I’m very casually viewing a new guy who I’ve known for 2/3 months today. Things have progressed slowly and he’s been actually sweet, kind, patient, simply lovely company. But all of us kissed just over a week ago, and since then, he’s not had the opportunity to be around me plus it not be sexual. It’s extremely overwhelming. I can’t even have a conversation with your pet anymore without him turning it sexual.
He is never had a girlfriend before and is not very sexually knowledgeable about women as a result. We’ve grinded on eachother while making out, but even then it turns way too heavy and rough from him, plus he’s a lot bigger than me personally so the force he uses ends up hurting me and am have to tell him to stop plus slow down. We gave eachother head, and he was so aggressive with me that the back again of my throat ached for days, not in a good way. I told him he needed to be more gentle beside me, and to remember that sex is something we do together and he has to think about exactly how I’m going to be receiving it, and that it’s not nearly him fucking me roughly. He was surprised, and felt really bad, plus said he’s only actually learnt sex through porno. If that’s the case, this shows. I don’t want to have to teach a 30 year old how you can have sex with a woman.
We’ve slept in the same bed, nothing sexual has happened though, cos this individual was so unable to stop touching my body (my as well as arms) through the night, as a result not really letting me sleep (I told him I had to get up early for function so I’d have to sleep that night, I allow him to stay round cos We trust him and all the particular busses back to his experienced stopped for the night), and totally killing the disposition. I told him We felt really anxious having to tell him to stop and “no“ repeatedly all night. Again he said sorry and that this wasnt the first time he’d been told that, and that he’d try to control himself a lot more around me. He stated he’s just too thrilled. Which would be sweet if this hadnt all made myself so uncomfortable. I’m not really looking forward to having sex with your pet anymore, which I’m unhappy about.
I’m so baffled. I feel like I’m losing my time being made unpleasant by him, but I love him in every other factor. He honestly might be the main one, THAT’S how much I like him otherwise. I don’t know basically should keep being patient with him, but I also don’t want to be his learning curve for how to have sex with women.
TLDR: After we kissed for the first time, he started getting very uncomfortably sexual plus it’s making me confused. He hasn’t had a lot experience with sex with ladies outside of porn and he is actually rough with me, and feels bad for it when I let him know this. I like him but don’t know if I’m wasting my time being hurt physically by him. I don’t want to be his teacher meant for sex, but he is perfect in every other way.
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