I’ve never had nor seen a healthy relationship until my best friend met her husband. He is so genuinely kind and worships her. They just so clearly adore each other and put each other first.
One thing that’s always stuck out to me is that when I go to their house, I can always hear them laughing through the front door before I go in. Like, they’ve known each other almost a decade. They spend so much time together. And they still make each other laugh when they’re alone.
But the bigger thing that I always think about when I’m dating and trying to find someone… a few years ago, in my 20s, I got diagnosed with terminal cancer. My best friend’s husband is very religious and one night she overheard him saying this special prayer in his religion of healing. It turns out that every single night for months he was saying this prayer of healing for me. He didn’t even tell me or anyone else about it, it’s just something he believed would help. She started doing it with him and for years while I was in treatment, they did it every night together. It was just such a pure and kind thing to do. I did end up cured of my terminal cancer, at least they think so, as I’m in remission.
But whenever I meet men and they are unkind to me or toxic, I think about how this man who I’m just friends with cared enough to pray for me every night. That’s the kind of person you want to be with. Someone that not only loves you and is kind to you, but loves and is kind to the people you love too.
Grass is only greener where you water it. The excitement of the new thing is never worth it.
I’ve never had nor seen a healthy relationship until my best friend met her husband. He is so genuinely kind and worships her. They just so clearly adore each other and put each other first.
One thing that’s always stuck out to me is that when I go to their house, I can always hear them laughing through the front door before I go in. Like, they’ve known each other almost a decade. They spend so much time together. And they still make each other laugh when they’re alone.
But the bigger thing that I always think about when I’m dating and trying to find someone… a few years ago, in my 20s, I got diagnosed with terminal cancer. My best friend’s husband is very religious and one night she overheard him saying this special prayer in his religion of healing. It turns out that every single night for months he was saying this prayer of healing for me. He didn’t even tell me or anyone else about it, it’s just something he believed would help. She started doing it with him and for years while I was in treatment, they did it every night together. It was just such a pure and kind thing to do. I did end up cured of my terminal cancer, at least they think so, as I’m in remission.
But whenever I meet men and they are unkind to me or toxic, I think about how this man who I’m just friends with cared enough to pray for me every night. That’s the kind of person you want to be with. Someone that not only loves you and is kind to you, but loves and is kind to the people you love too.