If someone is asking a group of people for opinions – you're bound to not like or be offended by some. That's how free speech works. You can cherry pick what you want.
You can stay if you want, but make sure you and she have a mutual understanding as to what your sex life is going to be like when you are married.
I can comfortably say that often the “wait til marriage” crowd has sexual hang-ups that prevent them from enjoying it as they should. Not as a jab, but when you place self-worth on your sexual abstinence, flipping that switch feels like doing something wrong, even in a martial bed.
Personally, I say I wouldn't be willing to risk a sexless or bad-sex marriage. She needs to be able to reassure you this isn't going to be an issue past that point, or that she will be willing to get help if it becomes an issue.
This isn't an unreasonable line in the sand for either of you. Though you stand to lose a lot more if you do as she prefers and is reticent post-marriage.
In short, my advice is to ask her if she ties her self-worth to her virginity and ask her how she thinks it'll affect her sex life going forward if she does. Tell her you'll be willing to drop it if she promises she will be willing to look into counseling if it's an issue after the fact.
I am sorry she is cheating on you. I am sorry she is gaslighting you.
I am sorry she is harming both the Poly and LGBTIA+ communities by using them as excuses.
But she is not cheating less by being Bi or Poly, or by trying to make you the instigator to her affair.
Say no.
Don't let her tell the courts you were trying to get her to do a threesome and it got out of control when you are fighting for custody of your 3 babies.
Yup, I’ve been there. Guess what happened? Husband stopped talking to me and I missed it so much, I begged him to start sharing everything with me again.
Sorry bro she doesn't sound ready for an adult relationship yet. You can try telling her outright that you need her to actually communicate with you instead of joking but it sounds like it'll fall on deaf ears.
Don’t be her second choice because you’re better than that. She knows how he is and is still pining for him? That’s gonna be a no from me dawg.
If someone is asking a group of people for opinions – you're bound to not like or be offended by some. That's how free speech works. You can cherry pick what you want.
You can stay if you want, but make sure you and she have a mutual understanding as to what your sex life is going to be like when you are married.
I can comfortably say that often the “wait til marriage” crowd has sexual hang-ups that prevent them from enjoying it as they should. Not as a jab, but when you place self-worth on your sexual abstinence, flipping that switch feels like doing something wrong, even in a martial bed.
Personally, I say I wouldn't be willing to risk a sexless or bad-sex marriage. She needs to be able to reassure you this isn't going to be an issue past that point, or that she will be willing to get help if it becomes an issue.
This isn't an unreasonable line in the sand for either of you. Though you stand to lose a lot more if you do as she prefers and is reticent post-marriage.
In short, my advice is to ask her if she ties her self-worth to her virginity and ask her how she thinks it'll affect her sex life going forward if she does. Tell her you'll be willing to drop it if she promises she will be willing to look into counseling if it's an issue after the fact.
The real reason to divorce is always in the comments.
In this case, every reason from the op to each and every comment is a “real reason.”
I am sorry she is cheating on you. I am sorry she is gaslighting you.
I am sorry she is harming both the Poly and LGBTIA+ communities by using them as excuses.
But she is not cheating less by being Bi or Poly, or by trying to make you the instigator to her affair.
Say no.
Don't let her tell the courts you were trying to get her to do a threesome and it got out of control when you are fighting for custody of your 3 babies.
You really sure like talking to someone who treats you like a piece of shit.
Yup, I’ve been there. Guess what happened? Husband stopped talking to me and I missed it so much, I begged him to start sharing everything with me again.
From your answers it sounds that he is better off without you. You are projecting all of your insecurities to him.
Sorry bro she doesn't sound ready for an adult relationship yet. You can try telling her outright that you need her to actually communicate with you instead of joking but it sounds like it'll fall on deaf ears.