He's just finished college, he's thinking what he wants in his future. He wants a family. He's not assuming that you want to be part of that bit he's leaving the door open. It isn't something to worry about.
a relation ship isn't 2 halves coming together to make a whole. It's two wholes who make something completely new.
It's not fair to expect the other to tread water with you till you both die.
That said, if there is something wrong, We should try to help as best we can and in turn we should see meaningful progress to recovery.
There is no right answer here. I think you need to address these issues head on (easier said then done) and if he doesn't show meaningful signs of change, he doesn't respect you enough to do it and you should not be in a marriage like that. Either way, focus on helping him best you can, but dont drown with him either. Either choice is VERY tough but not making a choice means youll be stuck in this limbo.
You're welcome. Find security in what you have with her. Realize that external validation is not worth a lot. It doesn't matter what a bunch of strangers or acquaintances think about your relationship. It matters what you and your girlfriend think of your relationship. Social media is a fantasy world. Live in the reality of your love.
If you don’t love her, don’t use her for sex. Somebody can be willing but it seems like she’s only willing because she thinks it’ll keep you with her. Either be done with the relationship and stop leading her and using her for sex, or actually work towards fixing things. The fact that you said you don’t love her in that way anymore says it all though so again. Stop using her.
I'm glad you have so much insight into the details of their courtship and personal lives.
He's just finished college, he's thinking what he wants in his future. He wants a family. He's not assuming that you want to be part of that bit he's leaving the door open. It isn't something to worry about.
a relation ship isn't 2 halves coming together to make a whole. It's two wholes who make something completely new.
It's not fair to expect the other to tread water with you till you both die.
That said, if there is something wrong, We should try to help as best we can and in turn we should see meaningful progress to recovery.
There is no right answer here. I think you need to address these issues head on (easier said then done) and if he doesn't show meaningful signs of change, he doesn't respect you enough to do it and you should not be in a marriage like that. Either way, focus on helping him best you can, but dont drown with him either. Either choice is VERY tough but not making a choice means youll be stuck in this limbo.
I read the title and instinctively screamed “oh my god!”. Which tells me an uncomfortable amount about me and my mother's relationship….
You're welcome. Find security in what you have with her. Realize that external validation is not worth a lot. It doesn't matter what a bunch of strangers or acquaintances think about your relationship. It matters what you and your girlfriend think of your relationship. Social media is a fantasy world. Live in the reality of your love.
Hit him back with, “I think going out for coffee is out of the question?”
If you don’t love her, don’t use her for sex. Somebody can be willing but it seems like she’s only willing because she thinks it’ll keep you with her. Either be done with the relationship and stop leading her and using her for sex, or actually work towards fixing things. The fact that you said you don’t love her in that way anymore says it all though so again. Stop using her.