But also, if 'others' means like his friends and neighbours… then of course they would have the same experience. Some people just really don't comprehend how big the world is and how different the approach to law is from place to place…
Can you imagine going line by line over each purchase and she asks you did you spend that on her, I mean would you even remember and so what if you did. This has nothing to do with closure or lying. It is about wanting to evaluate what you mean to someone by how much you spend on them. As if money is some kind of token to tell how people feel by how much they spend on someone.
Do you think that is a healthy way to think about relationships?
If someone asks you for something and you feel sad about it, then trust your feelings that are telling you that this isn't okay.
You have the right to say no to things that make you feel uncomfortable and be respected for your choices, when they are reasonable and rational choices then no one should have a problem and if they do then they are being unreasonable and irrational and that needs help to fix from someone but not you.
You guys haven’t really been together long enough to make a major move like this and you both want to eventually go back to where your family lives. It might be best to just cut your losses and end the relationship now because you aren’t happy in NYC and she is, and you both want different outcomes.
I wanna also say that you have a right to be upset about this. I want my SO to be upfront with me no matter what, even if it's something like this and I do my best to do the same. I
The same place you got 18 from lmao
But also, if 'others' means like his friends and neighbours… then of course they would have the same experience. Some people just really don't comprehend how big the world is and how different the approach to law is from place to place…
Can you imagine going line by line over each purchase and she asks you did you spend that on her, I mean would you even remember and so what if you did. This has nothing to do with closure or lying. It is about wanting to evaluate what you mean to someone by how much you spend on them. As if money is some kind of token to tell how people feel by how much they spend on someone.
Do you think that is a healthy way to think about relationships?
If someone asks you for something and you feel sad about it, then trust your feelings that are telling you that this isn't okay.
You have the right to say no to things that make you feel uncomfortable and be respected for your choices, when they are reasonable and rational choices then no one should have a problem and if they do then they are being unreasonable and irrational and that needs help to fix from someone but not you.
It's disturbing that you've made this about you and your feelings.
OP was also sexually harassed as the ex boyfriend sent him unsolicited pornography.
You guys haven’t really been together long enough to make a major move like this and you both want to eventually go back to where your family lives. It might be best to just cut your losses and end the relationship now because you aren’t happy in NYC and she is, and you both want different outcomes.
I wanna also say that you have a right to be upset about this. I want my SO to be upfront with me no matter what, even if it's something like this and I do my best to do the same. I