As a previous daily weed smoker, it's not as simple as you think to just stop a habit if you've been doing it daily. This might be an issue of compatibility.
It's not acceptable for him to smoke on your property if you've asked him not to do so. This is a boundary he should understand because weed stinks and smells like BO.
So my advice talk to him again and maybe start off with no smoking until like 7pm? Don't give ultimatums and explain to him you didn't know he smoked this much to this extent.
It sounds like possibly some ADHD going on, along with too much game time, and just pure laziness.
You need to first sit him down and seriously make him focus on what you are saying! Then tell him directly, with no sugar coating all of these things he is doing.
Then ask him if you are doing anything wrong. Then tell him he has a choice to make. If he promises he will do better make sure he does.
If he does improve make sure it’s not temporary. Hold him to it for at least a year if he is really really trying. If not, time to say goodbye.
He’ll slip on my slides sometimes to go outside and grab something out of the truck. They’ve never broken before. And I do agree maybe he did accidentally wash them on that part, but 2 things in a day just feels weird
Set boundaries and let her know the consequences of crossing those boundaries. You warned her. You can't control her, but you can enforce the consequences you have set if she crosses. Just don't let your emotions run the show. Gotta be logical, cold, and uncaring, or else she will hurt you badly.
He's going to get worse, I know from experience.
Leave before it does.
As a previous daily weed smoker, it's not as simple as you think to just stop a habit if you've been doing it daily. This might be an issue of compatibility.
It's not acceptable for him to smoke on your property if you've asked him not to do so. This is a boundary he should understand because weed stinks and smells like BO.
So my advice talk to him again and maybe start off with no smoking until like 7pm? Don't give ultimatums and explain to him you didn't know he smoked this much to this extent.
It sounds like possibly some ADHD going on, along with too much game time, and just pure laziness.
You need to first sit him down and seriously make him focus on what you are saying! Then tell him directly, with no sugar coating all of these things he is doing.
Then ask him if you are doing anything wrong. Then tell him he has a choice to make. If he promises he will do better make sure he does.
If he does improve make sure it’s not temporary. Hold him to it for at least a year if he is really really trying. If not, time to say goodbye.
He’ll slip on my slides sometimes to go outside and grab something out of the truck. They’ve never broken before. And I do agree maybe he did accidentally wash them on that part, but 2 things in a day just feels weird
Set boundaries and let her know the consequences of crossing those boundaries. You warned her. You can't control her, but you can enforce the consequences you have set if she crosses. Just don't let your emotions run the show. Gotta be logical, cold, and uncaring, or else she will hurt you badly.
Don't date a raging nerd. Problem fixed.