Look, you were raised by a critical parent, it's ingrained in you. You can't just change overnight. It's almost like a trigger. He does something and you just say it without thinking it. It's very hot to train your brain to pause and think about it and not say something. You should see a therapist.
I too was raised like you. I see a therapist. I'm still struggling but I've gotten better. If it's something that is upsetting enough or causing anxiety I slip with my husband.
With my daughter I've been way more successful, and I think it's cause as soon as I want to, I remember that I dont want her to feel like she can't do anything. But I'm also conflicted because I also want her to learn too if she makes a mistake so I'm very choosy for when I do speak up.
Guy is obvs a sleepfapper. Seen it a million times.
You're a place holder. He wants to be with her.
Look, you were raised by a critical parent, it's ingrained in you. You can't just change overnight. It's almost like a trigger. He does something and you just say it without thinking it. It's very hot to train your brain to pause and think about it and not say something. You should see a therapist.
I too was raised like you. I see a therapist. I'm still struggling but I've gotten better. If it's something that is upsetting enough or causing anxiety I slip with my husband.
With my daughter I've been way more successful, and I think it's cause as soon as I want to, I remember that I dont want her to feel like she can't do anything. But I'm also conflicted because I also want her to learn too if she makes a mistake so I'm very choosy for when I do speak up.
Guessing u dont have renters insurance.