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Date: December 9, 2022
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NTA.
She needs to take a self-defense class if she wants to fight everyone. Otherwise, she doesn't need to tell the world her past. Everyone has a past. Not everyone needs to know about it. Geez, keep your history to yourself unless it's going to do someone good. Tell them the amount they need to know, no more. You can't trust people with your skeletons.
Thank you for your response & I agree very much with a lot of your points. I am hesitant to get married/move in with him because of this issue. I also have little/no interest in having a child but now specifically because of his family, I am in the camp of, “yeah, we’re definitely not having a kid until this shit is smoothed out if ever” but I am perfectly content if I don’t have a kid either. If/when we discuss children more seriously (we have on occasion but generally it’s been “not interested/not right now”) I do plan on bringing that factor up. Having been a child of both parents and extended family at odds with each other — I do not want to put that on someone else ever.
As far as what he says to his family/friends, I don’t know the specifics, however, I do know he says he defends me quite a bit. I do trust that he does, however, I do agree that I need to have him expand on that.
He’s also inferred they don’t say nice things about me but he’s also said he doesn’t want to convey specifics to me. Part of me wants to know, part of me doesn’t. He says he does shut down those things though, which again, I do believe he is doing, I just don’t know how he is.
He’s also aware his family is manipulative (huge issues with “flying monkeys”, keeping secrets, overlooking shit that should not be overlooked) but I think he’s not quite aware to the extent that they are.
I have turned down many other guys waiting for my ex and it’s starting to affect my mental health. Neither do I want to spend any more time waiting to be in a relationship with him again. I have started to talk to another guy, who I told my ex about and he got mad at me. He said I bring negativity into his life and I should consider myself lucky to have him in my life
That is the nail the coffin right there.
And look, what I would like to tell people caught up in this situations… STOP listening to what the other person is willing to offer you.
Instead, start focusing on yourself and what you want.
If you want a real relationship… from the sounds of it, you won't be finding it here with your ex.
All that is going on is that he will keep you close enough to make you feel engaged, but far enough so you don't have the relationship… Its a dead end.
Additionally… this comment:
He said I bring negativity into his life and I should consider myself lucky to have him in my life
Is toxic.
To me, it shows how unhealthy things are with you and your ex. Stop clinging onto empty promises.
If your ex was serious about you, he would step up and demonstrate that here and now. Even if that includes “Hey, I have a lot of shit going on, but here are the steps I am taking to overcome it”… Something that makes you stop guessing about the outcome.
And for the future… On and offs… rarely work out.
I think its time to accept things for what it is.. and move on completely.
Love shouldn't do this to you:
Starting to affect my mental health.
That is not a healthy version of love.