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Date: November 28, 2022
Go ahead with the Threesome and then divorce her.
Dam don't you love people like that , just makes you feel so special
She is 26 and clearly not ready to settle down , in 4 or 5 years she might see things differently
However that's nothing to do with you anymore just continue your life elsewhere , plenty of women out there who don't play bullshit games.
Do you have anywhere else you can stay are your there because it’s the only place y’all can stay together ?
Good luck OP! Hope I helped in anyway
Go now and see him. Love him. Hug him.
Maybe next time though, walk away if someone is talking about a serious commitment like marriage and you’re not ready. Obviously this guy wasn’t listening. But you were just assuming he’d conform to your life plans as well. If he wants to be married now, you both should have agreed to end the relationship much earlier.
You OP can have these boundaries. But you can’t expect other people to want to wait for relationship milestones. Be sure your next relationship is more on par with your goals.
Glad you walked away from that relationship. You’re young, and he was moving way too fast from the get go.
So sorry this is happening to you. She is having an emotional affair 100%. Even if she claims she is not, the fact that she doesn't respect your boundaries shows she doesn't give a crap about the marriage. She is taking you for granted and manipulating you. You should be her priority and not some random “bestie”. Not being intimate, not wanting couples counselling… I think it's time to sit her down and tell her you're done with her bullshit and lack of respect towards you. If she doesn't change… I think you know what you'd have to do.
She needs to start looking for rooms to rent. This isn’t your problem.
So happy for you
This is quite shouty, and possibly not helpful for OP.
It is also definitely true that after the initial six month window has passed, the effect of therapy becomes significantly reduced.
I’m sorry for OP. My grandpa had a stroke during COVID, but in a different country. Partly because he was old, but partly because my grandma knew the symptoms, he was in hospital being treated in less than 40 minutes. He then had therapy ongoing for months, out of the country’s best performing neurology department which happens to be their local one. The nurses were clear — treatment needed to happen as fast as possible and therapy taken seriously especially in the first six months. Later than that is getting towards being useless.
Today, the effects of his stroke are barely noticeable.
Your boyfriend might need to detox his brain from dopamine. You should research porn addiction. This sounds similar. It requires greater and greater levels of stimulus to get aroused / get a fix. It’s probably not that he’s not into you. It’s that he needs novelty to get aroused. That’s why he’s thinking of other girls. A break from porn, sex and masturbation can fix that. It allows the dopamine to flush out of his brain, go through the withdrawals and reset. Then he should only “do the deed” with you. No porn. No masturbation.
The title says “divorced more than once”. If that's what's going on here, then it's good to find out why those relationships ended. But if it was only one divorce, then that's not uncommon. People make mistakes when they are younger and not fully mature.
So.. not substantially overweight. Max 12kgs, 25lbs total potential weight loss. The hell are you with this clown? There seems to be a narrative in your marriage that your weight is A Problem that is Your Fault and that anything else is secondary to the Problem that is Your Responsibility. Why? Why were you perfectly good enough to marry at an overweight BMI, but not good enough now? Who gains from the narratives in your marriage?
Should have divorced her 10 years ago. Today is as good a day as any to see a lawyer. You wasted 10 years already.
Obviously I’m talking about the kid and dad but obviously the mother needs to cooperate
Why is an abortion which is not his business need to be told to him?
The truth always comes out so you may as well tell it to begin with.
Honestly I can’t deal with eating in front of episode if I don’t have something to offer them back. It just feels rude to me, so if I’m cooking dinner and people are over I always make sure to ask them if they’d like dinner bc like. I feel like an ass just tucking into dinner and leaving them staring at me and my food.
Lmao I would start calling anything he does selfish. Gaming with friends? Because he wants to be liked by others and feel good. Helping a friend in need? Because he wants to feel good about himself. Having a night out with friends? Must be because he wants to have the validation of people liking him! Giving Christmas gifts rip family and friends? Because he wants their validation he is a caring person.
I also would be kind of turned off by a partner telling me that helping my friend in a way I know I'm good at is selfish. And would tell him so.
Well the divorce rate is rising so probably moving too fast only to see the real person is and need to part ways. People don't work on things anymore either. And cheating is so common. Life's a mess??♀️
Your comment reminded me of a peer review article I read when I was working on my psychology degree and taking a counseling class.
Men who not have their kids engage in domestic violence more. Losing their kids makes some men feel emasculated and they are way more likely to beat their new romantic partner than a man that is with his children and their mother.
Obviously not all men are like this. I would not be surprised if OP’s husband is though.
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He didn't tell you that he wanted to see you, because he didn't. Probably because he felt terrible as he was sick. Do not expect a sick person to indulge your anxieties, he had bigger and temporary issue to deal with.
Are you able to insert tampons without pain? Insert your own fingers?
Have you tried inserting a toy or anything with success on your own?
If you are unable to do any of those things, it might be something called vaginismus. If you are, it might be psychological, or a lack of lubrication. Definitely use lube, but also see your doctor.
How you feel tonight, is what the rest of your life is going to look and feel like if you marry your fiance.
Anniversaries, birthdays, how about doctor's appointments? What if his brother needs him when you're going into labor with your first baby? He can't even prioritize you on YOUR WEDDING DAY!
To people who say he's nice. I mean, he's an amazing brother. But he'll never be a good husband. He literally said your future children will be used to emotionally support his brother.
It may be the hardest thing you do in your life, it will hurt like hell, but you will online a happier, healthier and more fulfilled life without him, and his brother.
Also, the gall of this man to practically leave you at the altar and then dares to comment about you making the best out of the worst situation, of his own making btw, by saying he's not okay with you taking the honeymoon trip with friends. I mean, how does he think he gets a say after what he pulled?
Your standards for how a best friend treats you are insanely low. And I mean, much less a husband.
There are many people in the world who have good qualities without being controlling, jealous, insecure, disrespectful, and generally shitty to their spouses. There are plenty of people in the world who NEVER do any of those things to their spouses. He’s one of the shitty ones who does. And I mean, if he’s got you defending and justifying his behavior for him because he has “plenty of good qualities” then he’s got no reason or motivation to change.
Almost everyone has some good qualities. That’s not rare at all, having some good qualities. It’s not valuable. What is valuable are the people who have good qualities without treating their spouses like shit. There are plenty out there. But until you start getting honest with yourself and until you have some standards about what kind of person you’re married to, you should expect that your life is going to be exactly like this, indefinitely.
You deserve better. And I think you know that deep down. But admitting that means you have to take action, deal with scary circumstances, and uproot your life. And that’s a very hot thing to do. But the thing is, what you don’t seem to realize is that all of those things are better than having a shitty spouse. Being alone is better than having a shitty spouse. Doing those things mean that at some point in the future, you have an opportunity to have a good spouse. It’s scary and difficult but has big potential for payoff. But this situation you’ve got going on now? No hope for the future.
I’m just hoping that if enough people here tell you that you deserve better than what you’ve got, maybe you’ll start believing it too
If it’s negotiable or not isn’t a problem. It’s requiring it as an act of love that makes it into a guilt trip.
That said, reading your other comments, it sounds more like you’re just super afraid of being hurt, and so you’re coming up with things that will help you feel safe. But there are so many healthier more inclusive ways to do that, then guilt trip someone.
dude u have a 10 month old baby and complain about having sex 2 times a week???? that is not your problem. in this aspect you are being extremely selfish. no wonder she wont take your argument seriously. the issue here is the baby sleeping on her own and the constant waking up being detrimental to yalls health. stop thinking about your dick and your “needs”, you have a kid now.
If they loved you this wouldn’t be happening.
Boy: Mum am I allowed to buy lollies with my pocket money .?
Mum: Under no circumstances it’s for healthy food
Boy buys lollies
i starting to think op is john mulaney ?
lol, love these fake dramatic post. Specially these that make you seem like a good guy ''She said she felt like she failed me & wasted my time. I quickly shut that down.'' lmao. Very good very entertaining 8/10.
Huh?? The mom already knows about the child.
It kind of depends on the specifics, but 23 & 18 isn't that bad.
Specifics would involve:
did they know each other before she was 18? Cause it's 100% creepy af if there was some kind of “relationship” at 21-16 or even 22-17 before they got together officially.
was she still in high school when they met? Even if she was 18 when they did first meet, it she was still in hs… that's sus for me.
But otherwise, I dunno. 23 & 18 isn't necessarily that bad. It's kind of in that grey area where the exact details and context could swing it either way for me.
She's for the streets. She failed the girlfriend test. She's acting like a garden tool. Get yourself tested for diseases and find a girl who values a monogamous relationship.
Better than a pedo mustache
When people vent to family and friends about relationships, that venting is rarely balanced. The result is often that that those people form judgements about the target of the venting. Such happened here.
Take a step back and focus on why you are upset. Is it that Cassidy doesn’t like you? That the ex goes to game night? Would it be different if it was just your GF going to a movie?
Then think about how important that is to you? Are you willing to force the issue and have Cassidy end her friendship with your GF?
You have a legitimate beef. But. Even your acknowledgment of you saying shitty things contains a justification. She wasn’t respecting your boundaries. The fact you included that in your statement suggests that in some way explains or justifies your reaction. It doesn’t.
My advice: focus more on your relationship with your gf and less on her (non-romantic) relationships with others. If you aren’t getting social interactions you need, seek that out. Or end the relationship.
Just run, you deserve better. Your kid deserves a wholesome role model, not some angry 19th century man.
Not an overreaction. You keep minimizing it to “one issue”. It's weird. Stop it. This one issue overshadows all else. He won't trust you with where he lives, that's so basic nothing else you 2 are “working on” even matters tbh
You don't know where your spouse lives and he refuses to tell you. There's no future or anything salvageable until that changes.
There still are drinks?
I wouldn't trust anyone once he stated he actually hated me.
I am jut like your boyfriend ?♀️
I don’t lie to be malicious, I lie because I had conflict, setting boundaries or making people feel inconvenienced. I would just talk to him about it and tell him that you understand why he might do it but it makes everyone’s life so much better when he can learn how to just be upfront.
Those are options, but he or someone else would have called in for him.
If the marriage license is real he lied to you about something big. And if the rest is true as well than follow the advice – run.
It's double standards and sexism and unfortunately too common.
They def did more.
Even if they came to an agreement of you take care of the bills, I'll take care of the cooking and cleaning, there's a point of where it's reasonable based on their individual ability and their idea of what providing or cleanliness is.
Just bc he agreed to support them doesn't mean she can make unreasonable demands of what kind of house, lifestyle and material possessions she wants. And in the same way, he can't expect a 100% spotless house 24/7.
Sickness happens, there are some days where it might not ne possible to get everything done. And let's not forget assuming he works a typical job that he gets weekends off by default on top of sick time and vacation. It doesn't seem like he allows the same type of leeway for her. And once the cleaning wasn't up to his standard, he starts withholding any kind of affection instead of communicating and demonstrating what he wants and listening to her issues and concerns with an open mind.
And let's not forget that she struggles with depression on top of all this. Let's say my partner and i are in a similar agreement, when they're not keeping up with their ene of the agreement, I'd be worried about them. Making sure they get the help and support they need. If he ever lost his job for whatever reason, it wouldn't be fair for her to berate him for not providing over something that wasn't in his control.
How did you get enough investments and rental properties at the age of 24 to be wealthy with no job? Are these things your parents did for you or did you previously have a job that afforded you the money for those things and then quit?
This is extremely helpful and directly answers what I was asking. I know he’s an alcoholic, so does he. That’s not it. It’s very tough when the alcoholism is strategically managed by the person and there are very hot boundaries that are never crossed. He never drives, he is never mean, he never drinks while he’s working, it doesn’t change him. I have alcoholic family members and I’ve participated in al-anon, it all focused on how this person was putting themselves at risk, putting their children’s lives at risk, putting others lives at risk, putting their job in jeopardy, it was a super easy argument to make. But this is very tricky, none of those consequences exist here. It is helpful to remember that while those consequences aren’t present now, they can definitely pop up at any time without warning and it will be too late. This is helpful, thank you so much!
If you still have his parents’ contact info have them reach out. It’s with a shot and they’ll likely want to know too. Either way good luck!
You need to be honest with everyone. You brought your “girlfriend” to be the maid/babysitter while you bang your “friend”.
Leave him and don't look back. Believe his actions not his words. 8 stayed with my ex husband for 20 years and it only got much worse over time. If he would've paid for the Uber for you and your mum he would have organized that and told you at the time, not afterwards.
Hell no to the deed and don’t allow her residency as it’ll take longer to rid yourself of her once you truly get to know her. This is RED flag no matter how you view the relationship. NO NO NO. I’ve seen to many people loose their property to this type of request
Literally do not make babies with this man. What the heck.
I'm not chasing him. As I mentioned I talked to his neighbours about what happened mainly because I didn't want him to pass out and I left anyway. The experience was shocking
I don't know if the people who post on Reddit is a skewed population but it seems a lot of women love narcissistic Alpha males with big genitalia.
Break up. Hopefully, you have travel insurance
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You can come up with an excuse for anything that way.
If a dude can't handle rejection like an adult that's his problem. Doesn't mean you should actively lie to people and encourage that behavior.
Especially if he's a greatly appreciated friend, unless that's a lie too.
Check your condoms every single time you have sex with her. Do not allow her to be in charge of pregnancy protection. She sounds very immature and you should heed the red flags.
It sounds like she is trying to take credit for something that isn't hers to take credit for, and I agree that isn't healthy in a relationship. Obviously if you paid more to make the move happen its disingenuous for her to say it's because of her that you got the house.
You two probably need to have a heart to heart about how she feels others view her and her relationship. It seems like she feels a need to prove herself to people by declaring she is doing her fair share (or more than her fair share). It seems important to her that she maintains a certain image of her relationship, and that could be coming from a place of insecurity. Maybe deep down she doesn't feel like she's doing her part, or that you don't appreciate what she's doing. I don't know.
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This is exactly what I meant ^
Only on reddit is splitting the grocery bill and trips a handout.
Doesn't even sound feasible for her to have “her own apartment,” considering she keeps chickens. I'm assuming she lives rurally. There are certainly reasons she may not want to move in with him yet, but a stranger on the internet overvaluing a life lived alone shouldn't be one of them.
Hey man. The way you’re feeling is totally normal. I also left my ex because I found out he was cheating on me after 3 1/2 years together.
It’s going to take a while to fully move on. It’s going to take a bit to be able to finally get rid of everything. And that’s okay. This period is just going to suck, you’ve just gotta head on through it.
Give yourself time to mourn the relationship and the life you had. And then try to reconnect with yourself. I’m now in a relationship with a wonderful person. The anxiety from the cheating is tough but it does go away so long as you have an understanding and secure partner.
That sounds really stressful, I'd consider what impact that is having. I'd also suggest you read the book Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski (when you can find time!). It's about women's libidos and goes over a lot of the research, including examining the impact of external factors (like stress), and how those are central to women's libidos.
I’m not readily your story but the moment you get hit the offender needs to be your ex
I’m not readily your story but the moment you get hit the offender needs to be your ex
You should ask him directly if he has another relationship going, assuming you do not want to be the 'mistress' or find out years later that he has entire family and that's where he's heading on holiday.. You're entitled to know the relationship status of people you're dating so that you can make an informed decision about whether the situation is acceptable to you or not. Sorry to say, but someone intentionally hiding things to manipulate a situation to their liking is not a good person.