Out of interest how long is long enough? He's refused divorce and explicitly wants to reconcile, it's been over a year, she's refused couples counseling and literally melts down if there is any effort. 2 more years of this? 5? 10? OP needs to grow some spine and if she doesn't want to continue this marriage initiate divorce asap and separate for the good of the kids at bare minimum. Very interested to hear what length of time you're expecting
You need to get a hobby. How is hanging out while your partner works at a gas station even mildly interesting? Doesn't that annoy his boss on the days he isn't actively ignoring you? Did you at least download movies to a tablet to watch while you waited?
Don't stalk your boyfriend, don't continue to date someone who calls the cops on you. This is a bad situation. Go hang out with your friends and have them talk some sense into you.
If you are blindly complying with someone, this is what happens.
For a relationship to remain healthy, partners need to hold each other accountable. No accountability means one of you will slowly degenerate into a insensitive toddler, and that's what I see happening here.
Agree with the best advice here that if I were you, I would tell her this is not acceptable, and move out.
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Out of interest how long is long enough? He's refused divorce and explicitly wants to reconcile, it's been over a year, she's refused couples counseling and literally melts down if there is any effort. 2 more years of this? 5? 10? OP needs to grow some spine and if she doesn't want to continue this marriage initiate divorce asap and separate for the good of the kids at bare minimum. Very interested to hear what length of time you're expecting
You need to get a hobby. How is hanging out while your partner works at a gas station even mildly interesting? Doesn't that annoy his boss on the days he isn't actively ignoring you? Did you at least download movies to a tablet to watch while you waited?
Don't stalk your boyfriend, don't continue to date someone who calls the cops on you. This is a bad situation. Go hang out with your friends and have them talk some sense into you.
If you are blindly complying with someone, this is what happens.
For a relationship to remain healthy, partners need to hold each other accountable. No accountability means one of you will slowly degenerate into a insensitive toddler, and that's what I see happening here.
Agree with the best advice here that if I were you, I would tell her this is not acceptable, and move out.