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Date: December 10, 2022
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Giant red flag, this is a HUGE indicator that she is not someone you want to spend your life with or even put anymore time into
From your post history, I strongly recommend you to go to therapy. You gonna have a lot of problems in the future if you don’t get help now kid.
I’m going to age myself here but what’s a femboy?
Yikes, if he was this pushy now, imagine how pushy he would be after the marriage? He would've probably babytrapped you in no time. You're relieved, because you escaped a life of emotional inprisonment
I do think, to a degree, he cares. He may not understand the severity of your needs now because you slept on it and have been okay. He may not care or take you seriously, which is significant of other problems. We don’t know you, him, or your relationship. Work, in that instant, may have seemed more of a priority/need to fulfill. Communicate and ask about this, but most importantly, take an Uber or call a friend to take you in.
People like you disgust me. Lots of people piss me off. But you are a genuine POS. I hope you get dropped very hot by that girl. I don't know her but she 100% deserves better than you.
Officially breaking up with someone and emotionally breaking up with them, are two different things. Which one was it?
Your original comment says – “I had emotionally broken up with him prior to that and had found my current boyfriend of 5 years. To me I don't consider it cheating as I had tried to leave multiple times”
Yup she feels disgusted by porn, am so confused idk what to do
I know, that would be good. Maybe it's the way he worded this story which makes me feel very skeptical of him. We aren't being told the important details, just what he wants us to know, and I think he posted this for validation rather than to receive actual help.
have you had sex in a previous relationship?
when ppl say, “dont stick your dick in crazy,” theyre referring to a category of lovers who dont engage in healthy relationship dynamics. there’s a spectrum ranging from annoying to batshit pathological. i believe ur being engaged by someone who is indeed crazy, maybe not batshit but you’re describing someone who treats u a little mean and thats, to me, an indication that your experience with her will involve emotional pain.
it seems to me like shes challenging your virility maybe in a strange way to arouse u to flex your virility into her. sorry if im sounding kinda awkward describing it, but her approach itself is awkward which is why youre confused enough to post on reddit,
she wants you and shes meanly trying to inspire “the manly side” of you to fuck her. i hope you realize that this is not the healthiest way to put pressure on a lover. just my perspective.
you might have a lot of fun if you engage with her sexually. but with mean people, emotional pain is on the table. thats just how it is
That seems like all the more reason to bring this to the friend’s attention. I’d want to know if someone was using my pictures to catfish people.
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Seriously, what the fuck did I just read lol
Am female. Didnt read your whole post just the start of each dot point. No none of these are female things. They are Asshole things though, gender does not play a role. Ill explain how I am in all those scenarios
Bad day : I inform people its a bad day for me, I need a snuggle and apologize if Im a bitch in advance because I dont mean to be. Just check on me and give me a snuggle every now and again. Sometimes I will have a bitch about someone occasionally…but would rather talk about crazy things like reddit, conspiracy theories going around or cute puppies and kitties. I dont give a fuck if females stand close to my partner…unless they are using him as a stripper pole. sometimes im wronged, sometimes ive been wrong…not every day. My favorite thing is to celebrate everything people do in my life. You made a recipe for the first time? Oh I am so fucking proud of you. Love sex with my partner!
Your ex sounds just a positive energy black hole, sucking the happiness of all around her. Congrats on choosing happiness, I am so proud of you. It takes a lot to leave a relationship, even a bad one.
Red flag
I was 22 and my partner 28 when we met, do I worry lol
Been together since, have been married for 7
When I said “true” I meant “real” rather than “falsely-labeled” which term is often loosely thrown around Reddit by I'll-informed people. Anyway, I'm done with the convo. Nothing more to say.
When you apologize, you’ve given her the moral high ground, even though she deserved worse than what you gave. Your husband is correct, however. You should have set clear boundaries earlier and not let it build. Now you know with a lesson learned. My suggestion is to send one more message acknowledging that you shouldn’t have shouted in public, yet she shouldn’t have been so derogatory about your marriage. Let her know that you won’t tolerate further remarks about your husband or marriage, and that you are willing to move past it if she is. Otherwise, you don’t need that negativity. Saying “Oh, she’s just blunt” doesn’t excuse someone from being a jerk.
Yes you are being creepy. Also this isn't r/aita
I'm not trying to shift blame. I completely owned up to my mistake in the post and said I was in the wrong for that situation.
But I am still valid for feeling some type of way for her going through my phone. I never said one offense is worse than the other or that they cancel each other out.
I'd pass. It seems very superficial and missing the more important part: your health and well-being.
Asian beauty standards are whack, better to be unapologetically accepting of yourself…and that confidence will radiate beauty that even Asian beauty standards can't deny haha.
Don't let his judgement (which that backhanded comment certainly is) be brushed off with excuses! Even when you know it's not true or don't agree, it's a negative mentality that could erode self-esteem over time.
I am Asian and 174cm (basically 5'9). My healthy athletic weight would be in the 140s range.
When I was in my twenties, I'd often be in the 130s range…there was one point where I was low 130- 127 lbs due to living with my parents briefly for half a year. My mom's diet is super lean and healthy with strict portion control and 5x week exercise (swimming, yoga, Tabata, Zumba).
By Asian weight standards, I probably was “ideal” but my BMI was low, almost below range.
I remember being scarred as a young teenager one time in Asia overhearing these two women call me fat (not realizing I could understand them…for some reason Asians always think I'm mixed even though both my parents are the same Asian ethnicity). Looking back, I was definitely never overweight as I always played sports and our family ate super healthy and organic due to my dad's genetic high blood pressure/cholesterol.
My husband who is Caucasian has always complimented and encouraged my body to be healthy strong. He finds toned muscles way more attractive. I have an actual butt and more hourglass figure. We push each other to exercise for physical and mental health reasons first and foremost.
Find someone who is more supportive. Someone who appreciates you and pushes you for the right reasons.
She knows she got you the gift, and she knows it will most likely arrive. I’m sure that at this point she knows she can’t return it for a refund, and I’m willing to bet she doesn’t want it and she doesn’t particularly care whether it arrives or not. I say give her the gift of not contacting her on Valentine’s Day when you just broke up.
So you're in a relationship with someone who has no job, no money, no home, no ambitions, multiple dependencies, and asks you to make him a sammich. What could possibly go wrong?
Less complicated this way! ?
“As a male doctor in my 30's, I've tried finding some e-girls to date, but I've been turned down 3 times now. I'm very assertive but they get creeped out when I'm staring at them. One of my friends told me I'm sending the wrong vibes. I go to a concert and talk to them and they say they aren't interested in dating me, but then I see them go home with someone else!!! How is this happening and why can't I get exactly what I want from these people?”
/s for anybody who didn't realize I'm joking and this is a satirization
She hates therapy or drugs. I know she is walking around eggshells. Normally she is overly argumentative, yells when talking, and yells more when arguing so meaningful talks are something we never had. I get so triggered I lock myself in a room to calm down.
What will that do exactly? The state of family law in the westwon't take anything like this into consideration.
So don’t answer the phone? Block him, tell your parents, and take safety measures. Having the police have a word might not be a bad idea.
You should write a list of gifts you want and stick them on the fridge, and email them to him and discuss them daily leading up to your bday etc. Men are bed at hints. Don’t be general. Tell him what you want, where to buy it, how many days it takes to be delivered, what colour and what size.
I’m not someone that blindly believes someone loves me because they say so, or that saying it is enough. Abuse is definitely not love and I’ve argued with my ex about it several times. But his perception of love was very tainted and NOT love..that also stemmed from his own trauma and believing that love is something that it isn’t. I tried to get him to unlearn that but I can’t help someone that doesn’t help themselves. I did judge him based off how I was treated and I did a lot to show him what love is not. I also called him out on his behaviour and showed him several posts by psychiatrists and therapists about abuse and manipulation. But it’s definitely not my job to teach someone how to love me. He needed professional help but he was convinced he only needed me to show him love. I knew what I was going through and it made me extremely dissociative because I couldn’t believe it. I’m not interested in developing a trauma bond with people nor do I need to be loved by someone. I know what people go through in relationships and what is and isn’t unacceptable. I’m not as naive as you’re making me out to be and have a pretty good understanding of types of abuse that are used to manipulate women. If someone I knew went through this I would tell them the same thing everyone has been advising me to do. I’m still in shock that I went through this because I never imagined this would be a situation I’d be in. Thankfully I wasn’t oblivious to the abuse and I know full well that I’d never treat anyone the way I was treated. I know what love is and this experience hasn’t changed how I feel about love. I know what he showed me wasn’t love
Then argue calmly. Tell her you don't want to fight but you won't be a doormat for something inappropriate like that.
Side note, if she refuses to hear you out you need to break up.
I hope you don't need that $1,100. Because this is your moment to learn that wretched life lesson we all learn sooner or later – never loan anyone money that you can't afford never to get back. Because she is never going to pay it back. Even if you stay in a relationship, she is never going to pay it back. And, she will also have no problem asking you for more.
You are the gift that keeps on giving, and I think your eyes have been opened to that fact. Truly, it's time to get out of this relationship before she guilts you into buying her a car or something else she can't live without. Or to co-sign for something (which is even more dumb than loaning money).
Lastly, I'm going to give you a piece of advice I give to my dating friends: Never date a single parent. Because you aren't just dating the parent. You are also (as you have discovered) dating their kid and likely their kid's parent.
Your boyfriend should definitely defend you, but I want to know how does the kid he's playing with know you're black?
Does he just go around telling random people about his black girlfriend while playing Xbox? Is he playing with his friends?
Historically there have been garbage people taking part in live gaming and just spewing slurs even if they didn't know the recipient's race. It doesn't excuse the kid saying anything about you, but I find it strange that the kid is even acknowledging you while playing. It just seems very odd.
You shouldn't need to defend yourself against your boyfriend's family and friends. If you find yourself resenting him now, I can't imagine your boyfriend changing his attitude if he deems you have solved it by yelling at someone else.
OP This is beyond repair, is not only a ” last time adventure” before marriage, no, this was a gull blow affair, she doesn't respect you and don't love you so.much as she says. You need to cancel the weeding right now and follow the advices about telling everyone the real reason about, return gifts and cancel vendors.
But be prepared for the backslash, she, her family and friends probably will try to gaslight you about this and make you forget her because she is going to lose her source of income and she will lie about how she suddenly ” see the light” , how everything was a mistake, it was not what it looked , is was just phase, etc.
Do not take her back, apply the 180 and kick her out of your life, youndeserve better OP.
In any case, now that it's been a week I think it's totally reason to double text him. Something like, “Hey, are you still interested? Totally cool if not.”
Why aren’t you both solving the problems?
What are you ‘doing wrong’ and why?
Wait, so he personally spent $17k? When did he get into this? Sounds weird to me but I was raised Christian. Some think its a bad idea to couple with ppl of different beliefs on religion/God. Does tend to create issues. U havent asked questions here so I dont know what else to say.
What are the concerns regarding a large age gap. If you are unaware and unable to think them through (whether you feel they apply or not) then why would you be concerned. You just have no clue.
It’s nice you share passions but that doesn’t change that issue in the slightest.
So you’ve let him break up with you multiple times
He's a controlling a-hole and too old for you in any case. You can do better!!!
Men understand not wanting to talk about stuff. Just give him a big hug, saw you know about last week but you don't want to talk about it.
She's 26 years old. It's her wisdom teeth not an amputation. You've took 3 days of your own holidays to look after her. She's not your room mate she's your tenant. Your not her mother. And no wonder she's struggled to find somewhere to live.
Stop being soft, your not doing her any favours and your certainly not doing yourself any favours.
Your a great person. She's either taking serious advantage of this and / or she is a spoilt brat and / or she's having some sort of mental breakdown.
Tell her to grow up or move out.
I can understand leaving if he abandoned the child, cheated, or lied about it to her. I can even understand leaving if she has no interest in children but she obviously does. It’s a bizarre reaction for someone who felt they were in a loving trusting relationship. Especially giving no reason or interest in counseling.
This was my guess too. It sucks, but it's a lose-lose situation.
If your partner is gonna get upset if you tell them what your doing….. It's a good indicator that you shouldn't be doing it.
Listen, i am tired so I'll give you my “16 years of deling with guys” talk.
This isn't worth it. He genuinely isn't. You are not being mean HE IS. You're not rude – HE IS.
Dump him and borrow some books on healthy relationships and learn to love and respect yourself before you enter a relationship so you don't ever have to settle for an ain't shit man ever again
I have suggested doing this, but Anna often tries to get out of it by saying how long the trains are (3 hour journey, and pushes us to change the plans to her city
Not quite how proportional division works though! See here with some easy numbers:
Him: 3000/month Her:15,000/month
Proportional income = his income/her income
3000/15000 = 3/15 = 1/5
If rent is 5,500/month, then proportionally his contribution should be:
5500*(1/5) = 5,500/5 = 1,100
So 1500 is a bit higher but probably also covers utilities etc