We (19F) was invited to get a family dinner at my (23M) boyfriend' s house.
Every thing was great and I be friends with his family really well, they' re very kind to me.
After the dinner we were many sitting in the living room watching television, it was just me, my boyfriend, his parents great younger brother (20M).
At some point his brother gets upward and goes to his space and returns with a footwear box, it wasn' big t wrapped and apparently no one knew about this because they questioned what' s going on.
He or she said it' s for me personally and handed me this, it was shoes/sneakers that I described a while ago. He has the same ones and I said they look cool, so he decided to buy them for me as a present.
I didn' t understand what to think but I was really appreciative of the gesture plus thanked him several times, each goes for about $200 currently and am really felt he shouldn' t have spent that will money on this, but regardless what' s done is performed and I wasn' t likely to cause a scene in front of everyone. His parents seemed to have found it amusing as well and the only one who was upset had been my boyfriend.
Later when we were going home I actually realised he' s getting quiet which is unusual just for him. I asked what' s wrong and he went on a rant saying that I actually shouldn' t have accepted the shoes, that it' s i9000 weird he bought me personally the same shoes he has, he also said he' ersus quite sure the brother likes me for a while currently and that' s the reason why he did it. I tried my best to diffuse the problem and I said we can all discuss it together this weekend break when we see eachother once again, but he wants to terminate the Christmas dinner we have been supposed to have with his family members over this.
To be honest, certain it' s a bit uncommon that he decided to get me an unprompted gift (he said it' s not really a Christmas gift), and if he really felt he had to get them, he probably should' ve chosen a different color or something just therefore it doesn' t look because odd as it does, although he probably went from my comment that their shoes are cool that i made couple months back and wanted to do something nice since we' re type of family at this point.
My boyfriend still insists his brother has ulterior motives which I' m enabling it, it' s getting really annoying. I feel that he' s blaming me regarding something his brother made a decision to do.
I even mentioned I' ll return the particular damn gift if it' ll make him happy, which I honestly don' to really want to do. Not because of the shoes themselves but I feel that the parents and sibling might see it as me personally being ungrateful or not rising the gesture.
I told him the two of them should also talk about this in private and discuss boundaries because he certainly has a problem with his conduct and he should tell him that himself and not use me personally as a middleman.
We' ve been arguing over this for two days already, because the dinner. And his words bad worse and way harmful every time, last night he told me to go be with his sibling instead after I said I honestly don' t understand why he' s (my boyfriend) acting the way he is. He won' t speak to me personally now and I' m really confused.
TLDR: The boyfriend is mad due to the fact his brother gifted myself shoes.
UPDATE: I' m still getting the silent treatment from my boyfriend. I tried to talk and ask again to reach the bottom of the issue with each other but he didn' capital t say anything. I also said I' m willing to come back the shoes but he must talk with his brother about this. He didn' t react.
I left the house a couple hours ago to clear me and while I was at the gym the brother called me, fundamentally my boyfriend told your pet to take his dumb ass shoes back and to stay aside. (Which makes no feeling because we go to their family' s house each week for dinner).
Anyway, I' m quite upset. This individual didn' t want to talk to me and then he begins picking fights with his sibling without trying to resolve the particular conflict first. Not to mention Personally i think he' s being quite harsh and controlling to both of us.
I really don' t know what I' lmost all do now, but it appears to me he just doesn' t want to work this out together. I dislike that this happened over the holidays as well, because his mother was really excited we' lmost all all be spending Christmas jointly. I' ll keep wanting to talk to him but I' m out of ideas and hope for our relationship at this stage.
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