To a small extent. My partner is very outgoing, and I am much less so. yes, I occasionally feel anxious about his interactions but I've had to do some stern talking to myself about it? Like, I'm willing to stifle a lovely man who people totally love because of MY issue? That's entirely unfair. Perhaps you are simply not compatible if you can't let him be himself? He isn't doing anything wrong, it just isn't to your taste. He shouldn't have to stifle himself when the alternative is you dealing with your social anxiety.
I very often ask him these kinds of questions bc he's always honest and I know I can believe his answers to be his true thinking. That's why I took it so badly. We almost never get to see each other bc of family issues from my side and scheduling issues from his side, so him saying that he wouldn't hesitate to choose one of his games over me took me very off-guard. I realise I overreacted, I just really didn't expect him to approve it as if it was nothing while we both know that occasions to see each other are a very rare thing for us, and as I stated in the post, I more than once had jocked about him favoring football over me, which he had denied until now.
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To a small extent. My partner is very outgoing, and I am much less so. yes, I occasionally feel anxious about his interactions but I've had to do some stern talking to myself about it? Like, I'm willing to stifle a lovely man who people totally love because of MY issue? That's entirely unfair. Perhaps you are simply not compatible if you can't let him be himself? He isn't doing anything wrong, it just isn't to your taste. He shouldn't have to stifle himself when the alternative is you dealing with your social anxiety.
My gosh, my jaw dropped reading that. I’m so sorry.
I very often ask him these kinds of questions bc he's always honest and I know I can believe his answers to be his true thinking. That's why I took it so badly. We almost never get to see each other bc of family issues from my side and scheduling issues from his side, so him saying that he wouldn't hesitate to choose one of his games over me took me very off-guard. I realise I overreacted, I just really didn't expect him to approve it as if it was nothing while we both know that occasions to see each other are a very rare thing for us, and as I stated in the post, I more than once had jocked about him favoring football over me, which he had denied until now.