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Date: November 1, 2022
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That is wife or fiancé behavior
So? Do you love him enough to wait for him to finish school?
yeah that's I figured. people don't usually start breaks for good reasons. put your foot down, you weren't together and he blocked you. you were single. the more you apologise, the more power he gains and the more disrespectful he can become. were you supposed to wait around until he unblocked you? and do investigate if he did the same as you.
Should probably work on not hating her parents.
Perfect! You can even lean into it! “You know guys, for my worst birthday ever, at least I'm having fun!”
And women loves dudes who can snowboard. I know that isn't where you are at now, but next winter…
No, he has not.
Probably not grooming. But it's still important that, even though you're now an adult, if you're not comfortable meeting him, then by all means, don't meet. Even if he's just talking to you because you help fill a void in his life, you have to do what you're comfortable with and set your own limits without guilt.
You are putting your own trauma into this. There are perfectly innocent friendships between teens and twenties, if you work in any kind of restaurant while you are a teen you will make older friends and the teen needs to be alert as to who they are getting to know but by creating such a nude line you cannot look at this objectively.
Yes. Obviously leaving and avoidance is her approach. Flight or fight right? She avoids any conflict when something is literally biting into her flesh. No confrontation or communication, just move away and avoid correcting it. (P.S. A calm rational discussion with an autistic 4 year old would be about effective as having one with a cat that is biting your hand.) An immediate swat doesn’t have to be abusive to convey an effective message that their behavior (biting) will not be tolerated and needs to change immediately. Even a cat will quickly learn the lesson that everyone (the swatted and the bit) desires body autonomy.
Yes She said that it was out of character NOW but that he was actually WORSE in the past…so not out of character at all he has just been able to hide his contempt for her long enough to baby trap her. The leading cause of death for pregnant people is murder by their partner….
Never heard of this as an issue… is it possible to make an offer and see if there’s any takers who can absorb that extra drive? I think they may not charge you for the service. But naked to say these days we online in a strange world. ?
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I think it’s fair to say some people just can’t online with other people. But maybe they’re not ready to admit that to themselves. It is, after all, quite difficult to afford your own place in this economy.
I'm guessing that's why his lawyer was consulted on that decision
The line, “at least until the kids are out of school” suggests he doesn't see the marriage being forever anyway.
When I got to that part, I didn't know whether to laugh or cry.
Skill issue with reading comprehension clearly
My husband can't handle daily life like going to work and attending holidays with family.
Victims of abuse have usually been abused or witnessed abuse in their childhood (not always physical abuse, verbal and emotional abuse has the same effect). Until they address that trauma, they often find themselves in abusive relationships over and over, because they have no idea what a healthy relationship is supposed to look like. They miss all the red flags, because they just see it as normal behavior. I grew up being yelled at, berated, and guilt tripped. Slamming doors and harsh words were “normal” things people did when they were angry. We didn't talk things out, we just argued until someone “won”. My relationships reflected this, until my ex beat the hell out of me one night. I had been smacked often as a child, so being pushed and having someone in my face never seemed terrible. I had never been punched in the face, so that was my wake up call that the relationship was not okay. Once I left him and started to learn what a healthy relationship was supposed to look like, I had to work on myself and my own behaviors. People who have been in several abusive relationships aren't necessarily lying or purposely choosing bad partners, they just don't know how to recognize the bad from the good. People also tend to gravitate to what feels familiar. Often, people who have been victims of abuse don't know what to do if they find themself in a healthy relationship. They don't know what to expect or what's expected of them, so they go back to familiar territory, because the unknown is uncomfortable. It's not a conscious choice. They don't think “this guy is too nice, so I'm going to find someone who will hit me”. It's usually that they have a distrust of someone that's too nice, because they're used to betrayal. I remember being very uncomfortable if I couldn't pick out flaws early in a relationship. “Nobody is perfect. Everyone has a bad side. So if I can't immediately see something wrong with them, I could get blindsided by something terrible. This guy lives with his mom and has a small drug problem. I can online with that and at least I know what's wrong with him. I'm not the easiest person to deal with either, so I can't fault someone for having problems”. The problem with that logic is obviously that the surface problems are just that: the problems on the surface. It took me years to get out of that cycle and learn to love myself enough to want more from a relationship.
A public profile “big” profile is all the more reason not to share private pictures? I have a friend who's an artist, his Instagram account is public obviously and he's 100% not comfortable sharing personal pictures to every tom, dick and harry. This is not a red flag regardless of how active she is. If everyone close to her in real life knew about her bf, that's enough, she's not trying to appear single.
He was basically saying it’s “the principle” (principle of what? I do not fully understand…) and nothing to do with the ride itself. He’s honestly an exhausting person I ended up cutting off, but he gets so intense that it made me question myself, you know? Thanks for responding btw!
yeah, you're on the brink of cheating. Stop hanging out with her. If you want to get your rocks off, find your own girlfriend.
That’s so rough, I’m sorry
I have set boundaries on not wanting to ever associate with his ex.
Did he explicitly agree to said boundaries? If he agreed to that boundary you have established, of course you have every to be upset.
I online in LA and there’s no women walking around topless, what is he even talking about ?
Secondly, your boundaries are never stupid. He doesn’t have to agree with them, but you set them and he can either be for it or break up, it’s not that difficult. Is this a hill he’s willing to die on? Would he be okay with you going to places where men had body paint on themselves? Unlikely.
This guy is just a big red flag. You’re not stupid,he’s trying to gaslight you.
I believe someone you have been very intimate with for a good while should know the little things about your body.
I have he's just not taking his clothes off this time isn't that weird?
Control your self. Get a hold of those fuzzy feelings because you might mess up this opportunity. You are still in college and a long road to go. Don’t let this bump take you to another way.
Thank you for your words
Oh, FFS. If this is what sets the two of you off, no way are you ready for marriage.
This!
I'm still stuck on how he initiates with op..”hey come here and gimme some ass” like this dude must be watching lots of porn
I wouldn't concern yourself. Tell her it's not possible. Then if she insists, tell her get a blood work paternity test, but otherwise you will assume you don't have super sperm that last in vagina for 10 weeks to impregnate her.
This is so exhausting
He doesn’t love you
I think this post would have worked bette on AmITheAsshole. No, you did nothing wrong.
You sound very mature about this and you explained it very clearly and in a non offensive way.
Keep your distance from both of them. She is incredibly immature, she acts like a 15 year old while being 35. Ryan just wanted to smash; and her gf should know she got cheated on, but it might not be your place to tell her.
But are you legally separated?
babe. they DONT make minimum wage. average server hourly wage is usually $2-5/hr.
the degrading part is you implying serving is “just” bringing food to a table. it is much more involved and difficult than that, both physically and mentally. it combines the difficulties of regular customer service with the difficulties of manual labor all rolled into $2 an hour.
again, i agree it shouldn’t be set up this way. and trust me, most servers don’t give a shit about actually getting 20%, we just don’t like when people leave $3 on a $90 tab. also, the reason it is a percentage, however, is because generally the more you’re spending the more work you’re creating for the server (ie more food running, more people to take care of) so they should get paid more for that service.
Do or do not, there is no try… get over the girl you must Luke.
Tell him that he's married now. It's time to leave his old life behind and build a new one with you. His new life can include TV, but not to the extent it used to. Ask him why he thinks he can be married but not actually make time for you in his life.
Your wife told you her boundary on porn and was clear that to HER it is considered cheating in a relationship. Whether you think that’s silly or not isn’t relevant here. Cheating is something that is defined by the partners you have within your own relationship. It’s why sex with other partners is cheating in monogamous relationships but not all sex with other partners is cheating in polyamorous relationships. Your partner will have their own views on what is cheating and that’s what decides what is or is not cheating in your relationship. If you didn’t agree with it than you had a lot of time to tell her and you chose not to.
You cheated. You want to make this situation her fault when she was never secretive about her views on porn and you never cared enough to dig into the issue you had with it. The terms of your marriage were clear—to her it is cheating, you still did it and so you knowingly did something that you were aware your wife views as cheating. Not only is that blatantly disrespectful to your wife, because it’s ignoring her feelings and boundaries, but it’s intentionally doing something that you know would hurt your wife and apparently not caring because you didn’t think you’d get caught.
It’s been 16 days since your wife pushed out watermelon sized humans from her dime sized vaginal hole and you couldn’t handle waiting 16 days or more for her recovery to have sex with her? I’m not an expert on your wife, but most women in this situation would realize you’ve tied the worth of your respect to her ability to have sex with you and that’s not a fun thing to realize—especially not postpartum. As soon as your wife couldn’t have sex with you, you disregarded her boundaries.
You could have masturbated with your imagination. You could have read erotic stories instead of watching porn videos. You could have just held out and realized that your struggle with not getting sex is nothing compared to the struggle of your wife recovering from birth.
And when you got caught, you could have tried to not immediately make it a “well you’re just overreacting” response instead of owning up to what you did. Your wife isn’t overreacting. You knew her boundary, you knew her views on porn, you knew how she would react if she found out and you STILL did it. She has every right to be angry and to be hurt and to react like you cheating because within the terms of your relationship you DID. Own up to your shit and don’t gaslight your wife into thinking this is in any way her fault or an overreacting like you’re trying to make it sound in this post.
Yes absolutely directly listing exactly what you want and need will help him. But he also has to be willing to do it and he may not. Some ASD people are not very affectionate.
If he refuses therapy then he is going to continue to be negatively impacted by being ND in a NT world. It will hurt him, his future and prospects and it will hurt you too. You need to consider if you are willing to spend your life with someone who refuses to grow and improve themselves. It will be better and less painful to end the relationship sooner rather than later. Loving and supporting a ND person is not a decision to make lightly as it does come with more difficulty than a NT/NT relationship.
Wishing you both all the best.
I am simply stating facts. You used your age as a crutch and got called out.
Those basic questions are yes/no. Whether you acknowledge it or not.
You are waiting for marriage? That means yes, you want to be married.
It means you are dating her with the intention of eventually marrying her. Because what’s your reason for dating for 8 months otherwise?
You would likely want to be married sooner than later if you are sex after marriage. So you need to get more serious with your thinking.
Your intentions for dating need to set. Dating is determining whether they qualify for the life you are building and the SO you are wanting.
If your partner needs the reassurance, you wouldn't do that for them? My gf needed it at the beginning and asked eveey once in a while but when the answer didn't change eventually she stopped asking. It worked. With support and love she stopped questioning herself and us. It just takes a little effort
This is the only answer that makes sense.
A person with diabetes is allowed by law to carry their supplies, meds, devices, snacks, etc with them at all times. Her being denied entry was illegal. However, she could have asked to talk to a supervisor or asked them to call medical support to let the stupid guard know that she was allowed to have those items. A minimum wage security employee likely has zero knowledge of invisible medical disabilities or ADA law.
Boycotting the entire arena over the actions of an uneducated guard is like refusing to ever fly on an airplane because you had one bad experience with TSA. Was it annoying and inconvenient to experience that situation? Yes. Was it potentially embarrassing? Yes. Was it discrimination? Yes. Does it mean you should ban air travel for you and your partner for the rest of your lives? Not hardly.
Looks like she’s projecting something
lie in it alone… without sex…. or probably a bf very soon lol
Send a message detailing how he effed you up and then block him from everywhere.
There’s something very satisfying that comes with having the final say after being voiceless.
Sounds like you need to be single to learn to love yourself. If you don't love yourself will always settle for someone that mistreats you simply for sake of not being single. You are setting yourself up for a lifetime of misery if you don't right the ship.
I dont like it either. Looks like theres some unresolved feelings towards her ex. Does she talk much about her exes? Why they broke up and on what terms? Talking too much about it and talking not at all about it can both be bad signs.
I don't know, apparently he wins in life. Has a good degree and job, plays video games with his friends all day and is soon to be married.
If he weren't my roommate I would find him ok. Just living with him is hell, because he doesn't clean up after himself and is loud.
And so you say that I should just be rude to him? Or be like I am at the moment to him?
This is one of those arguments that requires that we read facial expression, body language, and tone of voice to judge properly.
The facts alone are unsatisfying. On one hand, not all breakups are blowups, and BF deserved the benefit of the doubt. OTOH BF reacted as if OP had just chucked his scrapbook in the fireplace and ordered him to fan the flames. OP deserved common courtesy.
So I would rather be the girlfriend who he said he’s using for money while he’s cheating at work with a girl he’s been seeing seven years? And sleeping with her five days a week and not slowing down? What do I care if I’m the girlfriend or the side chick? Both are losing in this scenario. Why do you think he’s such a prize?
No, but you are not at that stage, you don’t online together, you don’t know that in exchange for paying less she’s going to do a greater share of the household chores.
And normally when that happens, it is proportional to income, and in a comment you mention that she earns more, so then she should be paying more, yes you mention you might be getting rich , but until that money is in your pocket it doesn’t matter.
Also she is the one who is limiting your availability for apartments etc as she has high standards.
She doesn’t seem to see herself as a partner in a relationship, rather it seems that she sees herself as someone who you should be paying for the privilege to be with.
I again want to be absolutely clear that I don’t think a divorce should ever be top of mind in this situation given the context provided. It just makes no sense.
Either way, it’s not really about 50/50. That’s impossible to quantify. I think there’s a preconceived notion out of context that in these situations it’s one person earns income and the other takes care of the home and children.
That might very well be the case in a given situation and that’s fine. Like I said before, it’s not up to us. Now, to be fair to you, in the present, my wife and I both work full time and our 2 year old goes to daycare. We don’t have 3. We want them but it’s been a struggle. I digress.
Post-birth, my wife decided to take a year off. I very quickly learned how frustrating that can be; and my wife absolutely never complained. I just saw it in her face. But for the sake of easy math, I worked 9-5. Between me getting up for work and getting home, she was taking care of our newborn and taking care of the house where it made sense.
But then I got home. Let’s say 6. I now just relax and she continues on? Is she not exhausted? Yes, I was tired. So was she. But not we’re together. So then we decided how to split the rest of the night. She put the baby to bed. I made dinner. You learn from each other and adjust. At some points my wife pointed things out that I didn’t realize at all due to the fact I had gotten used to them. It wasn’t nagging. It was communicating reality.
You have 3. So talk talk talk and talk some more and don’t feel bad about it. He can say no if he thinks you’re being unreasonable and I promise you I did the same.
People far too often fail to realize the importance of their relationship after having children. It matters. So if you ask for help with something that’s objectively reasonable and he says no, you’re going to be pissed. You might go ahead and do it, but now your relationship is on the rocks. It’s a complicated balance.
Yes, these situations are already mortifying and it sounds like OP wasn't sympathetic. And I can't imagine just coldly sending him a bill. That would be a really obvious way of seeing she's been put off him and never wants to see him again.
I'm angry for you right now. There is no reason for you to stay with her. She had a boyfriend while you were newlyweds. You came to visit twice and then she went right back to fucking him and cuddling with him in bed. And she is still talking with him. You know what you need to do.
Your fear of being needy becomes irrelevant when you realize that she's already not interested.
The reason I encourage you to just lay it all out, is because I think you need firm confirmation of the situation. “Hey, I'm into you. Would you like to go out on a date sometime?” It's not needy to ask someone out on a date.
If she says no or essentially any other response but an absolute “yes,” then continuing to pursue her would be needy.
Start sending her pics of your meals with, yum and sooo good.
You can also tell her that you are on your own journey and not doing what she is but wish her luck.
This is your journey and need to cut out the outside sounds if they bother you!!
Good luck!! Remember to fuel your body and not deprive it!
You should have a discussion with her about what your relationship is to her. And you should give some serious thought to what you want your relationship with her to be.
Not all people can do LDRs. If he's more “out of sight, out of mind” than “absence makes the heart grow fonder” there's just not a lot you can do about it. Unless you've got plans to move back to where he is in the near future this relationship just may not make it.
Yea but still doesn’t excuse him not helping make my life easier like today I came home with some food I got for lunch and didn’t realize I had used all the Parmesan the other day so I asked him to run to the common area literally a minute away and he made me
Lol yes he said that to me, he said he doesn't want me to feel pressured so while that's where he is at it is not where I am at. I mean I think love bombing has to be a lot of giant acts to manipulate a person. He even told his therapist about us because like his biggest fear is that he couldn't feel those kind of butterflies for someone again. I mean our kissing is that magical feeling. I've had it before, I'd never commit to someone without it feeling like that but obviously he was approaching dating differently because he had a heart wrenching break up
Stop that.
Not YOU cause drama!
HE DOES!
Cut this. Don't let him make other girls so unhappy.
He broke your trust and may have traumatized for the next honest guy!
Let his own crap gbite his own ass!
First of all, delete all the videos and pics from past relationships, datings or whatever. Jesus. Second, go to apologize in person and write a letter (now she probably wants to throw up when she sees you). Explain to her that you realised your own stupidness as soon as you showed her the video. Also, make up an excuse for not having deleted the videos, asap. Tell her it's because you have no idea how to find that posture in porn or whatever, idk.
She won't trust you ever again, I'm afraid. And I don't think she'll ever allow you to tape her or send you nudes. I hope you learnt the lesson: delete EVERYTHING as soon as you stop seeing someone.
Beg she doesn't tell your ex. I think all you can do is become completely submissive and servicial for some time, and hopefully she can forgive you. But, man, you crushed her soul forever, I'm talking from experience.
You leave him, that's controlling behaviour
We need to burn down the idea that now wanting an open relationship is old school. It's not, OP, and that idea is actively harmful IMO. Some people are poly, some are monogamous. It has nothing to do with how old school you are and everything to do with your individual preferences – and everyone has the right to have their preferences.
Do you want an open relationship on not? If not, then I don't think you guys are compatible anymore, I'm sorry. This ginny cannot be put backing the bottle. If you do, go for it. But absolutely get rid of this idea that open relationships, or polyamory, are somewhat “progressive” and therefore morally better/more modern. They are not. If anyone tries to tell you they are, they are not arguing in good faith and they are not looking out for you. They are trying to coerce you into a sexual situation you do not want, which is always a bad sign.
When you wake up erect and horny, the easiest way to go back to sleep is to have an orgasm. He tried to initiate sex, saw that his partner was asleep, and respected that. If he broke his spouse’s boundary, it was an unspoken one and she should have been a lot more understanding about that.
Do you have family that could help in case of an emergency? Are you early or late in the 3rd trimester? Are you on bed rest or just light activity? So many questions, sorry. I had bed rest on the third pregnancy. It's intimidating but manageable depending on why it's high risk. My husband was constantly on travel, so I know what it feels like to worry about emergencies.
Try the lazy big spoon, little spoon position. Both get to be lazy and lay down. He will have to do more effort
He’s probably so comfortable with you that he treats you like you’re his significant other and gets serviced quite efficiently. If you want more from him you need to talk to him, we don’t really know why he’s stopped thinking about your end of the deal
Yeah this affects women too, so fucking frustrating to not be able to cum, especially when your partner is doing everything right.