry so much responsibility and it will impact her ability to work while shouldering a lot of the burden of paying for the household on her own. This won't necessarily be solved by you suggesting you still on-line together either, if she is really hurt by this she may insist you move out immediately.
It will probably be an unpopular opinion, but assuming she needs it, I think you should help her financially as much as you can, and consider what you would have been expected to pay had you been married, since that's what you are in all but law. Maybe your country considers your relationship to be basically married anyway though.
I hope it all goes much more smoothly than I have suggested but I hope this has given you some things to think about and prepare for. As for bringing it up, you're just going to have to be brave and spit it out.
And thats not an option they want. Read the fucking room
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Even if you did warn her, would she believe you? Or would you be painted by him and his family as the crazy ex? I mean, you could try, but would it be worth the hassle of dealing with his family again?
Thank you for your advice. I appreciate hearing this from an outside perspective.
THIS ONE OP!
Childbirth is your wifeās moment, not yours
It's his child too. It takes both to procreate. It's his family, he'll provide and care for the children as well. To say it's not his moment at all is asinine. It may not be his moment “as much” as it is hers hut it's certainly more his than it his wife's rude, nosy family. Boundaries need to be set.
If he hadn't cheated she'd still be with him . Let that sink in . He'd have to go . I'd let her know .She doesn't have to choose. YOU choose. And I'd would just go about my business as usual . If she makes a stink about it , then you know where she stands .But make sure that she knows you're not to be secondary in a relationship with the ghosts of penis past
Buy her a new bag of the same kind.
Lately there have been times when I canāt take it anymore and I want to leave the relationship, yet he will not let me go.
Itās confusing to have someone not want to have a serious relationship, yet I cannot try to distance myself because they will not let me go.
What does this even mean? You want his permission to leave? Is he your boyfriend or your father?
Waitā¦ so you werenāt even close enough to these people that you considered yourself ādatingā them, theyāre just flingsā¦ but your bf is so bothered by that you cut them out of your life without question?? Girl. The red flags. How weird and controlling.
She probably has other things planned in mind that she prioritizes higher than yours, so it'd depend on the outcome of those other plans for her to decide whether to see you.
Relationships need to be balanced in order for things to be the least bit sustainable. That means if she doesn't put you on her top priority, then you ideally should not put her on top priority as well. Preferably the priority would more or less match. If she usually takes 10 min to reply you messages, ideally you'd take 10 min+ to reply her as well. Being the seemingly less dominant in the relationship won't help her like you more at all (quite the opposite due to self-worth). Also, when things come to this, “don't put all eggs into one basket”.
What do you mean Instagram and nudes? Anything even approaching that is banned into oblivion. Or do you just mean scantily clad?
So youāre out here paying her bills and she has the gall and entitlement to yell in your face to ādo betterā? Iād be like, āyouāre right, thanks for awakening me to the fact that I can, in fact, do better than youā. Then pack your bags.
there's a fine line here that a lot of us “guys” do not notice, mean girl vibes most us men take a blind eye to it and it took me years to start actually noticing.
Find a new boyfriend and drop his ass.
Walk away…it's all going end in tears.
OP your past doesn't matter. You're a fetish to him. One lay and it's over anyway.
and how genitals (which we use for filthy things) werenāt meant to go in our mouths (which we eat by) because āthatās something gross and unnaturalā
If he thinks this way about blowjobs, wait till he hears about eating ass…
Therapy. Youāll need therapy. This is super sad. And youāre pregnant too, that is even harder. I went through the last half of my pregnancy single. So many emotions and it was tough but i survived.
I would take this as cheating obviously. But youāre going to stick it out. You need to get you into therapy once a week and also to do therapy with the two of you. He needs to consider therapy alone as well. He needs to recognize the hurt heās caused and validate your emotions every step of the way. Heās also likely addicted to porn and should make steps to leave it behind him. Since it leads right back to cam models.
I really am sorry sis. Iām sending you a big hug. Youāre gonna be walking uphill through the storm for a while. I know bc I walked through something myself before with my husband. Weāre better than ever now. But my heart goes out to you.
Therapy. Youāll need therapy. This is super sad. And youāre pregnant too, that is even harder. I went through the last half of my pregnancy single. So many emotions and it was tough but i survived.
I would take this as cheating obviously. But youāre going to stick it out. You need to get you into therapy once a week and also to do therapy with the two of you. He needs to consider therapy alone as well. He needs to recognize the hurt heās caused and validate your emotions every step of the way. Heās also likely addicted to porn and should make steps to leave it behind him. Since it leads right back to cam models.
I really am sorry sis. Iām sending you a big hug. Youāre gonna be walking uphill through the storm for a while. I know bc I walked through something myself before with my husband. Weāre better than ever now. But my heart goes out to you.
ffs I just hope you are a troll
Like wtf? you just wanna get triggered?
Okay for the slow people:
I'm living alone. I'm single. I just stated how I do my laundry and at what point for what reasons I check my pockets I wanted to pitch in FOR OP ASKING how or when other people check their pockets
This caused a trauma to her.
What she needs is therapy.
Not separation.
Also: get her out of her parents company.
NOW. Don't wait.
To even separate was an unwise thing to begin with.
Your āfriendā absolutely sent it to taunt you.
Also, people donāt just stumble upon videos like this. He had to actively search for something like that. Maybe not that specific video, but he was looking for things of that nature. Stay away from people like that.
I better see an update weeks from now about how you left him.
So I just have to miss out on thisā¦itās my first and maybe only grand baby and Iām missing the first moments with her
Your dad could and should have called the police on his boss because that's highly illegal
She needs to stfu, itās nobodyās business.
The hardest lesson I ever learned was only keeping people in your life that lift you up.
It can feel scary, but it's better to be alone and working on yourself, than working on yourself with someone constantly holding you back.
I don't have any female coworkers so that's not an option.
And I feel weird trying to catch her in a lie, it really doesn't feel like who I am as a person
Stop falling for this bullshit. Stop putting up with emotional manipulation. Stop participating in emotional manipulation. Just let him/them/her go.
He said they didnāt hook up.
i really appreciate this advice, thanks!
I wonder if he's ever even worked in a restaurant. It's a brutally naked business, physically and financially, and not a great job to have when you have small child(ren)
This is an unhealthy relationship. Yāall are already having signs reminiscent of a 30 year old failed marriage. Iād run as fast as possible before wasting your time on something toxic to you.
Normal people donāt intensely argue with people and stay together
Thank you. This is the kind of practical input Iām looking for. Iāve been trusting without boundaries for our entire relationship and unfortunately Iām seeing that Iām being taken advantage of. Because Iāve been stonewalled for so long I would like some answers. It hurts already that I am considering these options. I appreciate your input about keeping her in the dark for as long as possible because the stonewalling has made me just want to unload all these questions and thoughts which I know would be counter productive so that thought helps me not be forthcoming with anything I find until the time is right. Mahalo
Congrats, you've stumbled across a man -child. And yes, you should break up with him.
Depends on the family and culture. I come from a family where I see my parents 3 times a year as an adult and my extended family once every couple of years. But I've dated girls that see their parents and uncles/aunts for dinner at least once a week.
The real question is just whether you are comfortable with that lifestyle. If you want to see the relatives more and your partner doesn't then okay, maybe they aren't for you. And the reverse? Okay, maybe they aren't for you.
But coming to reddit and hoping for an answer you can throw in their face or use to end a debate that is ultimately not something that has an actual answer… well, it just isn't a great sign about the dynamic.
Not really āseeking it outā can be a sign of a responsive sexual desire, rather than a spontaneous one. As in, really enjoys it when it gets going, but doesnāt think much about it otherwise. Not all that uncommon if you (or anyone reading this) meets another person like this.
I suppose this is his fapping material. He likely uses your pictures too, perhaps even predominantly, it's not something you can know.
I guess if he is splurging money on nudes this can be an issue if you plan your life together, so this might be worth addressing on that account.
Odd. Our experience is completely reverse. We've never seen a female condom out in the wild, but our local pharmacy has diaphragms on the shelf.
He didnāt know. Neither of us knew she was talking to both of us then. Like I told her, I wouldnāt have really cared AS MUCH if she was just flirting with him and exploring her options before we were exclusive, but it does sting that she did it in front of me, and again the evening after a date with me. Like, we went out, and (according to time stamps), she got in her car and started texting him how much she wanted him, asking if he was around to meet. That really hurt to see. We werenāt exclusive, but it crushes my ego a bit.
Your wife has repeatedly tried to include your parent in your childrenās lives and gets blown off every time.
Not only does she get blown off, the mom posts on social media pointing out they could have made it. Seems a little passive aggressive from mom, it would be interesting to know what your mom is trying to accomplish with all this.
Some people really believe this. She's telling you how she really feels. Therefore if you don't then leave. I would leave. It's naked for me, someone who's always been faithful to understand people who have this view. I imagine it's just as nude for them to understand mine.
I am also relieved that his sense of humor was just kind of out of order.
But then… he also isn't in his right mind currently. Losing your child is like losing a piece of your future.
People grieve differently. Some make it seem as if they didn't grieve at all.
Men in some cultures are being shown as “the lone wolf, always strong, never weak. Who never cries.”
If this is his background he didn't know how to vent. It escalated… badly.
Also he may have tried to show you a big strong “lean on me” guy, which he wasn't. Isn't. Nor will be for quite some time.
In order not to add to your sorrow and pain seeing him grieve and worry about you.
Do try to forgive him. I find his explanation believable.
And think you should both try to hug. And you carefully let him hug you.
You both need this now. Be there for one another. And go to counseling.
There may be support groups of parents with “star children” as they call them over where I come from.
As “when one is deceased one becomes a star.” (German comedian Bodo Bach). So now you both have your own little star to watch over you and guide you on.
You sound like two people who have the potential to get over this if you can but forgive him that stupid painful sentence.
Ahh. This again. ? How many times do you plan to post this?
You agreed to stop and she said if you picked it up again she was out. Andā¦you fucked around and found out.
It will get more difficult with the passage of time. You deserve to be happy.
Hey, op, this is gross as fuck and weird. Your fiance is predatory, regardless of who came onto who first
Sheās certainly testing the waters for cheating.
didnāt i read this almost exact same post a few days ago? the only difference: ex wife was not called a sex addict
The fact that the friend is ok with moving on and not talking makes me think this isnāt the case.
Why do you feel the need to suffer through it? What do you think youāll win at the end if you keep at itā¦ will he be different if you just wait? Whatās the goal
Oh yea, that was a good story. Do you remember where it was?
Iāve been reading all of these comments sorry its taken me awhile but i want to add some things here because you are right but its a little worse than even my post explains i couldnāt put all background in because it was getting incredibly long, but yes, i would describe her as dim witted, she still acts like a child sometimes, and blindly believes what people tell her without researching it first. Very very unfortunately, a lot of people are saying expose them theyāll lose their jobs yadda yadda, they wont. C dropped out of high school, has never had a consistent job, and anytime shes in a relationship they essentially take care of her because shes incredibly lazy. N works for his family business and after last night im certain they are all nazis, because he had to get it somewhere, so he has no fear of losing his job. And absolutely worst of all, C is homeschooling the kids. The older one is currently being taught by her and she has every intention on teaching the baby. And my boyfriend and i talked more about what he was being spewed and told me this morning last night N told him the holocaust didnāt happenā¦ both world wars were ways for jews to get richer and they are controlling everything and THE JEWS are actually the ones that want to be the master race. My baby f***ing cousin is going to learn from his dimwit mother that the holocaust was fake. This is my biggest concern, if i have to cut her off fine, but she has these two kids immersed in nazism with no where to turn and nobody to correct them because she is there mother and teacher!!! I love these kids, they are GOOD kids and donāt deserve this. Also i also remembered, and i wonder if it plays i to his ideologies but N has 3 kids. His oldest he had in high school, the mother is native American, and she left him and took her baby to be raised on a reservation and heās never met her. So idk if heās still butthurt she saw through his bs or heās saying whites should be with whites because of his, most likely self hatred over the fact he has a mixed daughter he doesnt know and wants no part in his life. So yeah it gets worse and the kids are my biggest reason for concern, i love C, out of all my cousins she was the closest to me in age and her mother was never a good mother, like really really bad, and she spent a lot of time with my mom sister and I. I love her so much but the moment she started talking nazi nonsense i lost all respect for her. I know shes weak willed but you as you said you have to be pretty damn dumb to not think Nazi bad, and that the DAMN HOLOCAUST DIDNT HAPPEN????? Im so sick thinking about the futures of my baby cousins right now and im still trying to completely process wtf just happened to me last night. My boyfriend and I are playing wolfenstein to make us feel better.
This may not be something to end the relationship over for you but it may show that perhaps it's better to just pause the engagement and go back to being boyfriend/girlfriend for another couple of years.
I had a long chat with her, and she told me, that I have a right to decide what I want, or don't want. She doubts, that him and I can find common ground since we are so different with our needs and wants. She said, that it's very naked if not impossible, since my ideas of a compromise (Non-penetrative sex and surrogacy/adoption) aren't even considered by him. Pretty much told me what the comments here said and that I am valid in my choices. She also told me, that it doesn't matter why I don't want to have sex and that I have to stop justifying myself, because it won't help them understand anyway.
I did talk to my bf about this again, as well and that we both, in the long run, won't be happy, but he wants me to hold on and that I might change. I honestly don't think so, since I had a few chances over the years to do the deed and I never wanted to. This much, I told him, too. He doesn't seem to understand, sadly. He insists, that I will do it in 2 years. No idea where he got that from? 2 years? Why so specific? I don't want to hurt either of us. Should I listen to him and just “wait it out”? It feels wrong, though. Like I'd lead him on.
It is possible that it indeed is depression, but that doesn't really make any difference since it seems she isn't working on healing. So you know the answer: esperate, and involve CPS when she wants parental time. On-line with your sister and organize childcare together, and get the kid into daycare so you can work.
Him being abusive and unwilling to communicate is by no means your fault.
I think you are more upset about the lack of effort on his part rather than him missing the actual birthday. If you are a priority youāll know it and if you are not there are plenty of other people out there.
There are quite a few states where the age of consent is 16 and isn't restricted in any way. There are some other states where there is an age of consent below 18 but carries close in age restrictions which is probably what you're thinking of. I'm not sure if it's changed, but for years the way it worked in my state was someone 16 years of age couldn't be with anyone over 5 years older than them, for example.
Another thing you could be thinking of is some states have minimum age rules where one can consent to sex whatsoever which can be below 16, but also has close in age restrictions.
The laws in the US are all over the place state by state. There are a surprising number of states where OP's described scenario is 100% legal but recording it is never legal, and can result in all kinds of trouble.
Regardless of where it's occuring, morally speaking OP's ex is reprehensible.
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She 'ruined' her own lufe by not getting proper medical attention. The friendship is done though.
He sounds terribly immature and selfish. What a douche. If I was in his situation I would blow off the trip and be with the mother of my child to make sure both she and the child were safe. That's part of having paternal instincts which, he doesn't seem to have.
He also seems like the type that won't want to get up and help take care of the baby in the night because he “needs his sleep” ignoring the fact of what you've just been through giving birth.
Because it is a huge red flag. If he wants to have fun he should go stay having fun. If you have friends or family who can come stay with you or you can stay with, it maybe a good idea work out an actual support system before this baby gets here.
I think you should just tell him youāre feelings have moved past platonic and youāre wondering if he feels the same
Who is, how long does she know him, why did you never hear of him. Is she hiding something.? Those kind of questions
Truthfully, this does make me worried she might be trying to isolate you on purpose.
If you find yourself walking on eggshells trying to avoid her moods, and thinking all the time about how to stop her blowing up on you, then this relationship is already unhealthy.
Also, if she's genuinely anxious on her own, wouldn't she want to fix that instead of making you stay home all the time?
It's reasonable for her as a partner to want a lot of your time. Date nights, most weekends, etc. And if you were out so often she felt like a roommate instead of a partner I'd understand her point. But once or twice a week was a normal amount to start with, so the fact she wanted you to cut that down is troubling.
I will say if you've omitted something major here – like if she's actually annoyed by drug use, drinking, or some other behaviour with your friends – then ignore all of this.
Youāreā¦. Joking right?
True maybe Iāll try specifying a bit more with her what bothered me. If she reacts badly then itās probably for the better anyways. Thanks!
Please also keep in mind that you are not responsible for managing his emotions.
So I imagine he took the pictures from his viewpoints, and either sent it to her and she kept them, or they were videos on his timeline which means all of his friends who have access to this same level are able to see it.
I'm quite surprised you didn't fight you more about touching her phone and looking at it but at the same time she doesn't seem to regret that it happened she only regrets that you saw the videos and found out about it.
So you're doing the right thing to get away from this person and figure things out.
Wellā¦ā¦I am having a talk with him right now. Apparently, he thinks that two musicians singing a duet is cheating. Even if she immediately got with the guy after dumping OP, doesnāt prove cheating. Itās not outlandish for people in a troubled relationship to develop feelings for someone and realize they want to try a relationship with them but end things with their current partner first. This is not uncommon at all, and given OP being a reliable source is questionable to me, especially heās odd definition of what cheating is, I am not disinclined to assume this girl did any cheating.
Not sure the masturbating is what OP has a problem with. Printing out pictures of people he know irl and masturbating to them, then sharing the content on-line is something else.
Someone is asking for advice and the answer isnāt ābreak up alreadyā or āsheās obviously cheatingā, and I donāt know what to do here.
Iāve been married as long as you, and Iām trying to picture myself as her, and if a guy put his arm around my shoulder I would be so uncomfortable. I would leave. Even drinking, I would be uncomfortable. Thatās not my spouse.
Iāve been married as long as you, and Iām trying to picture myself as her, and if a guy put his arm around my shoulder I would be so uncomfortable. I would leave. Even drinking, I would be uncomfortable. Thatās not my spouse.
Ngl the sexual introspection is a real curiosity to me. In my opinion it is in no way a reliable path for growth. Idk read a book , study something in your free time , learn politic or participate in society. What is this kind of bullshit that people think they have to fuck around to be whole ? Where does it come from ?
I donāt see any good choices here. Put up with it, put her down, or try another vet. Ky friends had an incontinent dog and they got medicine for her and she was mostly good until her time came. Iām dreading your situation as my dog is almost 16 and his accidents have increased.
Wife should have stayed in the house and kicked out the mistress. It is her legal property.