It just happened two days ago. She has been at a party with some associated with her colleagues so we didnt talk that night. We are not living together at the moment because she is at the client' s location for a 30 days to complete a project. Well the girl called me in the morning, crying and crying and saying she committed a horrible error while drunk. I questioned her to calm down plus tell me everything. Honestly the thought of cheating didnt cross my mind, I thought maybe she mistook her kitchen to get bathroom or ordered some thing dumb while drunk. But she kept crying after which said there was a friend who was being very sexy with her and she involved back with him, it upset me but I think ok if its exactly that then maybe we can discuss it. And then she decreased the bomb on me, saying that she actually acquired sex with him. The lady was actually calling me personally while she was strolling out of his room.
I used to be shocked, I didnt understand what to say as I have never been in this situation before so I told her we will talk later. Then I received a bunch of messages from her where she had been apologizing and telling myself how the night went. First it started with gentle flirting, then he started requesting her for sex plus ended with her on his bed. She kept saying she didnt want to have sex with him, but then why would you go to his space? Why not go to your own space and sleep it away. She says in the girl drunk mind it was the only method to shut him upward, like wtf. She is also very adamant that she has been pressured into sex by him repeatedly asking and thats why she provided in.
My brain is fried Reddit, I dont know what to think anymore. And I truthfully dont trust my own choices anymore. So please give me some sane advice here.
Edit/Update- Thank you for all of the advice here. I think I knew I had to breakup with her but required some validation. She made a lot of choices, including going to his room willingly. So what happened in that room, only two people know. But seeing her choices leading up to the minute when the door to his room was closed, its clear she has really bad boundaries and she lacks self control. I dont want to police her and what occurs someone asks her persistently to cheat? I dont want to deal with this kind of panic, call me selfish. Yet I know myself. So I are determined to breakup.
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