The overall answer is that people generally tend to react negatively to rejection.
If you've never rejected your boyfriend sexually before, I'm inclined to think you should give him the benefit of the doubt. Try to empathise with his apparent confusion and give him a bit of reassurance, and then make it clear that his cold-shoulder reaction is unacceptable and that he needs to be able to react more gracefully if you don't feel like having sex.
I feel like it's only natural that he's a bit taken aback if this is really the first time in 9 months that you have turned him down, but it needs to be clear to him that however rare it might be that you reject his advances, that's still entirely normal and needs to be treated with respect.
Just run – literally do not tell him your plans and secure a safe way to get away from him.
Someone who is willing to gaslight you to this extent has no shame and you're not going to get any traction calling him out.
There's literally no sexism in there. You must be answering to the wrong comment
she’s gotta help her one of her sisters with personal stuff that Reddit doesn’t need to know about.
to be honest even this was more information than we needed.
I told him the same he said he needed to breath and enjoy games without me constantly bitching and complaing and msging him
Men don't presume to read people's minds. We usually take people by their words at face value.
The overall answer is that people generally tend to react negatively to rejection.
If you've never rejected your boyfriend sexually before, I'm inclined to think you should give him the benefit of the doubt. Try to empathise with his apparent confusion and give him a bit of reassurance, and then make it clear that his cold-shoulder reaction is unacceptable and that he needs to be able to react more gracefully if you don't feel like having sex.
I feel like it's only natural that he's a bit taken aback if this is really the first time in 9 months that you have turned him down, but it needs to be clear to him that however rare it might be that you reject his advances, that's still entirely normal and needs to be treated with respect.