A lot of people on reddit have the misguided idea that any time a woman asks for a break it means she was already cheating or plans to get with another man. Sure, this happens in some cases, but far too many people here treat it as an absolute and apply it like a stereotype. I usually see this assumption on posts about women asking for a break, and hardly ever on posts about men asking for one.
The reality is that people ask for breaks for any number of reasons. Mental health concerns, abuse, stress, family emergencies, conflict, trauma. There is no “normally” reason for a break that is typical of most cases.
You said so yourself that neither of you were handling stress well and you were being passive aggressive and indecisive. You gave us far more context than anyone else here could use to leap to the conclusion that she might be testing out another relationship.
Again, could she be? Sure. But be careful here. Don't let anyone cause you to spiral into anxiety about a possibility you gave no indication of. You know far more than we do.
That’s rough. Good luck buddy. This is the type of thing that no stranger can give you a proper advice on, this is deeply personal, and will be nude to navigate through.
Strongly disagree. That's absurd. If she feels that way she needs a therapist. And OP's desperation to fix it is probably causing her further upset.
OP, ask your wife to have a conversation with you in 5 days (or whenever). Tell her that you want to talk and do whatever is needed but that you'll quit hounding her if she'll agree to a sit down after some time. Then chill out. Let her figure out what the issue is. It's okay to need time. The way she's handling it is weird…don't add to the weird. And if she needs to communicate in writing because she can't voice her issue, then try that.
I’m not even saying she’s lying
Then what exactly are you saying? It’s hot for me to think of another coherent interpretation of your comment.
I know I have extreme anxiety, I never considered having adhd because I dont' have problems focusing on tasks but hmh. Idk. thanks!
A lot of people on reddit have the misguided idea that any time a woman asks for a break it means she was already cheating or plans to get with another man. Sure, this happens in some cases, but far too many people here treat it as an absolute and apply it like a stereotype. I usually see this assumption on posts about women asking for a break, and hardly ever on posts about men asking for one.
The reality is that people ask for breaks for any number of reasons. Mental health concerns, abuse, stress, family emergencies, conflict, trauma. There is no “normally” reason for a break that is typical of most cases.
You said so yourself that neither of you were handling stress well and you were being passive aggressive and indecisive. You gave us far more context than anyone else here could use to leap to the conclusion that she might be testing out another relationship.
Again, could she be? Sure. But be careful here. Don't let anyone cause you to spiral into anxiety about a possibility you gave no indication of. You know far more than we do.
That’s rough. Good luck buddy. This is the type of thing that no stranger can give you a proper advice on, this is deeply personal, and will be nude to navigate through.
Strongly disagree. That's absurd. If she feels that way she needs a therapist. And OP's desperation to fix it is probably causing her further upset.
OP, ask your wife to have a conversation with you in 5 days (or whenever). Tell her that you want to talk and do whatever is needed but that you'll quit hounding her if she'll agree to a sit down after some time. Then chill out. Let her figure out what the issue is. It's okay to need time. The way she's handling it is weird…don't add to the weird. And if she needs to communicate in writing because she can't voice her issue, then try that.