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Date: October 28, 2022
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Nothing more to discuss, because if you don't do this, it will circulate untill your BIL has found out, as in a long time.
He seemingly doesn’t know what he wants. Listen to me when I say – don’t wait around for anybody who isn’t sure about you. Ik you still love him and care about him but if he’s willing to leave for himself you HAVE to be able to do the same thing. Don’t wait for someone. It isn’t fair for you.
You don't have to stay with him just because he does have some redeeming qualities.
If you feel you're overall unhappy in this relationship, you're entitled to leave.
He wants to be a father, but only when all the work is done and without paying anything or supporting the mother in any way
Huh…
Granted I've been out of the dating pool for 25 years but even then after early college, people didn't say that.
Instead it was “Hey, this isn't really working out for me – I wish you well” or “Hey, it was fun getting to know you but I don't think we are right for each other…”
When you run into someone you know, from any circumstance in life, you simply give a polite hello and move on with your day. To your date, you simply tell her that the other woman is a casual acquaintance, which she was. To not acknowledge someone is rude. For you to expect the woman you briefly dated to change her routine because you entered the room is ridiculous and speaks to your lack of maturity.
Thanks for your fiction.
Happy birthday, king. Fellow Californian cheering you on
Thank you, I did show my boyfriend the screenshots, I mean it doesn't change anything as he was on my side regardless, but I do feel better 🙂
Why would you marry this girl? Do HER a favor and move on. You will only break her heart as sex is a very important aspect of a relationship. Move on! You already cheated on her multiple times and want to do it again. Stop being so selfish and let her be happy with someone else.
Wow, you should really join law enforcement, considering your impressive ability to spot abusers based on the most minute info provided!!
Also you’re paying more rent on the place, you have more right to your time there if you ask me. That baffles me, my partner WFH and I don’t have him pay more.
Jesus, get over yourself, it's just hair and not even your hair. You sound incredibly high maintenance.
Ask for your money? Is he on the lease?
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Was there any particular reason you waited so many years to do the test. With or without your exs permission nothing stopped you early on from doing a paternity test when your ex wasn't around. If anything assuming that you no longer live! with your ex and live! with your wife why did you never do a test after you stopped seeing her? And why a sibling test?
Lastly, let's say that the kid is yours, how are you going to reconsider with him the fact that you have seen/treated him different from his brother?
Oh I never saw it from this way, I just wonder what they gain from this? For me it's uncomfortable.
Yall need to have a serious conversation. Let him know how it makes you feel. Be open and honest even if it makes him feel bad. Sometimes people need to feel bad to know they've made others feel bad. Don't guilt trip him but if he feels bad for how he has made you feel then that is good and will help him not to do it anymore. Discuss with him what ways he thinks you could help him overcome this. Maybe you sending him dirty pictures and videos would be helpful? Give him content to jerk off to. Try looking up some of the research regarding porn addiction, the effects on the brain and the penis, the effects on relationships. Your relationship can be saved, his addiction can be quit. But you need to ask yourself if you wanna go through all this for this guy. Is he the one? Is he your soul mate? If not it's really not worth the effort. You're just dating. You're young. If you think he's the one you wanna spend forever with then fight for it but otherwise don't go through the heartache. If he backslides it will destroy you emotionally. If he is lying to you about it it will destroy you. It isn't worth all that if you aren't in true love.
Yeah it sounds like he’s dating both of you but just doesn’t call it that with her. It would be one thing if this was someone he’d known a long time but he’s known her less time than he’s known you
Write this script and go pitch it in Hollywood.
That doesn’t make much sense. There’s rent, utilities, internet, any tv/streaming services and food. All of those things should be split if both of you are using them. Perhaps you can each get your own food, but then you’d both be cooking for only yourselves each night.
And then you both should be cleaning up after yourselves, but sometimes that means cleaning up each other’s little messes.
I think her expectations are completely unrealistic. But I wonder if she’s acting like this to try to get you to propose?
If you’re not ready to propose, that’s totally understandable and reasonable. However, if you want to remain in the relationship, consider taking her to lunch or out for coffee to really discuss what she’s offering so little and if she’s ultimately hoping for a proposal or if she’s concerned about something else. See if you can get her to open up. Hopefully that will help you to understand this better so then you can decide the next course of action.
Good luck!
I’m concerned for your own safety as well
Yeah. Somewhere I agree with her. But I guess it’s difficult to take criticism.
What? What did gaming ever do? The issue is with the husband having an emotional affair with this woman and repeatedly leaping over his wife's boundaries at every opportunity. So yeah, the woman has to go, and yeah that means that gaming group has to go, since she's part of it. But he doesn't need to give up his hobby to be a good husband. That would be like telling someone they had to give up reading because they got too invested in someone in their book club. That makes no sense.
That makes it much harder…
I'd just stay away then. You've done as much as could be asked of you and this isn't your fault.
As someone who stayed with an ex because of their suicidality, you really can't do anything. Their behavior isn't your responsibility and you aren't in control of their mental health. Or their failure to seek treatment. Or their decision to take acid for 2 weeks.
Just chill, this isn't your fight.
So out of everything she wrote , the only thing you got from this is she needs to hit the gym? You’re going to over look how her ex is a shitty man & her family are jerks? Since when is it okay to divorce someone because they’re now older ? You gave absolutely no advice other then to try to guilt her for her health . For all you know , she could have other issues – asthma , allergies , chronic illnesses , etc but you picked weight related ones .
I coach and mentor middle and high school kids (USA). They each shoulder all sorts of baggage, too often placed their by their parents. I can only imagine how this all affects them and do not try to convince me that what you and your wife are doing doesn't affect them, is none of their business, or that “they're just kids.” I've seen too much in my 30+ years of coaching and mentoring to know that's nonsense.
Your present misery and your wife being “a wreck” are completely self-inflicted. Your kids will be forced to one day try to make sense of it all as they gain an understanding of what you two are doing. It will be during their formative years that they look at your examples and develop for themselves their own sense of what love is, what commitment to a spouse and family looks like, when and how to value self-control over self indulgence, etc. They won't understand what you two are doing or why, but they will absolutely notice each of your conspicuous absences at odd times, the misery you each show when the other is out with their…whatever they are, and the distance what you two are doing is creating between you and them.
You only casually mentioned the fact that you have three kids and then the rest of your post and comments are about your and your wife's cycle of misery and excitement over being with others. My sympathies for you and your wife are near non-existent. Based on what you wrote and how it appears to reflect your priorities, my concern for your kids is extensive.
I've been blessed to work with many, many kids who turned to an outsider like me as someone they trusted to talk about the troubles they're having navigating difficult and highly impressionable periods in their lives. It's a big part of being a coach in a self indulgent society. I have little hope for a fulfilling or lasting marriage in your case, OP. My only hope is that your kids one day similarly find an adult that will help them navigate their difficult years while their parents are busy masking their self-inflicted misery with with even more and more selfish indulgences. Yuck.
Thing is he was supposed to only be here while thinking about things and finding himself a place to stay as we both just moved to this state in April. But it was like soon as he got here we were doing things that couples who live! together do and we honestly couldn’t help it. As we’ve only been in this apartment three months together.
He slept around and found out.
Yeah I didn't even need to read past the first couple sentences. Sure, he's potentially inexperienced. But he's made it clear he's not gonna listen to you and doesn't think your needs are as important as his. Idk how anyone is tolerating sex like this
I’m sorry but you couldn’t be more wrong
Please be smarter. Just leave him before he full on assaults you.
You’re the red flag
Pay attention to this OP. His 'hero' behavior is grooming.
It’s not smart. You just ruined it if you didn’t notice. Is she dating him? If not, ask her. If she denies you, you are effectively over her. If she says yes, you got her. It’s simple.
gave me a set timeline
Ultimatums are typically way to kill relationship. If y'all aren't on the same page, relationship generally won't go well, or won't even last.
2 months
And only 2 months? Well, at least she lets you know what she wants/”demands”. But if it's not a fit, time to break up.
sweetest kindest person
Nope – totally loaded with red (and many of them major) flags.
might be moving too fast~~?~~
2 months, and she wants you committed to a 20+ year & kids game plan? Yeah, that's too fast – no question about it. She can dream/wish/ask for whatever she wants. That doesn't mean she's going to get it. I/most/many, would generally recommend highly well knowing the other person for at least a year before even very seriously considering and committing to marriage … let alone kids, etc. So, maybe like a year before committing to marriage, and before that make sure you're on the same page regarding kids and generally life goals, timelines, “dreams”, etc. – make sure that stuff all reasonably well fits together, then after marriage – probably make sure that's damn solid for at least a full year together before even seriously considering starting a family … heck, before getting a cat or dog, let alone planning to or starting towards actually having kid(s). So, in at least my opinion, at 2 months, that's way too soon to be committing to 20+ year timeline and major commitments and milestones on that, etc. Heck, only known someone “that” well for about 2 months, could easily discover within a year of your being quite and regularly close to them, that they're really not at all the person you thought they were. And … if you were to be married and her pregnant with your kid within a year's time, then you learned she's not at all who you thought she was … then what?
student visa
Hell, you don't even know if she'll be able to stay/return! Yeah, that (and possibly also cultural differences, family pressures, whatever) might also why she's pushing the marriage thing so soon … yeah, marriage (and especially kids!!!) is never anything anyone should be pushed or rushed into. If she pushes that very hot – let her walk – you sure as hell don't need all the high risks of stuff that could go majorly wrong. If she can't see that and be way the heck more reasonable – just let her walk – don't f*ck over your life (and that of (potential) kids just go give way and bow to her “demands” – the hell with that!
politely but firmly put my foot down
Good! If you look and behave like a doormat, she'll treat you as one.
she told me she was worried she was pregnant
She's trying to baby trap you. You better be damn careful with her, or she may just “accidentally” have an “oopsie” and be (or claim to be!) pregnant, coerce/”force” you into marrying here, and fast/soon, then she'll be like, “Well, no reason to use protection now, since I'm pregnant anyway” … then you'll really get her pregnant … DO NOT fall for it! And be damn careful. Better yet, just dump her – you don't want to be the walked/stomped on doormat (ab)used pawn of her game plan.
she has the implant
You absolutely know that as fact?
very unlikely because
I never cum inside her
Oh sh*t, no, that's not reliable birth control. That's about as safe as using Russian roulette for gun safety.
positive she would have kept it
If you're not ready to be a father and damn soon, and with her as the mother, you best be damn safe and careful with her. Don't rely upon her for birth control! She wants to baby trap you and get you to marry her pronto. Don't fall for it, and don't have an “accident” like that – and it'd be no “accident” on her part – all part of her plan.
I'm not emotionally, mentally or financially ready to be a parent at the moment and won't be for years
So, absolutely be damn safe with her and DO NOT rely upon her regarding birth control – she wants to be makin' babies – and apparently from you – and pronto. So if you don't play it damn safe you're gonna find yourself a father-to-be with her pregnant and in very short order. Heck, for all we know she may be banging other guy(s) just to be sure she's pregnant, and then she'll tell you, “oh my gosh, the birth control must not have worked – you got me pregnant and you're the father – I'm absolutely keeping it, let's get married right away now too!”. You could even be married to her, kids pops out … maybe you don't figure it out for years even, and you find out the kid isn't even yours – but you're stuck and legally the father anyway.
she said “okay yeah same here really, I was thinking 2 years”
She's playing you! She only says that after all her actions and statements before are to the contrary – she only says that to sound like she's agreeing with you.
Way too many huge red flags! Dump her ASAP!
she then started crying
thought you'd react more responsibly
she keeps asking me when we're gonna have sex
keeps reassuring me her implant is working
she saw a doctor to get it looked at
she's now okay with me wearing condoms
She's playin' you for the baby/marriage trap.
And oh my gosh, one of 'em leaked/broke … because you left it alone with her … and wow, there's a pin prick through the packaging … I wonder how in the hell that could'a happened.
No, she's dangerous.
she's just perhaps a bit insecure
She's worried you might not fall for her plan.
magic and the spark might already be very damaged
Way the hell beyond “very damaged” – what she wants is way different than what you want, and she's willing to play you and sacrifice you to get what she wants – that's not a partnership, that's her (trying to) making you the sucker to giver her what she wants at the expense of what you want (and your future for decades to come). She might even choose to stick it out with your for a decade (“long term marriage” in most jurisdictions when it comes to divorce), then take you for half of everything you've got and much of everything you ever will earn.
timeline in her head
It's more than in her head – she's implementing her action plan! Watch out!
she keeps using the L word and posting like a million pictures of us on her socials
All part of her plan to trap you.
past relationships, when I've invested emotionally then been hurt
Oh she'll do a lot more than hurt you – she'll totally screw you over and at least much of the rest of your life! Don't let her!
don't want to push her
Dude, you really need to – she's dangerous … toxic even!
I want things to be chill, fun, and slow
Won't go that way with her – she'll be (claiming) preggers most any day now, she'll trick/coerce/”force” you into marrying you – she'll be/get pregnant – might not even be your kid. She is not the one for you – she wants what she wants, completely and totally at your expense/peril – that's absolutely not okay – you need to dump her. Find someone that's actually decent and on the same page as you – but this one – she's playin' you – and to disastrous consequences if you play along or fall for it.
Good luck. And dump her … or at minimum be exceedingly damn careful and do not trust her! And keep watchin' for red flags – by now you can probably collect or have collected from her at least a half dozen or more huge red flags, and probably lots of smaller ones too – if you want to start a collection, she's a ready supplier of red flags – many of them huge.
That's good to know. Thank you.
Interesting perspective. I feel you on the last part :/
I will not be having another baby ever. Nor do I want another one. My tubal date is set.
Haul all kinds of ass OUTTA THERE!!!
How you know so much about the fam?
It seems obvious but youre saying it as fact.
Seems odd.
Moving wedding dates is not easy to do or cheap. We know nothing of peoples financial situations here to expect someone to tell potentially 100 people to change their rsvp on a destination wedding.
I'm just saying it's a lot of changes in a short space of time when he's a hormonal teenager. Doesn't make it ok to attack your wife though.
Three years ago
I agree completely. Just like the third post i scrolled past with every comment being. “Break up with them” Like if people always followed this sub, the human race would have died out a millennia ago.
I've been married 20 years and we still laugh about how when we first got married, I was all ready to get a joint account (for no reason other than that's what you do). My husband made this disgusted face and was like “No way! You'll ruin my system!!” And he was absolutely right haaaa we eventually got one but as long as we communicated it was no big deal
Be honest and tell her the truth.
She has been seeing doctors and been prescribed some pills to help supposedly. Shes also got an eating disorder and She’s had a better appetite because of them but that just makes the mess worse sometimes.
I feel like I’ve been postponing and hoping things would get better for over a year now and it’s not 🙁
It's not acceptable in any way – in that you are correct.
And with the added detail that she has cheated in the past, well as they say – past behaviour is a good determinant of future behaviour. If she has cheated before in the past, then the likelihood that she is cheating now is pretty much guaranteed.
So just ask her “are we still on track to move in together or should I be looking elsewhere?”. Don't mention Tim at all, but know that her answer will tell you all you need to know.
As soon as she hesitates and starts with the umms and ahhs, you know that it's over.
She’s told you she “deserves better” than you.
That’s not a nice thing to say. Why do you want to pursue someone that thinks you’re inferior?
Work on your self esteem and forget her.
It’s time to talk about finances so they don’t create friction in the relationship. He may be “joking”, but that’s just his subconscious thoughts peeping out to check if you’d accept that.
Instead, total both your incomes and determine your percentage of the whole. For instance, do you make 40% to his 60% of your total income. Then determine how much of the utilities you each pay, internet, food and household items. If expenses and household costs are equal, you should be paying your % of these as well, not all of it. Share the chores, though there can be compromise based on who has preferences and how much time you both have.
It’s really all about communication. No one should be paying for everything or doing all the chores, in any category. He should respect your time and efforts as you must respect his. If he balks when he realizes that you actually pay a lot more than your “share”, you might also come to realize that you are being taken advantage of.
Remember, you are bf and gf, not permanently tied to each other. If you can’t compromise and communicate, the relationship is doomed.
So she has a guy lined up that she wants to have sex with. That's the 'missing out' part. So she needs to go on a break so she can scratch that itch, but she's afraid if that doesn't work out she will lose you, so she needs to keep you on the hook in case she needs a fallback. So she's telling you after a few weeks of banging this guy and maybe others that she might want to come back.
My suggestion is to treat this as a break up.
Life's too short to have to hide your hobbies and walk on eggshells in your own home. She's just bullying you at this point. She said she'd change and she didn't, it's time to end it.
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Are you saying that the only chore he helps with is splitting laundry with you?
“How much furniture do you have”, “You could apply for a job at my neighbours company” and he is so excited taking me to home decor stores that I think these hints are pretty clear.
Umm this isn't subtle and to me at least feels very intense for 3 dates in…
Exactly.
I had to double check ages.
She’s being immature and ridiculous. She’s 26, not 6. You did way more than you even should have been expected to do. She has a cold. She’s not on her deathbed. Frankly, I think it’s pretty selfish of her to expect you to come over while she’s sick this exposing you!
Imagine a future with her where maybe you have kids and she just can’t do shit at all if she has a COLD.
Good gravy.
Don't leap into a first kiss, let the date build to it. Little things like standing close or holding his arm, leaning in a bit when you're sitting next to each other, just a sense of intimacy and closeness can put in a huge amount of work. After all, if you get to hand holding or hugging during the date then ending with a kiss is a lot more organic.
I remember I was on a first date once and I won't lie, I really wanted to hold her hand. I just had that feeling, we were walking through a shopping mall and having fun. And I must have like literally been looking down at our hands as I thought this because at some point she noticed and just straight up grabbed my hand and held it. The entire vibe changed after that, by the end of the date I was smitten.
So yeah, don't be afraid to be a little more 'aggressive' in a sense.
This right here. I keep looking at this thread and going, “Lots of unmarried people here.”
If my wife and I are uncomfortable about something, we talk about it reasonably. We try to understand each other and why we are uncomfortable with it.
If she was too uncomfortable with it, even if the reasons weren't entirely justified, I wouldn't do it. Because I want her to be happy, and sometimes in a marriage, you have to sacrifice and give up things because your spouse's happiness is more important.
No activity or event is so important to me that I wouldn't give it up happily if it meant my wife was more at ease, or she needed me that day.
You are putting down very healthy boundaries for you and your relationship in this situation. You don't have anything to feel bad about. Your partner relying on you to fulfill all of his needs is a good way to kill your relationship
Well, I was kind of hoping it was an overflowing trash can. That one's easy, just offer to take it out for her.
This one… Yeah, that's tricky. There's not really a delicate way to tell someone they smell like fish down there.
A couple of ideas.
Make sure your own “manscaping” is impeccable. You don't get to complain about her hygiene if your own isn't on point. Can you make a shower part of your foreplay routine? How bad is it really? I mean, healthy people all have a bit of a smell. That's just the way our bodies work. Sex isn't always the sanitized experience we imagine. Sometimes it's sloppy, smelly, etc… Failing all else, you can just tell her, but do so as gently as possible.
That made me laugh. Poor taxperson needs to get their kicks somewhere, I guess ?
All the top comments are telling her she's the awful one so? It must be exhausting looking for persecution everywhere.
Really? I got the exact opposite. Sounds like he’s doing his level best, if not going above and beyond, to make sure she cums first. Then he does what makes him cum after she gets hers.
Sounds more like a case of him being so consistently generous she’s grown to expect it and is taking it for granted. Then when he brings up that he’s not getting enough from her she gets defensive. When he doesn’t feel like getting her off/having sex she throws a fit.
The girl is a selfish lover but she doesn’t realize it because buddy is busting a nut when they have sex. He needs to keep talking to her until she understands the imbalance in effort that goes into their sex life
R/abusiverelationships. You need to leave. No one gets to speak to you like that, no one.