OP I’m gonna try to word this in a way you understand. Picture this: instead of being trans say your son had a chronic condition that causes horrible headaches. Day after day he has headaches and has to power through it. Headaches so bad he might have even wanted to die. Then he gets the chance to start on a pain medication. Less headaches or at least not as bad. Maybe even could stop the headaches completely. He doesn’t wanna die. But his grandparents don’t like that he takes pain medication, call him a druggie and ignore him. So you decided, instead of affirming your son taking his medicine, to tell him to go back to being miserable and possibly wanting to die. Does that make it clear to you how you’ve messed up?
She doesn't like me using the word “You” because it's “aggressive language”.
OP I’m gonna try to word this in a way you understand. Picture this: instead of being trans say your son had a chronic condition that causes horrible headaches. Day after day he has headaches and has to power through it. Headaches so bad he might have even wanted to die. Then he gets the chance to start on a pain medication. Less headaches or at least not as bad. Maybe even could stop the headaches completely. He doesn’t wanna die. But his grandparents don’t like that he takes pain medication, call him a druggie and ignore him. So you decided, instead of affirming your son taking his medicine, to tell him to go back to being miserable and possibly wanting to die. Does that make it clear to you how you’ve messed up?