Thanks for your comment 🙂 Yes I regularly talk with my therapist about it and it comes down to low self-esteem I guess, the blame and self-loathing, not feeling good enough. Apparently blaming myself for the end of the relationship is another way of keeping control? Not quite sure but it's really very hot not to, because my ex literally blames me for everything. I also think that I am anxiously attached, if you are familiar with attachment theory. I'm trying to see the relationship from a more objective point of view, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. Meh :/
He drinks every day? Sure sounds like an alcoholic to me. Get yourself to AlAnon. You can't fix this for him, or help him stop. You can only decide what you are willing to tolerate and what you are not.
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Thanks for your comment 🙂 Yes I regularly talk with my therapist about it and it comes down to low self-esteem I guess, the blame and self-loathing, not feeling good enough. Apparently blaming myself for the end of the relationship is another way of keeping control? Not quite sure but it's really very hot not to, because my ex literally blames me for everything. I also think that I am anxiously attached, if you are familiar with attachment theory. I'm trying to see the relationship from a more objective point of view, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. Meh :/
He drinks every day? Sure sounds like an alcoholic to me. Get yourself to AlAnon. You can't fix this for him, or help him stop. You can only decide what you are willing to tolerate and what you are not.
Fair reasoning.