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Date: November 23, 2022
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lol k… so then we're back to my original comment about why it matters? I feel like I'm just missing something here, so maybe thats my bad. But i just don't get what the problem is or why it matters exactly what bar he went to.
I guess the worst part is that it’s no falling out. I just feel like he has emotionally checked out of the relationship and doesn’t care anymore. I’m 18 aswell?. There were feelings a while back between us aswell. And yes I feel like I no longer have a best friend and it sucks. For me I’ve never cried so much over one person. I’m really sorry you got ghosted it’s the worst. I could never ghost even if I tried
Tell him to look into finasteride. I had hair loss and had to get a hair transplant. Finasteride helps stop further hair loss and when combined with minoxidil it helps restore the lost hair. They both have side effects but most men are fine using it. If you use it early on it will put a stop to further loss. Its a touchy subject but i was told by my x when i started losing it and yes it sucks but better it comes from someone that cares about you.
Dude you are reaching SO nude in all of these comments.
My only advice is don’t date drug addicts.
If you got her into a recovery program, maybe you could forgive her for the mistakes she made in active addiction.
Seem like you have your priorities set while your man doesn't have any. I hate to say it but the way you describe him you will end up being a parent to him than a girlfriend.Your too young for this kind of step especially with a person who might end up being a burden than a companion.
Wow, you seem like a lovely person!
Trust and respect are two sides of the same coin. How can you look him in the eyes and respect in minute longer
No I won't
If you let her walk, that’s literally permission for her to do it over again. Don’t let her walk
True, I've always considered him like a brother. Maybe it was irrelevant to tell we don't have the same father
Shut up
100%
Have you seen this man’s home he sleeps in every night? Met his friends and family? Seen his real social media not the lock down fake version?
This man is hiding something and doing a terrible job. He’s treating you like you’re stupid as hell. I’d find out what’s going on (sneakily, I wouldn’t trust what he says) and I’d expose it. I’m not getting STDs / pregnant with a deadbeat / breaking up a family / getting beat up by someone’s wife / or have to look children in the eyes whose lives I’ve helped ruin. I have better things to do than be a trash can for piece of garbage. Anything is better.
If he's a few hours late, that should tell you what a priority you are to him. Very low it seems. Always something more important to do before he gets to you. Thing is, if he had a flight to catch, could he be 2 hours late, let alone 15 minutes? Of course not because they would not wait for him so he CAN arrive on time. Just not for you. If you want to continue dating him, prepare to throw away many hours of your life waiting for him.
He’s 14 years your senior, and controlling, and doesn’t want you to have time with your friends without him.
She's not a friend …. your friends with the memories of Maria from the past… not the waste of space she's become
Good riddance she's moving,
She made fun of me a lot because I never really did any of those things.
No real friend will ever mock you for ot doing the same shit she's done
Say goodbye, keep In touch on FB and move on as she's clearly a bad egg
If getting a car causes a divorce then you shouldn't be married.
Plan A is much louder.
Me, trying to make light of the situation and thinking it’s funny, goes after him and farted again (I think farts are hilarious).
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Can he prove you didn't have his permission? Did you type in his pin code?
He lies. You can do the same.
WTF, I'm so sorry that you are going through this.
I glad you are making us of the hiring, the catering and the holiday, because you need that support and time apart to laugh, cry and get some perspective.
Because it's clear you are not his priority and I would be damed if I would stay with him after this, his brother needs help, a lot of help and you need to get away from him.
To make it more plain if my partner called off the wedding because their brother had a panic attack, in a long line of panic attacks, I would be done.
Gosh I hope I never accidentally tread on your toes.
Well on a sub where toxic men are mocked for their toxic behavior, some woman once shared what a guy had posted. It was similar to what this girl said. He also felt that women have made an agreement not to date him, and wasn't hateful at all. Most women were calling him a loser and wishing he never gets to date anyone.
Why are they right then?
They don’t know the girls are wearing those things.
You're high every single day, why do you think she should have to deal with that?
I have thrown around the idea that we could be really good friends but they just said that it would not be possible for them as they see me romantically. I do not want to hurt them by ending it suddenly and I do not want to loose the bond I have. It’s really a difficult situation for me :((
Your friend is right about breaking up with your bad bf. He is acting just like a horny teenager with how he acts and talks to you. You shouldn’t want to be just a sex object to anyone. You reached out to a friend for advice and as long as you and the friend have respectful boundaries, you did nothing wrong. Your bf is throwing a tantrum because he can’t control you. Right now he is manipulating you in every way. Go with the advice your friend gave and leave and block the guy.
I don't need his permission to do anything. I want his support and I need someone to drive me.
He’s sexualizing it yet she is intentionally making racy photos?
No sorry she will choose the dog.
I have spoken to his mom about it a few times but I try to not over step.. when things are going left I do want to call her but I don’t want to add fire to the flame. I also try recommending not drinking that night but usually at that point my words are of no effect.
All religions are just customs and traditions made up by people.
You both may to some extent need to choose each other over family. But hey, you are in a multi-cultural environment, so it is unfair to expect you to forgo love when you truly find it.
You will both have to become agnostic and practice a policy of appeasement with your respective families.
Ooof, your comment just really upsets me. You need to develop some relationship confidence. I realize you’re young and you probably will in your own time, but it really can’t come quick enough.
1) if he says he doesn’t have the money, say he does have the money because you watch him spend some of it on other projects/people. Some of that money needs to go to following through with his commitments. Not every cent he makes obviously, but if he says he’s going to take you on a boba date then the next $5 he has needs to go to that, not buying car parts.
2) he also needs to rub his two brain cells together and think wow, OP has driven to me the last two times, it’s probably time I get off my ass and come to her.
3) Also make sure to tell him that you won’t be spending your life holding his hand through basic relationship concepts such as “keep your promises” and “return favors.” He needs to think for himself and constantly check in to make sure he’s maintaining an equal partnership.
4) What I mean by “relationship confidence” is making your feelings known. I strongly feel that if your main priority when talking about how someone’s mistreating you is “not wanting to upset them” then you’re not ready to be in a relationship. You absolutely must have the strength and confidence to explain what’s upsetting you, why and what you need your partner to do to rectify the situation. And if he won’t follow through and you know you’re not being unreasonable, then the relationship isn’t as great as you thought and neither is he. That’s when you wipe your hands clean of it.
Tell your boyfriend he needs to do better
His rights are irrelevant. Both morally and, indeed, legally.
The rights of the child are all that matter. The court has previously decided that the child should live with the brother in a more stable, child friendly environment. This has been the case for all the childs formative years, it will be incredibly difficult for the fiance to provide the evidence that shows he is able to provide a similar environment.
Hostility towards the process, as seems to be the case, simply demonstrates a failure to understand why the child was removed from the parents care in the first place. Failure to understand that is a huge negative against regaining custody.
I thought the same thing.
Fucking leave. You are letting those kids be terrorized. I understand you are too but you can leave they don't have that choice. It only gets worse it might be your face or theirs at some point. Probably if not already. GTFO!
Best thing you can do is block him. People like him only want to garner emotional reactions from people they torture. If you get mad at him he’ll just stop responding and feel satisfied that he’s still able to push your buttons. Block him and it’ll feel great.
There are states that have tried cases for a burglar breaking an ankle when they broke in, and suing over medical.
Also OP.. beating the asses of people breaking into your home vs. your girlfriend because it’s Wednesday.. are 2 wayyy different things.
You can be gone while owning but you need to take care of the house. Someone needs to mow the grass. You need to make sure that there is no damage after a storm and if there is damage you need to get it repaired immediately. Our first house had damage to the kitchen floor because a previous owner left the house empty for a year and the roof leaked for a year. We live in an area with a lot of rain so lots of damage to the floor in that one spot. Someone needs to make sure that the pipes don't freeze in the winter.
It isn't as easy as assuming if we own it we don't need to be there. Someone needs to be keeping an eye on it. You could even end up with someone moving in and living there if there were aware that no one was home for months on end.
In reality, I think most guys could care less about their partners past. Personally, I just don’t want to be treated like the “safe guy” and want my partner to at least try make our sex life the “best” even if it’s not at first.
She's a homemaker, her job is to keep their home clean. She should get a job and contribute financially if this arrangement isn't working for her
she said no sex.
except for the oral sex part, so shes a liar already.
Stay away from her and all other women. There are no women bad enough to deserve you.
“I only lied about it because it was something you wouldn't like if I told you the truth” is not even an excuse, it's just admitting that you a) do things you know your partner is not okay with and b) have no problem lying and covering it up.
All the excuses he's given that you've put in the comments are so flimsy at best. I had a weird porn folder when I was a kid. Guess what? It got deleted a long fricking time ago. You don't meticulously create such a massive, organized porn collection and then just forget about it. If the stuff in his collection is stuff he isn't into, why did he keep it? Why is it in a location that's so easily discoverable? It doesn't sound like he hid it in some truly random folder and forgot about it.
From what you've said OP, nothing about this guy's responses are trustworthy.
Also, I'd much rather lose a potentially innocent partner than live! with a pedophile or even live! wondering if my partner is a pedophile. That's just…that's too much. Especially given his desire to work with children (and his reasoning is a very common thing pedophiles go through, too…)
Sounds like you aren’t ready to commit. Let her move on to someone who might be
I'm not sure I understand here. This happened several years ago, at the beginning of your marriage? She says she has felt bad about it yet she's still in touch with the guy? Why did she tell now?
I suspect that he threatened to contact you? So she felt trapped? Either way, the cheating is horrible, but staying in touch with the guy is like twisting the knife.
The ONLY way I could see you making this work with her is to start over. Divorce her then if you want to try dating her, slowly, then do so. Just realized that 6 months into your marriage is the honeymoon phase. If she cheated then, there is no way you can trust her in 5 or 10 years. Your marriage at this point is built on lies. All of it. I would want to divorce as soon as possible to end the charade. If you want to try again with her, do so by starting fresh. However, I personally don't see how you could ever trust her again.
You’re not mature enough to stay in this relationship. You need to seek some help for your personal insecurities and stay single while you do it.
Doesn’t the saying go ‘don’t go looking for things you’re not ready to find?’ You found what you were looking for.
You cannot continue a relationship where you have no shared trust. You looked through her phone. You hired someone to bait her. Instead of directly asking her if something is weighing on her or how she feels about your relationship, which btw is how most adults deal with relationship struggles – communication.
Also not quite sure how her commenting on other attractive people is to ‘get something out of you’ when she doesn’t say it to you but to her friends? Again, how would you even know this information? Just because you’re in a relationship does not mean you’ll never find another person you’d be attracted to..
This would have always ended up with the same result – breaking up, regardless of how she responded to your bait because you’re the one looking for an out here.
I concur
Sexual assault plus rape (in the comments). Police time.
I edited to add some details.
I think it's nice to have friends of different ages. You can spend time with these people, and also make some older friends. You could even volunteer at a nursing home and make some senior citizen friends. It's not creepy to be platonic friends with people of different ages. It's only creepy if you're hitting on young women sexually.
Sounds as if he learned something there. Nice.
Was a throwaway dude. You don’t need to delete it.
Thank you for this . I really appreciate it . As nude as it is to accept. I know what i have to do
We live paycheck to paycheck, and she calls into work all the time … I have credit card debt I’d like to pay off along with other bills.
Our relationship is okay and can definitely be rocky at times,
I tried explaining daycare, medical expenses, all the money that is involved with having a child but I just can’t win.
You sound like a sensible, grounded young man. She sounds very irresponsible. Right now, you’re not compatible on a very fundamental level.
Please check your contraception very carefully. Don’t get baby-trapped.
Are you a pedo?
What happened after it happened?
If not assault it's sexual harassment.
Bruh she literally just said cheating is NOT off the table. She’s a cheater but not a liar I guess.
Don't let the years wasted on this relationship be the reason to waste more time, end it now.
If he threatens to do anything to himself, you can the police. Block him as soon as you can.
I am sorry you are going through this, but it's time to be single and work on yourself.
I think you definitely made the right choice in breaking up. Instead of seeing her, you should see a therapist instead. The entire dynamic is unhealthy. When you build a foundation on top of a stinky, unstable bog, its usually impossible to make it sound, especially when one of the ppl responsible for fixing it doesnt see a problem and refuses to put the work in.
don't.
i have been witness of this story a good half dozen time. all of sudden , his cultural legacy kick on. you are supposed to be submiting at home wife while he roams the night with his friends and probably cheat. if the thing goes sour, he fly to his family in north africa with your kids, where you have no right.
right now, the best friend of my daughter is in the case. they avoid the parental kidnapping step but her has to rebuild her life entirely with two kids and no help.
The petty part of me has made smart ass remarks. I have said things like “did you get hurt again?” Or “you sure you can do this, I dont want you to hurt yourself?” So, I am not innocent in this. It has just been a long time coming, and every time something has to be done now it feels like a major undertaking.
He is trying to bother you so you stop asking, trying for weaponized incompetence. He is lazy or has some anxiety around being told to do chores.