I don’t know. I don’t think she’s trying to manipulate you. When I have some significant disagreement with my spouse, it is very upsetting to me and it makes me feel physically ill. I don’t ever actually throw up, it’s just very distressing if I’m trying to discuss an issue or explain my opinion, and my husband sometimes just doesn’t get it and I feel like I’m being attacked. Like I can’t breathe. So I want to take a step back and be alone so I can calm down. If my husband were to continue to push me I would absolutely explode and just have to start screaming, because what I need is to decompress so we can actually have a productive conversation about the thing later.
We are both very opinionated, and sometimes have different approaches (I’m a scientist, I want to follow evidence/recommendations while my husband is a bit more emotional unless it’s a topic he develops an interest in)…anyway. I also am 99% sure I am autistic, both my husband and I have ADHD.
To me it sounds like she’s panicking and probably needs to be left alone for awhile to calm down. Therapy absolutely would be helpful for her though. I love therapy Bo think everyone needs therapy. Anyway. To me it really doesn’t sound like manipulation, but rather some kind of emotional/sensory dysregulation when trying to navigate conflict.
Lie. Just pretend you broke up and go no contact as soon as you don't need his money. Find a nice christian lesbian girl in the meantime and ask her home for tea .
I don’t know. I don’t think she’s trying to manipulate you. When I have some significant disagreement with my spouse, it is very upsetting to me and it makes me feel physically ill. I don’t ever actually throw up, it’s just very distressing if I’m trying to discuss an issue or explain my opinion, and my husband sometimes just doesn’t get it and I feel like I’m being attacked. Like I can’t breathe. So I want to take a step back and be alone so I can calm down. If my husband were to continue to push me I would absolutely explode and just have to start screaming, because what I need is to decompress so we can actually have a productive conversation about the thing later.
We are both very opinionated, and sometimes have different approaches (I’m a scientist, I want to follow evidence/recommendations while my husband is a bit more emotional unless it’s a topic he develops an interest in)…anyway. I also am 99% sure I am autistic, both my husband and I have ADHD.
To me it sounds like she’s panicking and probably needs to be left alone for awhile to calm down. Therapy absolutely would be helpful for her though. I love therapy Bo think everyone needs therapy. Anyway. To me it really doesn’t sound like manipulation, but rather some kind of emotional/sensory dysregulation when trying to navigate conflict.
Lie. Just pretend you broke up and go no contact as soon as you don't need his money. Find a nice christian lesbian girl in the meantime and ask her home for tea .