Honestly, the way you talk to him sounds like you’re talking to a child. Is that something you impose that seems condescending and frustrating to him, or is that because he acts like a child and that’s the tone you need to use to get through to him? My two cents are on both.
His behavior is unacceptable, but if he’s going to learn how to handle that, he needs to understand where those emotions come from and how to communicate effectively before those emotions turn into rage. Like every single post on this sub, a little therapy will go a long way.
And your boyfriend if he respects you should 100% be receptive to your boundaries, even with your own sister. Everyone has insecurities, you’re trying to protect yourself. Even if you are totally off base, if your boyfriend respects you he will at least be receptive of the conversation.
It’s a tough situation because it’s your sister. And I want to give them both the benefit of the doubt of course.
I think talking to your BF and making sure he is respecting you is more a safe bet then going at your sister.
This is all advice from someone who has never been through this before though.
You can not control them. You can only control you.
Your request is very reasonale but until this man realizes that he is behaving like a massive AH, nothing is going to change and that will only come, maybe, from couples counseling.
Are the meatballs home made?
Honestly, the way you talk to him sounds like you’re talking to a child. Is that something you impose that seems condescending and frustrating to him, or is that because he acts like a child and that’s the tone you need to use to get through to him? My two cents are on both.
His behavior is unacceptable, but if he’s going to learn how to handle that, he needs to understand where those emotions come from and how to communicate effectively before those emotions turn into rage. Like every single post on this sub, a little therapy will go a long way.
Go to the gym
Well I would just lean on that then.
And your boyfriend if he respects you should 100% be receptive to your boundaries, even with your own sister. Everyone has insecurities, you’re trying to protect yourself. Even if you are totally off base, if your boyfriend respects you he will at least be receptive of the conversation.
It’s a tough situation because it’s your sister. And I want to give them both the benefit of the doubt of course.
I think talking to your BF and making sure he is respecting you is more a safe bet then going at your sister.
This is all advice from someone who has never been through this before though.
You can not control them. You can only control you.
Your request is very reasonale but until this man realizes that he is behaving like a massive AH, nothing is going to change and that will only come, maybe, from couples counseling.