Hi! I’m in a large age gap relationship (larger than OP). You made some great points. Age gap relationships are not for everyone. You really need to have a complete understanding of who you are.
At 25, OP May have had the life experiences needed for that relationship. I certainly did. And I knew who I was and what I wanted. I wasn’t looking for a partner, it just happened.
OP definitely needs to be on the same page as her boyfriend. My SO and I have different thought processes, but we arrive at the same conclusion almost every time. There are some things we have different opinions on, but nothing that’s a deal breaker or red flag.
The way he treats her is key. My SO has never tried to persuade me. They have never talked down to me. They listen to my opinion and respond accordingly. They have never twisted my words, or took my words out of context. They really truly respect me, and I respect them.
Not being financially stable is a tough one. When I met my SO he was financially stable. Then COVID happened and their credit was ruined and they got behind on bills.
Overall, this is the best relationship I have ever been in. I’ve been in relationships with guy my age, and I could never connect with them. We grew up in the same time, but had completely different expectations and views/plans on life. My SO and I grew up in completely different generations, yet I understand him better than people my age (besides some of his jokes lol). And whatever I don’t understand I ask him to explain, and vice versa.
Idk, thought I’d give some perspective on large age gap relationships. I never thought I’d be in one, I was not planning on entering a relationship when I met my SO (this almost sounds like he talked me into it, which he didn’t. It was 100% my decision.)
Oh, also, not all men who end up with a younger woman are searching for that. My SO was in a relationship with a woman older than him when we met, he’s always dated around his age until me.
Then you get rid of your wife. When someone has a kid there is always a chance said kid may end up living woth them even if they don't have a lot of custody initially. Your wife can't be civil with a little kid then she needs to go, not the kid. Your poor kid probably already struggles with not havign her mom anymore and here you're trying to pawn her of because your wife is an AH. And so are you if you stay with her
Yes, we have, you were jumping all over my comments in another thread trying to bait me into a conversation about libido.
I have no interest in you whatsoever. Fuck off.
Hi! I’m in a large age gap relationship (larger than OP). You made some great points. Age gap relationships are not for everyone. You really need to have a complete understanding of who you are.
At 25, OP May have had the life experiences needed for that relationship. I certainly did. And I knew who I was and what I wanted. I wasn’t looking for a partner, it just happened.
OP definitely needs to be on the same page as her boyfriend. My SO and I have different thought processes, but we arrive at the same conclusion almost every time. There are some things we have different opinions on, but nothing that’s a deal breaker or red flag.
The way he treats her is key. My SO has never tried to persuade me. They have never talked down to me. They listen to my opinion and respond accordingly. They have never twisted my words, or took my words out of context. They really truly respect me, and I respect them.
Not being financially stable is a tough one. When I met my SO he was financially stable. Then COVID happened and their credit was ruined and they got behind on bills.
Overall, this is the best relationship I have ever been in. I’ve been in relationships with guy my age, and I could never connect with them. We grew up in the same time, but had completely different expectations and views/plans on life. My SO and I grew up in completely different generations, yet I understand him better than people my age (besides some of his jokes lol). And whatever I don’t understand I ask him to explain, and vice versa.
Idk, thought I’d give some perspective on large age gap relationships. I never thought I’d be in one, I was not planning on entering a relationship when I met my SO (this almost sounds like he talked me into it, which he didn’t. It was 100% my decision.)
Oh, also, not all men who end up with a younger woman are searching for that. My SO was in a relationship with a woman older than him when we met, he’s always dated around his age until me.
Then you get rid of your wife. When someone has a kid there is always a chance said kid may end up living woth them even if they don't have a lot of custody initially. Your wife can't be civil with a little kid then she needs to go, not the kid. Your poor kid probably already struggles with not havign her mom anymore and here you're trying to pawn her of because your wife is an AH. And so are you if you stay with her