And at that point she had been informed that he had cheated on her, and did not feel comfortable with him around. I don’t even have a kid but I wouldn’t let someone who had lied and betrayed me hold my nephew, especially without me in the room.
He convinced her the girl was lying two weeks after the birth. So she did let him hold the kid while she still thought he had cheated on her. That’s beyond magnanimous.
I don’t doubt that it was painful for OP to not be there. It was also painful for his girlfriend to not know if he’d been unfaithful to her while she was pregnant. it’s a painful situation for both of them. Hopefully they can see that and emphasize with each other to get through this situation rather than try comparing who had the shittier end of the situation. He didn’t get to see the birth of his child and she had to give birth on her own without being able to trust OP or have loving feelings between them. Neither person got the delivery they had wanted. She probably imagined OP would be there holding her hand and it would be such be such a great moment for them as a family. But with all this cheating shit, there’s no way she’d want him holding her hand and comforting her while she’s trying to figure out if he did cheat….tbh, even tho OP is 29, he lacks maturity and emotional intelligence. It’s possible to feel shitty about the situation WITHOUT blaming his girlfriend. Bc it’s not her fault. She did what she had to in the moment. I’m not really sure why he’s blaming his gf when the real culprit is that girl he hooked up that sent the message. why is he not angry at her? this whole thing was that chick’s fault…..
Boy, if I had a nickel for every reddit post from a person whose partner wanted an open relationship, then immediately regretted it when the poster got the attention their partner was looking for, I'd be LOADED
You're a massive piece of shit. Leave her alone and stop treating women you're “friends” with as potential dating options in waiting. You're not their friend.
Also, that little legal disclaimer at the top of the post is laughably stupid.
You are going to have to make a choice. Seems like you got off on the wrong foot and now do not like each other. However she is going to be in your life for a long while now, so it is worth trying to mend bridges. Maybe ask her to go for drinks together and bond. It is not fun to take the “high road”, but sometimes it is worth it. At least this way, no one can say you didn't try.
When you ask to go on dates he gets upset, calls you selfish and breaks up with you? What a walking red flag this one is.
Stop cleaning for him, stop walking his dogs, stop all household chores. You’re not a maid.
Even without the issue here regarding his friend, this sounds like a horrible situation to be in. Please block him and focus on self care, OP. You deserve more than someone who breaks up with you for arranging dates.
And at that point she had been informed that he had cheated on her, and did not feel comfortable with him around. I don’t even have a kid but I wouldn’t let someone who had lied and betrayed me hold my nephew, especially without me in the room.
He convinced her the girl was lying two weeks after the birth. So she did let him hold the kid while she still thought he had cheated on her. That’s beyond magnanimous.
I don’t doubt that it was painful for OP to not be there. It was also painful for his girlfriend to not know if he’d been unfaithful to her while she was pregnant. it’s a painful situation for both of them. Hopefully they can see that and emphasize with each other to get through this situation rather than try comparing who had the shittier end of the situation. He didn’t get to see the birth of his child and she had to give birth on her own without being able to trust OP or have loving feelings between them. Neither person got the delivery they had wanted. She probably imagined OP would be there holding her hand and it would be such be such a great moment for them as a family. But with all this cheating shit, there’s no way she’d want him holding her hand and comforting her while she’s trying to figure out if he did cheat….tbh, even tho OP is 29, he lacks maturity and emotional intelligence. It’s possible to feel shitty about the situation WITHOUT blaming his girlfriend. Bc it’s not her fault. She did what she had to in the moment. I’m not really sure why he’s blaming his gf when the real culprit is that girl he hooked up that sent the message. why is he not angry at her? this whole thing was that chick’s fault…..
Boy, if I had a nickel for every reddit post from a person whose partner wanted an open relationship, then immediately regretted it when the poster got the attention their partner was looking for, I'd be LOADED
Leave this asshole.
You're a massive piece of shit. Leave her alone and stop treating women you're “friends” with as potential dating options in waiting. You're not their friend.
Also, that little legal disclaimer at the top of the post is laughably stupid.
You are going to have to make a choice. Seems like you got off on the wrong foot and now do not like each other. However she is going to be in your life for a long while now, so it is worth trying to mend bridges. Maybe ask her to go for drinks together and bond. It is not fun to take the “high road”, but sometimes it is worth it. At least this way, no one can say you didn't try.
When you ask to go on dates he gets upset, calls you selfish and breaks up with you? What a walking red flag this one is.
Stop cleaning for him, stop walking his dogs, stop all household chores. You’re not a maid.
Even without the issue here regarding his friend, this sounds like a horrible situation to be in. Please block him and focus on self care, OP. You deserve more than someone who breaks up with you for arranging dates.