I used to talk to them when she was home but after some discussions, we both agreed that it wouldn't happen while we were together.
I won't deny the talks are long, somewhere between 30 min to an hour. But most of the time we talk about subjects that I just can't share with my wife. Both my sister and I like the arts and we grew on a home that had a lot of art going on.
My wife is the kind of person that believes that arts are just a mere hobby and she wouldn't ever consider practicing any kind of art as “it doesn't add any value to her life”. This “value/money” oriented mentality makes any art talk goes into the trash, as it is useless.
The red flag is the 49 year old dating someone half his age. Also yes what he said is another red flag. You’re just one big fetish to him, girl we see enough of this shit on this thread. Learn from your predecessors and RUN
….and That is where the disconnect is; the difference between what you anticipate
and that which you expect.
YOU “anticipate “equal energy put into any sort of relationship”.
You “expect” that you will put your own energy into the Bond, and wonder if
you should continue.
Unstated, but implied, is that your choice to continue to put energy is somehow
contingent on the OTHER person putting in energy from THEIR side. Its NOT.
You can make the Free choice to put in energy……or not. One might HOPE
that the other person would contribute, and for the health of the Bond we
all pray that he does. However, what you are asking of the people here is to
assess the worthiness of continued contributions of energy and that is solely
the decision of ONE PERSON – YOU. ONLY YOU can determine if you desire
to continue along a Path you originally elected to follow. Not your partner's
behavior…..not the values of the people here. YOU and You alone. Period.
Dude she’s clearly not interested, how many’s signs do u need?
I used to talk to them when she was home but after some discussions, we both agreed that it wouldn't happen while we were together.
I won't deny the talks are long, somewhere between 30 min to an hour. But most of the time we talk about subjects that I just can't share with my wife. Both my sister and I like the arts and we grew on a home that had a lot of art going on.
My wife is the kind of person that believes that arts are just a mere hobby and she wouldn't ever consider practicing any kind of art as “it doesn't add any value to her life”. This “value/money” oriented mentality makes any art talk goes into the trash, as it is useless.
The red flag is the 49 year old dating someone half his age. Also yes what he said is another red flag. You’re just one big fetish to him, girl we see enough of this shit on this thread. Learn from your predecessors and RUN
“I'm sorry your feel that way. But I have to be free to grow as my own adult and that involves being independent. I love you.”