Upon further reflection and feedback, I have decided against doing this. Not because I think the guy is an innocent party in this who doesn’t deserve it; I think he’s a total scumbag. Simply because my partner and I are in a fragile moment of the process of slowly rebuilding trust and rebuilding our relationship.
Doing something behind her back that made me feel good in the moment but I knew was immoral was exactly what got me into this situation in the first place. While it’s not cheating, it’s driven by similar impulses and actions: knowingly hurting someone, seeking instant gratification, lying. I don’t like what that says about me. I want to become a changed person and I know this is not the way to do it.
I will instead focus on improving myself and our relationship. I will leave it to the universe to deal with him.
i never heard of someone who heard someone asking this… without being under cocaine.
my hypothesis is that it was stupid act from intoxication.
Upon further reflection and feedback, I have decided against doing this. Not because I think the guy is an innocent party in this who doesn’t deserve it; I think he’s a total scumbag. Simply because my partner and I are in a fragile moment of the process of slowly rebuilding trust and rebuilding our relationship.
Doing something behind her back that made me feel good in the moment but I knew was immoral was exactly what got me into this situation in the first place. While it’s not cheating, it’s driven by similar impulses and actions: knowingly hurting someone, seeking instant gratification, lying. I don’t like what that says about me. I want to become a changed person and I know this is not the way to do it.
I will instead focus on improving myself and our relationship. I will leave it to the universe to deal with him.