She isn't really the right kind of partner for my career path. My colleagues tend to have partners who are in equally high-prestige, high-paying jobs. The more senior people (managing directors, etc.) tend to have stay-at-home spouses but the spouses do very high-profile charity work (serving on nonprofit boards, leading fundraising campaigns, etc.). I know she is trying to look the part, but I do end up embarrassed when she talks about her job. And some of my coworkers have made fun of me for being “married to a secretary.”
Maybe you can find an live job? You can teach students on-line, do online surveys, if you’re good at software you can apply for something related to that. Writing too. Tell a teacher, maybe they can help you find a job!
You seem a bit naive and hot headed, your mom is probably tired of talking. I say go for whatever YOU we’re told not to do, afterwards whatever happens YOU need to deal with the consequences and not run to mommy or blame her if and when it doesn’t work out.
Survive maybe, but taking semen from a trash condom and putting them in is a sure fire way to get infections down there. I don't think anyone would actually do that.
I just got breakfast in bed because today's my birthday. I'm consistently appalled at what the women here put up with: men have hands and eyes (probably) so, yes, they can do the laundry, the dishes, the cooking, and the cleaning. They choose not to because somehow too many women agree to exclusively do all of that.
Set the standards immediately on moving in together. Be prepared to leave if he doesn't meet them. An I love you once or twice a week is not a fair exchange for decades of domestic servitude probably while working a paid job as well!
Its sad for sure but OP doesn't seem sad. Only in that they are (I think) seeking support for their actions. Some people to say, hiss mom was wrong.
OPs mom gave her best years and is left with people that would rather be with others. Although it seems painful, this decision by OP to me indicates where his loyalty lies. The decision not to speak to her son might have been less important to her than the knowledge that her son would choose his father over her.
Now at least, she can rely on herself and hopefully she has the strength to form greater bonds with others.
It is more difficult as you get older though and the pain that your family just don't have your back must be immense. Though, many people find this out in matters of money and attraction.
Jesus Christ. It’s understandable that you would no longer be attracted, it sounds like she has a binging issue to deal with whatever mental issue problem Covid caused. I commend you for not just breaking up with her and asking for advice. I would have a very serious talk with her and she won’t be happy but you need to get this off your chest to either continue this or not to. Ask her if she would like therapy, and that you think it would benefit her. Offer a few options near you or online, show support because the next part will make her mad. Talk about how you understand some weight gain 20 lbs is pretty average but the amount she has gained is too much for you and you would like to help any way possible
That's a bonkers restraining order – can't contact her or anyone she knows? That's not even enforceable!
I think since she has forced your hand, do what your lawyers advise you to do.
She might lose a medical license, but I've never heard of anyone losing a completed academic degree, unless perhaps if it was found they committed plagiarism on part of their work.
Maybe have your lawyer contact her lawyer to line out exactly what kind of proof you have and ask her to consider whether she really wants that put into the public domain?
Is it genuine remorse? Because it’s really not a one time thing she did.
She isn't really the right kind of partner for my career path. My colleagues tend to have partners who are in equally high-prestige, high-paying jobs. The more senior people (managing directors, etc.) tend to have stay-at-home spouses but the spouses do very high-profile charity work (serving on nonprofit boards, leading fundraising campaigns, etc.). I know she is trying to look the part, but I do end up embarrassed when she talks about her job. And some of my coworkers have made fun of me for being “married to a secretary.”
Maybe you can find an live job? You can teach students on-line, do online surveys, if you’re good at software you can apply for something related to that. Writing too. Tell a teacher, maybe they can help you find a job!
How so?
Give him money or a gift card or a kick up the arse
You seem a bit naive and hot headed, your mom is probably tired of talking. I say go for whatever YOU we’re told not to do, afterwards whatever happens YOU need to deal with the consequences and not run to mommy or blame her if and when it doesn’t work out.
Survive maybe, but taking semen from a trash condom and putting them in is a sure fire way to get infections down there. I don't think anyone would actually do that.
Yes. Please get back into a qualified role. Feather your nest. Supercharge your retirement account.
Therapy with your r/JustNoSO (though understandable if you don’t want to give things a chance with such a horrible man).
I just got breakfast in bed because today's my birthday. I'm consistently appalled at what the women here put up with: men have hands and eyes (probably) so, yes, they can do the laundry, the dishes, the cooking, and the cleaning. They choose not to because somehow too many women agree to exclusively do all of that.
Set the standards immediately on moving in together. Be prepared to leave if he doesn't meet them. An I love you once or twice a week is not a fair exchange for decades of domestic servitude probably while working a paid job as well!
Do you prioritise your friends over her by any chance? If yes then I think she has posted here too, but her perspective was a bit different.
Its sad for sure but OP doesn't seem sad. Only in that they are (I think) seeking support for their actions. Some people to say, hiss mom was wrong.
OPs mom gave her best years and is left with people that would rather be with others. Although it seems painful, this decision by OP to me indicates where his loyalty lies. The decision not to speak to her son might have been less important to her than the knowledge that her son would choose his father over her.
Now at least, she can rely on herself and hopefully she has the strength to form greater bonds with others.
It is more difficult as you get older though and the pain that your family just don't have your back must be immense. Though, many people find this out in matters of money and attraction.
I don't understand why you think it's impossible to love more than one person in your life.
The universe is screaming at you that this dude is a bad idea. LISTEN.
Jesus Christ. It’s understandable that you would no longer be attracted, it sounds like she has a binging issue to deal with whatever mental issue problem Covid caused. I commend you for not just breaking up with her and asking for advice. I would have a very serious talk with her and she won’t be happy but you need to get this off your chest to either continue this or not to. Ask her if she would like therapy, and that you think it would benefit her. Offer a few options near you or online, show support because the next part will make her mad. Talk about how you understand some weight gain 20 lbs is pretty average but the amount she has gained is too much for you and you would like to help any way possible
So then you already know it’s a HIM problem, and it has nothing to do with you.
Pack your most precious things and leave.
Hot to change a racist man into a non racist man
I'd say it's hopeless
basically it said that my dad and I had very little relation
I read that as saying they were minimally relayed, not that they had similar ancestral backgrounds. Ancestry DNA does show matches and cM for matches.
That's a bonkers restraining order – can't contact her or anyone she knows? That's not even enforceable!
I think since she has forced your hand, do what your lawyers advise you to do.
She might lose a medical license, but I've never heard of anyone losing a completed academic degree, unless perhaps if it was found they committed plagiarism on part of their work.
Maybe have your lawyer contact her lawyer to line out exactly what kind of proof you have and ask her to consider whether she really wants that put into the public domain?
Child support even though he didn't know? Harshy !
The hyacinth girl disagrees.
I almost wish this was a troll account but actual trolls don’t come back to shit for hours like this that I’ve seen
I think this train wreck is real unfortunately
I would like to know a hell of a whole lot more about the conversation they had.
Perhaps he’s looking for a way out and would rather blame you than admit it.
8 months is too soon.