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I think OP just phrased things poorly. From what I understand he hooked up with this girl 2 years ago during a period when they had split up so he didn't actually cheat. This hookup just lied about the timing so it sounded like he cheated.
Sure, you can do it for the purpose of improving yourself but I assume it could provide the additional benefit of explaining yourself a bit and showing that you care about making changes
Cheating starts at the emotional side of the spectrum. So you two clearly have some chemistry and have already crossed that line. You further crossed the line when you started cuddling. You went even further by making a pac with each other.
So to answer your question, yes, you messed up big time. Best thing to do is to come clean, own it, be truthful, and realize the trust will be completely wiped out to 0. Starting couples counseling will likely be necessary to repair the broken trust and sort through your issues as your cheating is likely the result of deeper issues that need to be addressed professionally.
Source: I went to couples counseling. We read a book called, “Not Just Friends”, which by many therapist is regarded as the infidelity bible to navigating these situations. These aren’t just my opinions.
I see therapy, couples counseling on here a ton..Yet many or most end up breaking up. I am for therapy but here is the deal. You have to stop the behavior. I also think when it gets to this point. The semblance of an real chance at a long term intimate relationship with that person is very small…..When I first started going to AA to stop drinking, I would get three days and relapse, then 5 days, and eventually I had to completely stop doing all the behaviors. Put the plug in the jug.
Quit having friends with people you could date, it is inappropriate in a marriage. The intimacy belongs in the marriage, not an EA. You guys are great examples of why it doesn't work. Stop getting so drunk you have no control over behavior. I never kissed someone I didn't want to..and I am a recovering drunk. Develop some kinks in your marriage to help sex life stay alive, make it a priority. Keep all devices open to the public. If it so bad the other person should not see it, you shouldn't be doing it.
I think OP just phrased things poorly. From what I understand he hooked up with this girl 2 years ago during a period when they had split up so he didn't actually cheat. This hookup just lied about the timing so it sounded like he cheated.
It could easily backfire if he doesn't reply on Monday.
Sure, you can do it for the purpose of improving yourself but I assume it could provide the additional benefit of explaining yourself a bit and showing that you care about making changes
I think he meant in the aspect of where (she expects it to be on vacation so he probably feels forced to do it on vacation now).
Cheating starts at the emotional side of the spectrum. So you two clearly have some chemistry and have already crossed that line. You further crossed the line when you started cuddling. You went even further by making a pac with each other.
So to answer your question, yes, you messed up big time. Best thing to do is to come clean, own it, be truthful, and realize the trust will be completely wiped out to 0. Starting couples counseling will likely be necessary to repair the broken trust and sort through your issues as your cheating is likely the result of deeper issues that need to be addressed professionally.
Source: I went to couples counseling. We read a book called, “Not Just Friends”, which by many therapist is regarded as the infidelity bible to navigating these situations. These aren’t just my opinions.
He would just say no because he’s a nice guy and wouldn’t want to hurt my feelings.
Pretty sure no cultural identity (an “us”) exists without the existence of some kind of “other”.
I see therapy, couples counseling on here a ton..Yet many or most end up breaking up. I am for therapy but here is the deal. You have to stop the behavior. I also think when it gets to this point. The semblance of an real chance at a long term intimate relationship with that person is very small…..When I first started going to AA to stop drinking, I would get three days and relapse, then 5 days, and eventually I had to completely stop doing all the behaviors. Put the plug in the jug.
Quit having friends with people you could date, it is inappropriate in a marriage. The intimacy belongs in the marriage, not an EA. You guys are great examples of why it doesn't work. Stop getting so drunk you have no control over behavior. I never kissed someone I didn't want to..and I am a recovering drunk. Develop some kinks in your marriage to help sex life stay alive, make it a priority. Keep all devices open to the public. If it so bad the other person should not see it, you shouldn't be doing it.
Good luck.