Throwaway because my GF is pretty much terminally live! now.
I'm in a real bind here and I need some advice. I (36M) introduced my girlfriend (22F) of a year, to Eve Live, sorta because I liked the idea of having a GF who I could game with. I bought her a PC, showed her the game and as she's always been into sci-fi, fell in love with the game. The problem is 9 months later she's become totally obsessed. It's become all she does. She'll sit at her gaming PC for hours on end, to the point where she hardly interacts with anyone face to face.
It started out as so much fun, she got to grips with the game. When she wasn't playing it we were talking about it and she was going to join the Corporation I'm in. She'd be watching youtube videos about the game etc. Then I noticed she was spending more time in it. It got to 40 hours a week.
I work from an office and she had a work from home IT job. A few months into her getting into the game I noticed she haden't deposited any money into our shared account. I asked her about this and she confessed she'd stopped logging into work , and was logging into Eve instead and had quit her job. I can comfortably support us both without her working, but it's that she took that decision without discussing it with me that takes me by surprise. That's when I started to realize she may have a problem. We hardly ever interact outside of the game anymore. If I want to spend time with her , it has to be within game as she can't "step out just to hear about my day". A typical evening now is us playing Eve for a few hours then going to bed around 10 whilst she's up in the other room yelling at ther computer. She will usaully shake me awake at 4am to be intimate, but her bad hygiene is making her really unappealing to be intimate with. She hardly does anything around the house, no chores or cooking (not that she's a woman and must do it, but she's unemployed!) or anything.
I can't help but feel like she's become a female 'neckbeard' and has turned into a NEET, spending all her time at her PC playing Eve On-line. It's really affecting our relationship and I'm really not sure what to do. I'm aware I'm partly to blame.
TLDR Got my GF into a video game and she's become obsessed to the point it's affecting our relationship.
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