Please don’t be offended : You didn’t lose out in the quincenera department , you lost out on the mother department. Your mom sounds like she is very strict on you and you fall below her standards. And if you met them, she would raise them. I don’t know if your mom is being malicious or she truly thinks that being hot on you as a parent will help you later on life. Some parents don’t know how to show affection beyond tough love. She isn’t responsible for your cousin so she is more relaxed around her. I don’t think it has anything to do with you. I think it was how your mom was raised and this is the only thing she knows. Trying to teach that love isn’t supposed to be “earned” by a child’s “good” behavior is like teaching an abuela to apologize (encanto reference). So what that means for you, is that you might lose out on some life’s experiences because of how your mom is. But I think you should have a deeper conversation with your mom about wanting to bond with her and how important those bonding experiences are to you. How you want to go through life with each other by the side. And possibly speak to her why she has such high standards for you. Tell her flat out, how do you display your love for me?
Nope. She didn’t need a place to stay…too coincidental, he never told you ahead of time. He knew you were unavailable for the night so he called her…it’s the way he is making you believe they are the same…very different. He’s cheating and your helping a friend.
We can’t read his mind. If I were him I would stay far away from you. But it’s up to him.
Please don’t be offended : You didn’t lose out in the quincenera department , you lost out on the mother department. Your mom sounds like she is very strict on you and you fall below her standards. And if you met them, she would raise them. I don’t know if your mom is being malicious or she truly thinks that being hot on you as a parent will help you later on life. Some parents don’t know how to show affection beyond tough love. She isn’t responsible for your cousin so she is more relaxed around her. I don’t think it has anything to do with you. I think it was how your mom was raised and this is the only thing she knows. Trying to teach that love isn’t supposed to be “earned” by a child’s “good” behavior is like teaching an abuela to apologize (encanto reference). So what that means for you, is that you might lose out on some life’s experiences because of how your mom is. But I think you should have a deeper conversation with your mom about wanting to bond with her and how important those bonding experiences are to you. How you want to go through life with each other by the side. And possibly speak to her why she has such high standards for you. Tell her flat out, how do you display your love for me?
Nope. She didn’t need a place to stay…too coincidental, he never told you ahead of time. He knew you were unavailable for the night so he called her…it’s the way he is making you believe they are the same…very different. He’s cheating and your helping a friend.
We already made the plans to meet at the friends house. I worked late so they went out to kind of kill time.
I just wish I could find a way to bring this up/what to even say. It’s naked to put all the rapid thoughts into an actual sentence