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Ella & Chris, 19 y.o.
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Date: November 29, 2022
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honestly OP there's not much us could suggest here other than more open communication on your guy's part.
There's so many things that could be going on in his head; he could mean it literally in a cold way, but, giving him the benefit of the doubt it could be insecurity talking. I'm also in a LTR and the thought of losing my parter is terrifying and having suicide presented to me by him COULD feel like a liability in terms of my attachment to him.
It could be he's also upset that u didn't tell him this to begin with. That would make sense considering the liability comment now that he has a strong emotional attachment to u.
It's rlly up to u OP, we can't rlly tell u what to decide. My advice would be to talk to him more and how his comments and lack of care affect u. His reactions will tell u what his fruits are.
I'm so happy for you! ? I know it isn't much “advice”, but I'd say: Taking it really slow is a great place to start, if that's what feels right. Especially since this is all so new to both of you. Regarding the sexual aspect: There are so many different things to do together, sexually/physically. Not all men who have sex with men also enjoy anal sex (but you probably know that already). I feel like that's a pretty common misconception though. People like or don't like anal sex, and people are interested in experimenting with it/trying it out or not. If those people are men, women, non-binary folks, gay/bi/straight/queer etc. is not the deciding factor. It's just individual preference. (Obviously there's nothing wrong with liking anal sex. It's just not 'obligatory' or anything). So… with regards to sex (and anal sex especially) taking it slow is wonderful. 🙂
Plus: You two sound both very excited and nervous, so… every little thing you try out (or talk about whether you'd like to try it out) in and outside the bedroom will be super exciting anyways, I guess. 🙂 So… no need for any rush. I'd say: Breathe, enjoy the feelings, keep communicating about worries/insecurities/needs and just do what you enjoy doing together and find out what else you'd like to do together.
There are a lot of online and offline (support) groups around the topic of sexual orientation. Especially for people newly coming out to themselves (as gay or bi f.e.), who have questions or just want to feel a little less alone in a new situation (and maybe make friends, too). I don't know if these are helpful to you/if that's what you need. But there are a lot of resources/places that might help you, if parts of your experiences become overwhelming or you just want to talk to a fellow human, who has had a similiar life experience/went through something similiar to your experience. 🙂
And I find it somehow understandable that this feels more sensitive. It could be simply because it is something so new to you and also pretty unexpected, if I remember correctly from your first post. Getting to know yourself better and finding out something you didn't know yet can be a very vulnerable (and exciting!) experience. (I'm a non-binary person/trans guy, and came out to myself as bi at 24 yo and as trans-masc/non-binary at 29 yo. 🙂 And I'm queer. So… yeah. ? Muliple discoveries, one at a time ?)
I wish you all the best!
Genghis Khan was a violent rapist who has so many descendents because he didn't care whether or not women wanted to have sex with him. That's the kind of legacy you want to leave?
That sounds like some fluff from one of those relationship self help books. No one is the “prize” in a relationship. We're all settling to some degree because no one is perfect.
It’s ok to give yourself a break, do what you need to do. This will probably happen again in life where you have a crush on someone older and they can’t see you in a romantic light and then there will be times someone younger than you has a crush on you and it’s a no go for you.
This relationship is dangerously unhealthy.
It… you just sucker punched him in the shoulder. He was pestering you. That's not abuse, that's just sucker punching someone in the shoulder. If he wasn't seriously hurt and says it's fine then it's okay. I'm not saying dudes can't be abused but that doesn't sound like abuse and I wouldn't worry
I mean… it’s within you.
There's too much to change. Between the lack of attention, chores, & foreplay…overall, he's a seriously self-centered person. That's his personality, & even if he could fix it, it's going to take a lot of time. OP should NOT wait around.
Tell him. It would be fucked up not to.
…so what does he do all day? How is he making your life better? How does he contribute?
If you plan on a future together: How could that look like? Whatvdobyou want? What would have to change to reach that goal? Is that feasible?
Feom the little info you gave here, I eould seriously consider breaking up. He costs you more energy, money, effort than he returns and in my books that is simply not good enough…
Why are you asking for advice if you think you know everything? If you're in this for the “pleasure” then why are you worried about being replaced? Wait til you turn 20 and are no longer a “teen”, you might just be replaced anyway cause you're too old now. That's what gross old men that date teens usually do.
“My last Ex was a woman, does that bother you?”
It probably won’t. Don’t get sucked into a discussion of who was your best lay.
I wouldn’t mind, it’s better than “my last Ex is an underwear model”
That you both want different things which makes you incompatible. You both deserve to find someone who wants the same things you do. So, it's better to end things so you both be happy.
Then block her so she can't argue with you or try to manipulate you with tears or threats. Don't open the door if she shows up at your house. Don't talk to her at work unless you absolutely have to.
Nobody deserves to be subjected to violence
I disagree. There are a lot of people who need an azz whoopin to reorient their perspective.
Those poor women. The waxer and your wife. I know a woman who works in the beauty industry. She doesn’t work on men anymore for exactly this reason. I love that you say she “smiled casually”. Keep telling yourself that dude.
And why you felt the need to tell your wife that another woman turned you on so much you had to jack off in a public restroom is beyond me. They all knew what you were doing by the way.
I how the salon cuts you as a client and your wife leaves.
My daughter decided to wash my sons jacket for him (he didn’t ask) and didn’t check his pockets. He had her car fob. Her car wouldn’t start for 2 days, then it started but you had to hold the key against the steering column. Sometimes it wouldn’t lock or unlock. She had to get another key for $90 and pay another $191 to have it programmed. Just check the pockets.
But he still has to pay €500. Which he doesn’t have
There is NO APPROPRIATE WAY for a 55 year old to ask out a 19 year old, you absolute dumb-dumb, you mindless creep. That you would even ask that question after reading what this piece of shit said to a 19 year old girl, while she was working, and at the same place that his daughter who is 3 years older than her also works, speaks volumes about how clueless and useless you are.
His boundaries about your body are not a thing. His boundaries are crossing your boundaries. Tell him to police his own body, as you are not his property. Better yet, block him and don't look back. He is bad news, which I think you already know.
I understand tbh I want to trust this guy, just don’t have the best impressions of him just because wanting to go travelling with someone is quite an extreme step, they only knew each other 3 months prior to her meeting me. Idk I think I am being somewhat controlling I just don’t know how to get it out of me, I really want to and I think the best way for me to do so is to meet the guy. Like I trust this girl with everything and I don’t want to push her away with these silly thoughts but I can’t stop having them it’s so annoying, like one second I’m fine with it then I’m not and it’s legit the holiday thing tbh.