Basically we' re splitting up for a variety of reasons. She has valid ones, as do I. But for me the straw that broke the camel' s back was infidelity on her part. The girl never confessed this to me, it came out in a kind of uncontrolled way. We are best friends, and have a very entangled lifestyle so we are both keen to maintain cordial relations through this process and into the future.
However… throughout this entire mess I developed some pretty serious trust problems and ended up going through her phone. Suspicions were verified, affair was not limited like she had said unfortunately he ongoing. When I found this out I abandoned attempts to reconcile things and agreed to end it. I think this is probably what the lady wanted, not necessarily because of the affair (that relationship can' t/won' t go anywhere) but for other reasons.
It is my hope that we can be civil and friendly throughout this process, yet she is continuing to be deceitful about this.
I' m in a weird position mainly because I can' t become hurt by her informing me the truth, but I believe she' s holding to " protect" me : and the other person included. I think it would be best for everybody if the truth was out there, but I' m worried about admitting to snooping since that' s pretty banged up too. And it' s a bit of a cat out from the bag situation. Once I' ve admitted to that and she' s forced to admit that she was ongoing the affair then exactly what little trust is still left is gone. Which is not going to be great when it comes to having several semblance of friendship continuing to move forward, not to mention division of resources and all that.
Anyway… input is much appreciated.
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