I feel that if you’re gonna be with someone forever, you should always accept that their bodies could change. If you really don’t find her attractive anymore, I’d end it, but please don’t say it’s because of her nose. But, I love my partner so much, I don’t even think him deciding to cut his nose off would scare me away.
I dont think that its just infatuation… i have talked to other girls before many actually, but i never really felt anything nor did i show any care for them. My current gf is the only girl that i cared about and had the most feelings for and everything! Even with the other girls i never imagined living with them for my entire life! So im pretty sure that its love! And its a little complicated i dont know how to tell you.. im a muslim and its basically a virgin and i have planned on marrying her and she agreed because she loves me too but me mentally is the problem when i always think that she doesn’t love me and negative stuff like that… im really emotional
im so sorry you’re going through this ): definitely sounds like he just told you all of that to push off the conversation. i’ve never really understood video game addiction and im not going to pretend that i do, but i would assume it has to do with escapism? maybe ask him to go to therapy or join him there and he can potentially work on coping mechanisms so he can feel/be more present in real life. if therapy is out of the realm of possibility for y’all i would try to sit down and get to the bottom of why he feels he needs to be immersed in fantasy constantly when he has a family and now a newborn that need him.
I think you need to tell her honestly what you think about him and their relationship, because it seems to me like you're keeping most of this stuff to yourself.
I think the most important thing for her right now is to realize she's in a toxic/abusive relationship. You can help her by pointing out his behavior, but she will need time to accept it. Then more time to even consider leaving. It might take years, people work with therapists and are unable to leave.
Tell her you know she has a problem and that you'll help her get out of this wedding/relationship altogether, but she needs to want it herself. And until then, you're very sorry, but you can no longer handle hearing about him hurting her. Keep yourself in her life, just each time she tries to vent, remind her you can't handle it and end the conversation. Bringing up the previous trauma as the reason why might be a good idea.
I feel that if you’re gonna be with someone forever, you should always accept that their bodies could change. If you really don’t find her attractive anymore, I’d end it, but please don’t say it’s because of her nose. But, I love my partner so much, I don’t even think him deciding to cut his nose off would scare me away.
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I dont think that its just infatuation… i have talked to other girls before many actually, but i never really felt anything nor did i show any care for them. My current gf is the only girl that i cared about and had the most feelings for and everything! Even with the other girls i never imagined living with them for my entire life! So im pretty sure that its love! And its a little complicated i dont know how to tell you.. im a muslim and its basically a virgin and i have planned on marrying her and she agreed because she loves me too but me mentally is the problem when i always think that she doesn’t love me and negative stuff like that… im really emotional
im so sorry you’re going through this ): definitely sounds like he just told you all of that to push off the conversation. i’ve never really understood video game addiction and im not going to pretend that i do, but i would assume it has to do with escapism? maybe ask him to go to therapy or join him there and he can potentially work on coping mechanisms so he can feel/be more present in real life. if therapy is out of the realm of possibility for y’all i would try to sit down and get to the bottom of why he feels he needs to be immersed in fantasy constantly when he has a family and now a newborn that need him.
I think you need to tell her honestly what you think about him and their relationship, because it seems to me like you're keeping most of this stuff to yourself.
I think the most important thing for her right now is to realize she's in a toxic/abusive relationship. You can help her by pointing out his behavior, but she will need time to accept it. Then more time to even consider leaving. It might take years, people work with therapists and are unable to leave.
Tell her you know she has a problem and that you'll help her get out of this wedding/relationship altogether, but she needs to want it herself. And until then, you're very sorry, but you can no longer handle hearing about him hurting her. Keep yourself in her life, just each time she tries to vent, remind her you can't handle it and end the conversation. Bringing up the previous trauma as the reason why might be a good idea.
You know what they say about 10 people sitting at the dinner table with a Nazi? That it’s 11 Nazis having dinner.
Your boyfriend is a racist.