First understand that if you just found out, it's been going on for a while. If you confronted her now she would say “oh that was the first time we met, just friends, nothing happened we just talked” but it is almost a certainty this has been going on for a while. Her “mini marathon” is called sex with the other guy, whether there is a marathon, or she is in it is irrelevant, she's going with him.
If it were me, I would:
Organize all my stuff for easy packing under the guise (if needed) that you just wanted to. Talk to your friends, family, see if you can crash somewhere close. Right before she leaves for the trip, tell her. I mean, like seconds before she leaves. Start packing while she stands there and denies it, then says “we didn't do anything”, then tells you to get out because YOU are an asshole. Continue packing (and not say anything to her) while she starts making it all your fault. Ask her is she'll be late to meet the guy and “shouldn't you be going? I'll slip the key under the door when I am gone.”
DO NOT:
Engage in an argument, it will escalate, and you WILL become the bad guy, women do this, not sure on purpose but they will gaslight, then yell, then cry, all while trying to anger you and once you yell at her, now she has a “I was scared” excuse for everything.
Do anything more petty than taking all the batteries out of every device.
Contact her family, she controls the narrative, not you. All you will do is make yourself look petty. If they rach out, then you can say something. Instead, if you really need to, post it on social media. “Mary and I am no longer unfortunately, she cheated and I have left her” That's it.
I am so sorry man, I hate cheaters, they destroy so much more than our trust.
I agree!
No I found out through her texts when I was setting up her new iPhone. I could see the messages in real time thanks to iMessage.
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“I’m your wife and I just had a miscarriage with your baby and I’m in pain. I need your help. Set your ego aside and help me.” If he can’t, big yikes.
First understand that if you just found out, it's been going on for a while. If you confronted her now she would say “oh that was the first time we met, just friends, nothing happened we just talked” but it is almost a certainty this has been going on for a while. Her “mini marathon” is called sex with the other guy, whether there is a marathon, or she is in it is irrelevant, she's going with him.
If it were me, I would:
Organize all my stuff for easy packing under the guise (if needed) that you just wanted to. Talk to your friends, family, see if you can crash somewhere close. Right before she leaves for the trip, tell her. I mean, like seconds before she leaves. Start packing while she stands there and denies it, then says “we didn't do anything”, then tells you to get out because YOU are an asshole. Continue packing (and not say anything to her) while she starts making it all your fault. Ask her is she'll be late to meet the guy and “shouldn't you be going? I'll slip the key under the door when I am gone.”
DO NOT:
Engage in an argument, it will escalate, and you WILL become the bad guy, women do this, not sure on purpose but they will gaslight, then yell, then cry, all while trying to anger you and once you yell at her, now she has a “I was scared” excuse for everything.
Do anything more petty than taking all the batteries out of every device.
Contact her family, she controls the narrative, not you. All you will do is make yourself look petty. If they rach out, then you can say something. Instead, if you really need to, post it on social media. “Mary and I am no longer unfortunately, she cheated and I have left her” That's it.
I am so sorry man, I hate cheaters, they destroy so much more than our trust.