I get you wanted him to tell you, at the same time if this has never come up before, he might just not have thought of telling you. So instead of getting upset, try something like this. “Hey, we’ve not talked about this before, so maybe you didn’t think to tell me, so I’m going to let this go. But moving forward, if you can’t pay bills on time, especially ones both our names are on, I need you to tell me, we’re a team. And I’ll do the same for you. Agreed?” Then if he does it again, for sure get upset as then he’s not doing what he agreed to do.
As a 37 year old man I got offered the job of a lifetime in France (from UK originally) at 19 years old, and my girlfriend of the time said “If you go, it's over”. Fast forward, I'm married with a kid and never regretted the decision to go to France for a second.
Absolutely.! In my own relationships I usually get tested twice a year. I definitely second this. !
I get you wanted him to tell you, at the same time if this has never come up before, he might just not have thought of telling you. So instead of getting upset, try something like this. “Hey, we’ve not talked about this before, so maybe you didn’t think to tell me, so I’m going to let this go. But moving forward, if you can’t pay bills on time, especially ones both our names are on, I need you to tell me, we’re a team. And I’ll do the same for you. Agreed?” Then if he does it again, for sure get upset as then he’s not doing what he agreed to do.
As a 37 year old man I got offered the job of a lifetime in France (from UK originally) at 19 years old, and my girlfriend of the time said “If you go, it's over”. Fast forward, I'm married with a kid and never regretted the decision to go to France for a second.