I have a unique perspective on this because I knew that my fiance had my ring before he proposed. I definitely have a Type A personality, and very much needed to be involved in picking my ring. I also would have no problem purchasing the ring myself if it meant getting the ring that I wanted.
In my situation, my fiance was passed down a ring from a family member. With his family's blessing, we took the ring to a jeweler to be put into a new setting. I went with him to pick up the ring, and even tried it on. I knew where he had it in our apartment, and could go look at it anytime I wanted. I will admit, that because I knew he had it, waiting for him to propose was kind of brutal. Anytime we went somewhere nice to eat, or did something out of the ordinary, I would get really anxious thinking that he was about to propose.
My concern for your situation, is that if you buy the ring, and tell your girlfriend that you have it, then she will start harassing you to propose asap. I would recommend that you let her know you have talked to the jeweler, that you 100% intend to get her that ring, but you do not have it yet. Either indicate that you have it on a payment plan, or alternatively, that they can make the ring for you in the future if the current one is sold. That way she knows that she will be getting the ring that she wants, but you don't have it in your possession right now, and may not have it for a while. This will allow you to still keep the proposal a surprise.
Finally, I recommend you stop telling her that “a ring's a ring”, because it's not true. Some people don't care about rings, and are happy being proposed to with a ring pop. Other people very much care about the ring. I get where you are coming from, but this is something that is clearly very important to her, and saying that is rather dismissive.
Sex isn’t something you practice dude
I have a unique perspective on this because I knew that my fiance had my ring before he proposed. I definitely have a Type A personality, and very much needed to be involved in picking my ring. I also would have no problem purchasing the ring myself if it meant getting the ring that I wanted.
In my situation, my fiance was passed down a ring from a family member. With his family's blessing, we took the ring to a jeweler to be put into a new setting. I went with him to pick up the ring, and even tried it on. I knew where he had it in our apartment, and could go look at it anytime I wanted. I will admit, that because I knew he had it, waiting for him to propose was kind of brutal. Anytime we went somewhere nice to eat, or did something out of the ordinary, I would get really anxious thinking that he was about to propose.
My concern for your situation, is that if you buy the ring, and tell your girlfriend that you have it, then she will start harassing you to propose asap. I would recommend that you let her know you have talked to the jeweler, that you 100% intend to get her that ring, but you do not have it yet. Either indicate that you have it on a payment plan, or alternatively, that they can make the ring for you in the future if the current one is sold. That way she knows that she will be getting the ring that she wants, but you don't have it in your possession right now, and may not have it for a while. This will allow you to still keep the proposal a surprise.
Finally, I recommend you stop telling her that “a ring's a ring”, because it's not true. Some people don't care about rings, and are happy being proposed to with a ring pop. Other people very much care about the ring. I get where you are coming from, but this is something that is clearly very important to her, and saying that is rather dismissive.
I don’t believe his bs
He’s just being a POS and is testing your intelligence. Glad you didn’t fall for it!
You dodged a bullet. Glad you’re blocking him and moving on, sis.