Those are common things that happen to people that sort of have grown up in a dysfunctional way. A lot of times they have a hard time bonding and understanding their value so if somebody wants to treat them well, they almost like them less. You can heal from it I have I only want people around me that adore me now. You may have to experience some hardships in relationships to get to that point though.
Your wife just broke the fundamental rule regarding intimate behavior – NEVER speak negatively about ANY body part of your partner.
If you said to small tits, to big areolas, too big vagina, too big a nose, too small teeths and so on she would never forgive you.
You need to be clear this is UNACCEPTAL behavior!
To be clear YOU are wrong!!! Unacceptable behavior NEEDS to be called out.
She made the mistake and DESTROYED your sex life. Make it clear – It is up to her to her to safe your sex life AND your marriage. No it is not overstating it. If you have no interest or capacity to have sex – then this relationship is over. Lack of self confidence makes people impotent. She killed your self confidence. Get it back – the first part is to call her out for her behavior.
Thank you, I hope my life and experience inspire you to go out and live! yours to the fullest. Be emotionally available, take a chance on people you care about.
Yes I can't help thinking that even if it isn't the case, he's understandably going to be seen as the bad guy because in less than 9 months, he's conceived a baby, agreed with her to have the baby, has been planning a wedding and is now changing his mind about it.
Yes, of course he is allowed to change his mind, but unless she is able to and chooses to abort, she is now committed to being a single mum when she would likely have made different choices had she been told about this earlier. I wouldn't be surprised if she's annoyed he didn't realise or voice this sooner. But at least he won't be forcing her to go through a divorce as well, though a breakup at this stage of a relationship isn't going to be much easier.
You say she's a completely different person, but she's cheated this year. Dude, it's the beginning of April.
You're staying with her even though she cheated in the past few months; you'll stay with her, you say, even if she cheated 16 years ago. She has an (apparently extensive) history of lying to you. Cheating and lying aren't dealbreakers for you – which is fine if that's how you roll – so what, exactly, is the issue?
Unfortunately, you are behaving Waaay above your paygrade.
Polyamorous relationships of any quality at all particularly
demanding for intelligence, maturity, respect and communication.
What you have is the “teenage-ready-fuck” version.
You have something the guys want and they are willing share this as
you come off as not being too discriminating about who is poking
you. Raise the stakes and the least invested person will drop off……
so to speak……..or maybe they both will. FWIW.
Those are common things that happen to people that sort of have grown up in a dysfunctional way. A lot of times they have a hard time bonding and understanding their value so if somebody wants to treat them well, they almost like them less. You can heal from it I have I only want people around me that adore me now. You may have to experience some hardships in relationships to get to that point though.
Leave.
Sad.
Your wife just broke the fundamental rule regarding intimate behavior – NEVER speak negatively about ANY body part of your partner.
If you said to small tits, to big areolas, too big vagina, too big a nose, too small teeths and so on she would never forgive you.
You need to be clear this is UNACCEPTAL behavior!
To be clear YOU are wrong!!! Unacceptable behavior NEEDS to be called out.
She made the mistake and DESTROYED your sex life. Make it clear – It is up to her to her to safe your sex life AND your marriage. No it is not overstating it. If you have no interest or capacity to have sex – then this relationship is over. Lack of self confidence makes people impotent. She killed your self confidence. Get it back – the first part is to call her out for her behavior.
Thank you, I hope my life and experience inspire you to go out and live! yours to the fullest. Be emotionally available, take a chance on people you care about.
Yes I can't help thinking that even if it isn't the case, he's understandably going to be seen as the bad guy because in less than 9 months, he's conceived a baby, agreed with her to have the baby, has been planning a wedding and is now changing his mind about it.
Yes, of course he is allowed to change his mind, but unless she is able to and chooses to abort, she is now committed to being a single mum when she would likely have made different choices had she been told about this earlier. I wouldn't be surprised if she's annoyed he didn't realise or voice this sooner. But at least he won't be forcing her to go through a divorce as well, though a breakup at this stage of a relationship isn't going to be much easier.
You say she's a completely different person, but she's cheated this year. Dude, it's the beginning of April.
You're staying with her even though she cheated in the past few months; you'll stay with her, you say, even if she cheated 16 years ago. She has an (apparently extensive) history of lying to you. Cheating and lying aren't dealbreakers for you – which is fine if that's how you roll – so what, exactly, is the issue?