Tell her. I know it's scary, but if she has a problem with that, she is not for you. A caring mature woman, would not have a problem with you being a virgin. Opening up about it, will make you feel safer about her and will make sure that it will be a better experience for you.
Tell her your expectations, what will help you etc. Ask her if there is anything she likes.
I strongly recommend starting with petting and learning what her and your body likes.
Also, there is plenty of nice sources on-line about slow sex, building connection, tips how to finger woman and so on.
And also, if you don't have enthusiastic consent, don't go for it. If she freezes, seems uncomfortable etc, ask if all is OK, if not enthusiastic answer, stop. If you don't feel ready or comfortable, stop. Sex should be pure joy, connection and fun for both people, not a chore.
If he isn't a teacher, I have less of an issue here. They were both consenting adults.
I do have some follow-up questions though, is he religious? Was this an arranged thing through her parents? I've seen this happen in Baptist homeschool groups, the males go off get careers and the girls finish off high school and they come back and marry the 18 year olds. It's weird as hell, it's arranged marriages in America for all intent and purpose.
Tell her. I know it's scary, but if she has a problem with that, she is not for you. A caring mature woman, would not have a problem with you being a virgin. Opening up about it, will make you feel safer about her and will make sure that it will be a better experience for you.
Tell her your expectations, what will help you etc. Ask her if there is anything she likes.
I strongly recommend starting with petting and learning what her and your body likes.
Also, there is plenty of nice sources on-line about slow sex, building connection, tips how to finger woman and so on.
And also, if you don't have enthusiastic consent, don't go for it. If she freezes, seems uncomfortable etc, ask if all is OK, if not enthusiastic answer, stop. If you don't feel ready or comfortable, stop. Sex should be pure joy, connection and fun for both people, not a chore.
If he isn't a teacher, I have less of an issue here. They were both consenting adults.
I do have some follow-up questions though, is he religious? Was this an arranged thing through her parents? I've seen this happen in Baptist homeschool groups, the males go off get careers and the girls finish off high school and they come back and marry the 18 year olds. It's weird as hell, it's arranged marriages in America for all intent and purpose.