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So like, your main issue is that shes not giving much attention to you when she could do more? Sorry, im trying to understand better the situation.
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And I feel so shitty, I want to cry and, if I didn't have some therapy-trained self-compassion, would like to stop existing.
What about her respecting your autonomy? Why doesn’t she trust you? I think you need to ask her, and indicate that whilst you do respect her, she doesn’t get to randomly dictate your social life. Perhaps you need to have a discussion about what each of you considers reasonable on a night out – because if you can’t agree on that then the relationship won’t last.
End the friendship and sleep with one eye open. She doesn’t sound like a safe or stable person. I’m more worried she’s going to hurt you or Sue than herself.
As a Muslim who grew up in a Muslim household (but we weren't overly religious) I'm going to tell you the truth which applies to 99% of all situations where a Muslim is dating a non Muslim. You will NEVER end up together. And due to this you're absolutely right as he shouldn't be dating you being he probably already knows this, and he's a hypocrite for dating you and then pulling the Muslim card become if he was devout he never would date you to begin with being one of the biggest sins in Islam is any sex/fornication before marriage. The only way you end up together is if he agrees to leave everything he knows behind. Family, relatives, anyone in the Muslim community, and he would also need to leave the religion behind as Muslim men are forbidden religiously from marrying atheists. If he's religious, and if the family is religious, which it sounds like, then there's NO WAY IN HELL HE MARRIES YOU. Sorry but this is just the truth. And at least he kind of admitted this to you. Most Muslim guys his age lie and will say oh I'll convince my parents, they'll be okay with it, oh I'll leave them for you, we will figure it out and then never do. I have seen almost all of my male family members do this to women. Also if he's a Muslim from a country and culture where arranged marriages are the norm, his family will be looking to marry him off soon. Most of our men get married around his age and almost always at or under 25 (although this is slowly changing). Lastly I'm going to help you with this conversion thing, even if you did convert, which would make the marriage acceptable religiously, the family probably still wouldn't accept you or the marriage unless they are much more westernized and forward thinking than most Muslim families. Usually the family wants the spouse to be someone of the same culture, who speaks the same language, who can cook the same foods, and someone who understands that regardless of whether she works or not a wife's first and foremost occupation is homemaker, wife, and mother. So I born and raised in the US, as were my siblings, cousins, and all the “younger generations” in our families (I'm 45 now). Let me tell you most of my family still do not accept this. I married a Muslim (she didn't need to convert, as dad and mom were Muslims) who wasn't accepted because she was half Brazilian, even though she was raised in my country and small town of ancestry. Didn't speak to parents for a few years due to it and other reasons and ended up divorced. Cousin married a woman who was half Muslim half Christian, but practiced only Islam, and she wasn't accepted either due to this even though she was the same culture as us. My nephew just married a Greek woman in September who refused to convert. We had to drag my sister (his mom) to the wedding and even in the days prior she was begging him not to do this. And any of our relatives that were there, all they talked about was what a shame it is that he is marrying “a foreigner, an outsider, a heathen, someone who's going to hell”.. Etc etc. My sister hasn't spoken to him since the day after the wedding and she's still pissed at us for convincing her to go. Btw if you forgot I come from a household that isn't too religious. For instance I didn't pray my obligated 5 times a day and wasn't judged for it. We did “American things”and engaged in “American culture” and my parents didn't mind. And even with that these are my situations. Btw just FYI The strain of what occurred due to my marriage was a major factor in my divorce. I mean I have since become even less religious and I don't adhere or agree with a lot of the religious aspects of Islam or the cultural aspects of my ancestry and upbringing. But again I had to leave it all behind and it took until I was 34 to do it. Most never do. You're young and it's only been 5 months. Break up now and don't date Muslims. You'll be doing yourself a huge favor in the long run and also TRUE MUSLIMS SHOULDN'T BE DATING AND THEY DEFINITELY SHOULDN'T BE DATING AN ATHEIST.
Why would OP allow someone he loves to be alone in a vehicle with someone he knows for certain does NOT have her best interests in mind? OP is an AH here as well.
He is right. You should act how you normally do with terrible people. Never see them again. Boyfriend included. He is spineless.
You are already doing all that can be done. Only a trained and experienced therapist can help him. There are medications that can reduce the impact of the memories, but he has to want to help himself. At 83yo, some of the childhood experiences still haunt. If you want to be with him, listening, understanding, and affection will help him get over the rough spots until he finds his way to the right therapist. Be happy.
That's called a lie by omission. And that's extremely pertinent information.
Go out with your girlfriends! Get all dressed-up, too. If he asks you where you're going, just tell him you're seeing some friends. Don't give him any extra information, it's no longer his concern.
Good luck OP, I'm sure you'll be just fine!