“By asking, the husband has basically said OP isn't good enough for him and she probably shouldn't trust him to not cheat anyway.”
No. You literally made that up. That's what you're doing when somebody says one thing and you insist it really means something that the person didn't say – you're making shit up. And then treating it as real! Even when the person's actions reflect what he actually said and not the thing you invented in your own head are are pretending is what he actually said!
I don't know if it's narcissism, delusion, or what, but it is absolutely terrifying to see how many people think that way here. How am I supposed to operate in a society where so many people are running around interacting with me on the basis of something they simply imagined rather than what I actually said or did in reality? That is frightening, dangerous, antisocial insanity.
Tell your husband yesterday before you ruin your beautiful family over a little kiss.
I know you are not to blame here but if you hide anything from your husband, you will be. Tell him immediately.
“By asking, the husband has basically said OP isn't good enough for him and she probably shouldn't trust him to not cheat anyway.”
No. You literally made that up. That's what you're doing when somebody says one thing and you insist it really means something that the person didn't say – you're making shit up. And then treating it as real! Even when the person's actions reflect what he actually said and not the thing you invented in your own head are are pretending is what he actually said!
I don't know if it's narcissism, delusion, or what, but it is absolutely terrifying to see how many people think that way here. How am I supposed to operate in a society where so many people are running around interacting with me on the basis of something they simply imagined rather than what I actually said or did in reality? That is frightening, dangerous, antisocial insanity.