Hope you both get better. I'd simply suggest to maybe give this some more time and try to get accustomed to the situation better. As well as trying to bring more things into the relationship. (E.g. Playing board games, karaoke, watching tv shows, cooking a bit, etc… )
Other than that I'm pretty sure there will come a time where she'll be able to work and attend to other stuff.
Your brother and SIL are out of their minds, but so are you if you want to explain to a woman on a hormonal and emotional roller coaster why a puppy is more important than her future baby. Which is not what's happening, but that's how she'll take it. Let your mom name the puppy Peter. Your SIL will get over it when she needs childcare.
She thinks everything in her body doesn’t work from her surgery.
Indirectly, this may well be true. When removing a tumor from the brain, you need to expect that not everything will return to normal. It can affect mood, perception, even subtle physiological changes. It can affect executive functions. It can even affect pain.
You've asked how you can help her. First, acknowledge that her distress is real. If you don't like her whining, imagine how SHE feels about her complaints. Show her sympathy.
You can suggest she seems uncomfortable a lot and ask if she would like to try meeting with a doctor for evaluation for depression. Antidepressants are often given for chronic pain, too. Other modalities can be very effective, for instance periodic therapeutic massage, TENS (electrical stimulation), topical pain ointments, etc.
He said she works on a Naval merchant ship, and goes away for months at a time (but is also home for months at a time) and she’s the only woman there.
He met her during one of her off periods and now that she’s due to go back, he started whining about how “uncomfortable” he is with her being on a ship full of men for months, but he really just is worried that she might not still want his insecure ass when she gets back. And she basically told him to piss off, that she’s not sacrificing her career for a 4-month-old relationship and blocked his number.
He's failing to be an trustworthy and emotionally avalible partner? A trait he has that must be connected to his upbringing and addictions is that he deflects a lot which can make it real naked to discuss stuff.
But i feel like you are fishing for something and im not sure what. Are you saying I am making his problems my own? Or that there is another issue im not seeing/articulating?
Way to prove their point. So what she’s divorced? At least she isn’t an abuser trying to get sympathy like your dumb ass.
Hope you both get better. I'd simply suggest to maybe give this some more time and try to get accustomed to the situation better. As well as trying to bring more things into the relationship. (E.g. Playing board games, karaoke, watching tv shows, cooking a bit, etc… )
Other than that I'm pretty sure there will come a time where she'll be able to work and attend to other stuff.
Your brother and SIL are out of their minds, but so are you if you want to explain to a woman on a hormonal and emotional roller coaster why a puppy is more important than her future baby. Which is not what's happening, but that's how she'll take it. Let your mom name the puppy Peter. Your SIL will get over it when she needs childcare.
She thinks everything in her body doesn’t work from her surgery.
Indirectly, this may well be true. When removing a tumor from the brain, you need to expect that not everything will return to normal. It can affect mood, perception, even subtle physiological changes. It can affect executive functions. It can even affect pain.
You've asked how you can help her. First, acknowledge that her distress is real. If you don't like her whining, imagine how SHE feels about her complaints. Show her sympathy.
You can suggest she seems uncomfortable a lot and ask if she would like to try meeting with a doctor for evaluation for depression. Antidepressants are often given for chronic pain, too. Other modalities can be very effective, for instance periodic therapeutic massage, TENS (electrical stimulation), topical pain ointments, etc.
He said she works on a Naval merchant ship, and goes away for months at a time (but is also home for months at a time) and she’s the only woman there.
He met her during one of her off periods and now that she’s due to go back, he started whining about how “uncomfortable” he is with her being on a ship full of men for months, but he really just is worried that she might not still want his insecure ass when she gets back. And she basically told him to piss off, that she’s not sacrificing her career for a 4-month-old relationship and blocked his number.
He's failing to be an trustworthy and emotionally avalible partner? A trait he has that must be connected to his upbringing and addictions is that he deflects a lot which can make it real naked to discuss stuff.
But i feel like you are fishing for something and im not sure what. Are you saying I am making his problems my own? Or that there is another issue im not seeing/articulating?