Actually it took me 5 years to figure out it wasn't going to work with my ex. Sometimes things change or you realize they won't change (and some people take time to figure that out). I wouldn't be so quick to judge OP. We have no idea what's going on between them. Granted I agree about wasting time. I hate my time being wasted and I hate wasting other's time but in a relationship I see it more as a learning experience. And sometimes people change their mind based on how things are going and if their goals in life change. I do believe love is a choice as well as a feeling. And staying with someone despite the differences or the little irks. But everyone's idea of love is different as well as everyone's time frame. Do what's best for you or do what you think is best.
Actually it took me 5 years to figure out it wasn't going to work with my ex. Sometimes things change or you realize they won't change (and some people take time to figure that out). I wouldn't be so quick to judge OP. We have no idea what's going on between them. Granted I agree about wasting time. I hate my time being wasted and I hate wasting other's time but in a relationship I see it more as a learning experience. And sometimes people change their mind based on how things are going and if their goals in life change. I do believe love is a choice as well as a feeling. And staying with someone despite the differences or the little irks. But everyone's idea of love is different as well as everyone's time frame. Do what's best for you or do what you think is best.
A couple of ideas:
Watch porn together to initiate conversations about “what’s hard.” I use belessa.
Be sure he has time and energy to give it some thought. Overworking is far too easy.
Maybe find stuff on Literotica you both enjoy.
A very likely story. OP, please talk to her.
Just tell her. This is unhealthy for your and her. Maybe she feels the same way. Good. If not, dont make this friendship a big lie.