Hold firm, but pay attention to how she treats a firm boundary. A healthy partner will try to honor your boundary and manage their own frustration, a manipulative partner will put words in your mouth about what your actions “means.” Project this into the future with every boundary you can imagine.
The problem I see here is that OP is downplaying an obvious mental illness in her MIL, which led to her leaving her alone with her children. MIL should definitely not be left alone with the kids. I also believe that it's unfair to just kick her out over this, as a lot of her actions may be genuinely out of her control. It seems like when OP and her husband are there, she's much more manageable. It's unfortunate, and OP may not like it, but she may also have to babysit MIL while she's around for the holidays.
Hold firm, but pay attention to how she treats a firm boundary. A healthy partner will try to honor your boundary and manage their own frustration, a manipulative partner will put words in your mouth about what your actions “means.” Project this into the future with every boundary you can imagine.
The problem I see here is that OP is downplaying an obvious mental illness in her MIL, which led to her leaving her alone with her children. MIL should definitely not be left alone with the kids. I also believe that it's unfair to just kick her out over this, as a lot of her actions may be genuinely out of her control. It seems like when OP and her husband are there, she's much more manageable. It's unfortunate, and OP may not like it, but she may also have to babysit MIL while she's around for the holidays.
He’s comfortable. At his grown age he’s Josip at leave go halves with you. You’re financially taking care of a middle aged man
You're not falling in love, you're rebounding and confusing lust with love most likely.